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Is counselling for psychologically ill people or those with mental disorders? / If I require counselling, does that mean I’m not “normal?”

Normalcy is perhaps one of the most hyped myths. There is no definition of normalcy. It consists of perhaps a group of personal reactions and situations that society finds desirable. However, all of us deviate from that standard in some or the other way. Requiring counseling simply means you are perhaps in a situation, which may be an external or internal situation, where you are confused and disturbed and you need help to work with that situation.

What is counseling?

Saying it simply, counselling is consulting with a therapist who is an objective, non-judgmental and professionally trained person, with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and feelings. This helps you to understand yourself better and helps you to address your emotional difficulties in a more adaptive fashion. These difficulties could be something you are facing in day to day life, a situation you are unable to deal with, a decision you find difficult to make, a relationship you find difficult to handle, a past you are unable to get over or emotions and feelings you find difficult to accept and deal with.

Counselling involves a relationship with the therapist, based on trust and honesty from both sides. All interactions you have with the therapist are extremely confidential and in no way will be revealed to anyone, however close to you, unless you explicitly request the therapist for the same. It is obligatory for the therapist to be absolutely honest with you too.

What to expect from counseling?

Any emotional problem or difficulty has its roots in our inner nature. Our feelings depend on how we think about ourselves, others and our situations. Often we think in ways that are not rational or we think about situations mistakenly. This is not because we are “foolish” or “wrong” in any way but because we have learnt to think of certain things only in certain ways. Being professionally trained to be unbiased and objective, a therapist is able to help you look at the negative or irrational patterns of thinking, which provides you with some clarity of perspective and helps you, deal with the problem more effectively. In addition, the psychotherapist is able to provide you with tools and techniques to work on those difficulties.

When you expect a magical or a quick fix solution from counselling, there is space for disillusionment. It is a slow process where you first accept that some changes are required within you and you progressively work at making those changes. Expecting the therapist to make your decisions or solve your problems will lead to your disappointment. She does not make your decisions, but helps you make and accept your own decisions and trust in them.

She is a support system for you. In your worst moments, your therapist will stand by you without judging you for your mistakes; however, she will also point out when there are mistakes.

How long will counseling last?

Entering the counselling process is entering into a new relationship with your therapist. Who is to say how long that relationship should last? Since counselling is a means of exploring your self and identifying your inner patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving, which have developed over years, it would take counselling at least a few months to help you understand a different way of addressing them. It is not for the therapist to set a deadline for counseling. It depends entirely on your inner feeling about the positive change you perceive within yourself.

(I have some people who have been with me for years. Initially they saw me once a week but now they come in once in 2-3 months just to recheck whether they are looking at a problem rationally or if the approach they are using to address the problem is objective.

Also some are just happy to know that I am around in case they need me, even though they are doing too well to have to see me professionally.)

How do I know when I am ready to discontinue counseling?

When you feel confident, are able to decide for yourself and feel like seeing your therapist less often, you are ready to discontinue. Abruptly putting a halt to counselling is not encouraged; instead a gradual decrease in the frequency of the sessions is suggested as a better option. However, you can be honest with the therapist regarding how you feel about discontinuing and come to a decision regarding what can be most beneficial for you.

 

Can I be friends with my therapist?

The therapist is your friend. She has your concern the closest to her heart. However, she is a professional and like every profession, being a therapist too comes with a code of dos and don’ts. Hence you pay for her time with you. Most of the time involved in therapy is focused on dealing with your emotional difficulties. However you can occasionally talk to her about your and her hobbies, passions and interests, provided they are not a means of keeping the primary issue at bay. If and when she feels that is happening, she would be sure to let you know. Also if you wish to call her when you are unable to deal with some feeling or situation and if it is a brief talk, you may. If it requires some length of time for discussion you would need to request for a sooner appointment.

Will I get dependent on my therapist?

On the contrary! Therapy aims at making you independent and helps you to believe in your own decisions and accept their consequences. During the initial stages of psychotherapy, however, you may feel like seeing your therapist often. You may feel uneasy if she is not available as per your requirements. That is primarily because you have started to look at your difficulties in a different light, which is making you uneasy and confused and you need her for reassurance. It is also because you are glad to have that new found support and you feel less lonely with her around. This is however only initial and will wear off in a few months as your belief in yourself increases and as you feel more comfortable being yourself in front of others. Remember, counseling is not a crutch for weak people. People who choose it are those who have set out to make a difference to their lives by initiating change rather than passively waiting for situations to change.

Is my therapist emotionally involved with me? / Does my therapist really care for me?

Your therapist is as human as you are and so your problems do touch her. Hers is a caregiver’s role. She cares for you deeply because she sees herself now in a role where she needs to ensure your well-being. At the same time, she is also equally cares for all the other people she is seeing simultaneously. Hence, she may at times be busy for you, may not be able to attend to you immediately, may not receive your calls instantly and this may make you feel less cared for. That, needless to mention, is untrue. You make her a part of your life and trust her with your innermost thoughts. Be certain, she respects that and will not be careless with you. However, you must talk to her about the way you feel, if you feel she is less involved.

What is group therapy?

Group therapy consists of a session conducted with a group of people. This group of people may be matched in terms of the problems they face or any other parameter that the therapist feels will be beneficial. The therapist may choose this group of people because she feels that they may be able to benefit each other by a sharing of their concerns and group dynamics will help them to deal more effectively with their own problem areas.

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Hello,

Yes, definitely! Therapy facilitates self-awareness which can be helpful in getting clarity on many aspects of our life. Feel free to call us on +91 9833985538 for further assistance!

Regards,
The Inner Space Team

Can therapy help if one is struggling to find meaning in life and wants to get clarity as to what one wants to do in life? Wants to get clarity to make certain life decisions for e.g. whether to marry or not?

Hi Madhura,

We have e-mailed you our details.

Feel free to call us on 9833985538 for further assistance!

Regards,
The Inner Space Team

Hi, I’m exploring the option of online/virtual counselling for some serious ptsd and other related issues I’m dealing with. Can you please send me more details about how this could work (if at all) online, cost structure etc. ? Thanks in advance.
I am specifically looking for a really experienced counsellor as I’ve already been to a few before and had to discontinue..
(I’m currently not in India though originally I’m from Mumbai)

Hi Rajvi,

Thank you for reaching out. We can imagine how difficult it would be to cope with the distressing feelings anxiety and depression brings with them. Would you like to seek our support through counseling? Feel free to call us on 9833985538 and talk to our team members to understand the process of the same.

With care,
The Inner Space Team

Hi need your help. Dealing with anxiety and depression

Hi Raj

Thank you for reaching out.
We have emailed you the details.
Feel free to call us on 9833985538 if you have any queries.

Take care

regards
Inner Space Team

We are a recently married couple and need help to look at things rationally. Have lot of communication gap and anger issues. Please share cost structure

Hi Kushal

Thank you for reaching out.
We have emailed you the details.
Take care

regards
Inner Space Team

I want to cure Emotional deprivation disorder. Please tell me the fee structure.

Hi Madhu,

Thank you for writing to us. We are emailing you details. Kindly check your email for the same.
Take care

Best regards,
Inner Space Team

Hi,

I overthink and feel guilty for everything. I find it difficult to see myself in a positive way.
Can therapy help? Can you please share the details and the fee structure, timings and branches?

Thanks!

Hi Nilabh,

Thank you for reaching out.

We have emailed important details. Could you please check your inbox.
Do take care. We are glad you reached out for help.

Warm Regards
The Inner Space Team

I am Nilabh.I am feeling very depressed.I am unable to focus.I am a student and I feel that am useless.This thing killing me. I need help.

Hi Kim,

Thank you for writing to us. Could you please check your Junk / spam folders because it might have gone there.
We have shared details on your email address.

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

Hello again, I’m afraid I didn’t receive the details. Please send again.

Hi Kim,

Thank you for writing to us.
We have shared details on your email address.

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

Please send the cost details regarding various therapies offered. Thank you

Dear Tenny,

Thank you for reaching out. We have emailed details about the same. Could you please check your inbox for more.

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

Hi Tenny,

Thank you for reaching out.

It seems like you are feeling helplessness at this point and that can get quite overwhelming. We are providing you with numbers of some helplines since you need immediate help. We have emailed important details. Could you please check your inbox.

Do take care. We are glad you reached out for help.

Warm Regards
The Inner Space Team

I wanna change my life he loneliness depression isolation people pleasing

I want start a therapy I am depressed and suicidal let me know how it works as well as fee struccture

Hi Sakshi,

Thank you for reaching out.

We are glad that you are seeking help for the concerns that you have. It is a very good idea to opt for checking and sometimes it can be quite tough to tackle such issues which worries us deep down. We have shared details of counseling along with our fees, so could you please check your email for more. Initially, you can book a consultation session with our therapist and we can take it forward from there onward.

Do take care Sakshi.

Warm Regards
The Inner Space Team

I want to get myself checked for depression, bipolarity and anxiety.
What are your charges for the same?

Hi Nikunj,

Thank you for writing to us.

We have sent you an email with the details. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

What is the counseling charge?? And how much time before i need to book an appointment?? Do i get an appointment on the same today? I am a student from Indore and completely at sea and lost in middle of nowhere… I cant afford very high fees?? Can u let me know ur charges?

Hello,

Seeking help for depression. Please send me your detailed fee structure.

Thanks.

Dear Abhishek,
We have emailed the details to you. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Thanks

Dear Alia,
You seem to be going through a tough time. Maybe you can seek help from a counselor. A counselor would gently help you identify what the problem is and help you work through it. Throughout the process of counseling, she’ll be careful to hear you out and understand you.
We suggest that you seek help, since it is not good to let things remain unresolved. Unresolved issues pile up and result in more stress. Working through whatever is bothering you would help you attain a calmer, more peaceful state of mind.
Think about it and feel free to write back to us at info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in with any queries you might have about counseling.
Take care

Please mail fee structure and time required

I can’t even understand what is my problem. I don’t have anybody to help me the way I want.

Dear Shwetaa,
Thank you for writing in. At present, we do not conduct professional training courses for psychologists.
Warm Regards.

Please let me know if your organization conducts proffessional training courses?

Dear Tejas,
Thank you for writing in. We have emailed you the details. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Warm Regards

please mail the fees structure and time required???

Dear Nitin,
Thank you for writing in. We have emailed you the details. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Take care

please mail the fees structure and time required

Dear Sahiba,
Thank you for writing in to us. We would be glad to support you through counseling. We have sent you an email with details about the process and fee structure of counseling. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Warm Regards

Need help for relationship. Please send me your fee structure.

Dear P.Bhat,
Thank you for writing in to us. We have sent you an email with details about the process and fee structure of counseling. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Warm Regards

Dear Rakesh,
Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand that this must be a difficult time for you. We would be glad to support you through marriage counseling. We have sent you an email with details about the process and fee structure of counseling. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Warm Regards

Please do email me the fee structure on my email id.

Hi

i am married for 16 years & i feel my marital life is not on the right track and requires some external help.

i would request if you could kindly send me the details and fee structure before i take up an appointment.

Dear D Sarcar,
Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns. We can understand this must be a difficult and overwhelming time for you.
We would be glad to support you through counseling. We have sent you details about the process and fee structure for individual counseling via email. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Take Care.

Apologize, provided incorrect email in my last post.

Hi Mam:

I am going through the lowest low of my life. I think I need some help. Please let me know about your fee structure for individual counseling.

Regards,

Dear V,
Thank you for writing in. We would be glad to help you through counseling. We have sent you details regarding the process and fee structure of individual counseling via email. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Warm Regards.

Hello,

please can you send me more information on counseling sessions and other details such as costs involved. I would like to come in for individual counseling.

Thanks you,
Regards,

Dear Shri,
We’d be glad to understand what really is happening to you and help you out. We are sending you the fee structure right away. Check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in
Take care 🙂

Ma’am, I am a student and my problem is that from some time I cannot think and decide upon things! My self confidence is going down day by day. I need someone to make me speak out all that is inside.

Please could you mail me the fee structure!

Thanks.