You are able to live with yourself because you know you are fundamentally good!
You know that all your inadequacies and the not so good qualities exist either because they are judged that way by people around you or because you picked them up somewhere on the way because of the difficulties that life sent your way.
You are correct! The deepest core of you, of all of us, every person is beautiful.
Don’t believe it? Ask a psychotherapist. The therapist sees both sides. The physically abusive father and the suffering child, the lying teenager and the furious mom, the spouse having the extra marital affair and the spouse feeling cheated, the paedophile and the molested child, the unsatisfied boss and the oppressed employee, the alcoholic and the hurt family.
In my practice of last fourteen years as a psychotherapist, I have seen people in all kinds of situations, angry, lying, deceitful, manipulative but I have never ever seen someone in whom I cannot find the fundamental beautiful core, of which I talk.
Yes people are often not in touch with that core themselves, but I can see it shining through just a few sessions down.
So this post is dedicated to…..
Connecting with Your Inner Self – the beautiful person in you
Try these steps:
- Sit quietly for a few minutes and let your mind settle until you feel your focus has come back at least somewhat to the present moment. You could focus on the breath to help you.
- Watch your body and sensations inside your body. Be aware there is goodness in you and try to watch it in your body.
- Don’t be analytical about it. Just allow the sensations to float up. If you feel good somewhere, don’t question if it is really the right place or you are imagining it.
- Sit with this goodness in you for sometime, knowing it is a part of you.
- Even if you cannot sense it, be with yourself, with your body for sometime, knowing that such a part of you exists somewhere deep within.
- Try not to think about the pain you have or you cause. It is common to know we are good and yet not be able to accept it because we have become such strong critics of ourselves. That is why in this exercise we give the judgmental mind some rest.
Doing this often enough will soften you towards yourself. This softening is so important to soften towards others too. Only when we can feel the goodness within, can we really connect to the goodness in others despite all their obvious and visible faults.
In this exercise there is hope for the world too. The world gets to be a better place by at least one more person. You!
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