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DEALING WITH LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE : WORKING TOWARDS A HAPPIER RELATIONSHIP
Some of you in your relationships may be in a situation where one partner wants or wishes for sex much lesser than the other partner. We’ve written an article that extensively describes low sexual desire – what contributes to it and what one can do about it.
NUCLEAR FAMILIES – AN ADVANTAGE FOR CHILDREN?
I often come across parents of nuclear families these days that are juggling between work, home, and baby- sitters. They constantly ponder about the fact
UNDERSTAND TEENAGE SUICIDE: GET INTO THEIR SHOES
A classmate of mine in school and college successfully hung herself from a fan… It was devastating… Years later here I am-a psychologist- with several hundred sessions of having heard the teenagers side of the story-the hopelessness, helplessness and the frustrations. When Rediff asked me to write about teenage suicide, everything came together 🙂
INDIAN MARRIAGE: STRAINED BY CHANGING WOMEN’S ROLES?
Marriages today are under duress and we all know that. The statement has been true for the past decade or so for a number of countries and India follows suit. The number of couples I see for therapy have at least quadrupled in the last decade.
WHY ACCEPT A PROBLEM?
What’s common between a daughter-in-law devastated by her mother-in-laws behaviour, a man who cannot bear the boredom of his work anymore, a parent who is terribly stressed because his child refuses to study, a man who cannot believe he has lost his wife so suddenly, and a woman who is overwhelmed because she has been diagnosed with breast cancer?
As I see it, a few things …
The situation is grave
It has taken the joy out of life
Most of the day and sometimes a good part of the night is spent in thinking about the problem and thinking how to resolve it
A sense of being stuck, and trapped- a feeling that I cannot get out of this…
Do you feel like this about some situation of your life?
SIMPLE WAYS TO BE IN THE PRESENT
I recently wrote an article on why our minds do not like to remain in the here and now. I now move on to elaborate how we can better manage to stay in the present. Read each step slowly and mindfully 🙂
FOCUSING EXCESSIVELY ON PROGRESS : HOW WE CONTRIBUTE TO OUR STRESS AT WORK – II
In the previous section of this blog post, we described how you can identify if you are stressed because you are focusing too much on progress. In this section, we first dwell on why we sub-consciously develop this mindset. Then, we move on to describe what we can do to avoid over-focusing on progress.
What’s The Big Deal About Being In The Present?
The mind as we all know is a faculty within us that has the capacity to stray and wander. It does not stay with what is present. There is no wonder then that it has been compared with a wild elephant or an untamed monkey. I would say it’s like a hungry animal that needs stimulating food for its palate all the time. Whenever it doesn’t get enough interesting stuff, it searches in another place.
FOCUSING EXCESSIVELY ON PROGRESS : HOW WE CONTRIBUTE TO OUR STRESS AT WORK
Have you been experiencing stress at work? It’s possible that you have had a number of discussions with your colleagues about how stressful work is. Pay close attention to these discussions. What do they revolve around? Deadlines, budget restraints, high demands, salaries? Other people at work… your bosses, colleagues, juniors stressing you out?
What about “YOU”? We mean “YOU” as being a source of stress…
Doesn’t sound very good, isn’t it? After all why would you cause stress to yourself?
And yet you do! Actually most of us do!… Allow us to explain…
RECOGNIZING YOUR TRIGGERS : A TECHNIQUE TO CONTROL ANGER
If you are easily upset, angry or worried, chances are that you often try to control your emotions but they just burst forth, drenching and
COMMUNICATING WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY: TIPS FOR TEENAGERS
If you find yourself getting angry and irritated easily and are ready to ‘give it back’ most of the time, you are also probably quite bottled up inside. Few people seem to understand you and most brand you as an ‘angry teen’. You may have tried ‘controlling your anger’ and ‘being less angry’ but may not have succeeded to your satisfaction (and those of others). Often, what we do to manage aggression is try “not to get angry” even when we are actually angered. Think about it. It’s like mom is repeatedly saying something to you, you’re fuming within but try to “be calm” and mask your anger. No wonder then that you end up snapping or yelling at her despite not wanting to. What we actually doing here is ‘controlling’ or attempting to suppress our anger. It’s like trying to shut an overstuffed suitcase. Suppression is never healthy, it only breeds sadness, frustration and makes us feel that the people around us are unfair.
UNDERSTANDING FEELINGS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Why is it Important to Understand Feelings ? Many of us often wonder how to make our relationships more harmonious. We probably even zero-in on communication in