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Valentine’s Day: Revisiting the concept of love

Revisiting the concept of love Over the years, the concept of soulmates has been smeared and airbrushed into unrealistic levels of love and companionship. Many of us find ourselves absorbing the idea of love by social media, listening to romantic songs, reading Mills & Boons, or watching cheesy mushy movies. This is what love has popularly come to mean.  Nonetheless, love is more than just a warm fuzzy feeling in one’s heart or a state of mind and for this reason, it requires effort and action. There will be days where you or your partner may not experience that warm fuzzy feeling for one another and that’s alright. This doesn’t mean something is wrong with you, your partner, or your relationship is going downhill. It just goes to show that you are two individuals who are in love, trying to make the most of your lives by focusing on either family, work, or academia. Being a team Knowing that you have someone to emotionally lean on or a partner you go home to every day can make you get complacent in a relationship.  This is also a time when partners often stop making an effort to make the other person feel special. Unfortunately, this gives rise to feelings of being taken for granted and may result in misunderstandings, doubts, and arguments. There will be ups and downs, good and bad days in your relationship. It gets easy when you and your special someone are on the same team during good as well as bad days. Being in sync with each other during bad times can be challenging but can be worked on. This also goes to show that you love your partner enough to let everything else take a back seat while making him or her your focus of attention.     Mere mortals In the first throes of companionship, you may find your partner’s qualities flawless; someone who perfectly matches the perception you had of a significant other. Bit by bit, however, you then discover that in reality, they are after all, human and fallible.  Idealize your partner by all means, but a little awareness at the back of your mind of them having ‘feet of clay’ will keep things real and authentic. This applies to you as well since you both are human.  Partners may forget to turn off the bathroom light often or might end up ruining their significant other’s favourite food. Either way, it’s okay!   Agree to disagree Arguments, whether you like them or not, are a part of relationships. In times like these, contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and withdrawal can drive a wedge between you and your significant other.  It’s better to be wary of them during difficult times as this only makes partners shut down and potentially isolates them from having a meaningful human relationship. No relationship is perfect and your partner can’t read your mind. That’s why a little understanding of your realistic expectations and conveying them respectfully will go a long way. It doesn’t matter if you argue, it’s the ‘way you do’ that matters. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tD88k9Y-1Sk&list=PLnm_TbTXJzfN5k_nsGGtaa0JDWaBqz3QS&index=3&ab_channel=InnerSpace watch this video on ‘relationships as a spiritual practice’ I goofed up! In a romantic relationship, “sorry” need not be the hardest word.  Some people find it challenging to apologise and admit that they were wrong. Therefore, owning up to your mistake from time to time will help you keep the relationship boat afloat. Romance and passion do bring people together but compromise and respect will keep you there. Take home message On some days things might not go your way. That’s the time to take a step back and ask yourself how important are those things when it comes to your relationship. We are so stuck in the narrative of being in a perfect relationship that anything less than that doesn’t seem a good enough option for us. Try and create a reservoir of good times and revisit them whenever possible. Pause, take a moment to also recognize that bad times are okay too as long as you’re not in an abusive relationship. Love together, stay together. Here’s wishing you and your partner, love, and togetherness this Valentine’s Day! 😊 post contributed by share this blog! read similar blogs Celebrate Self-Love This Valentine’s Day Treat Yourself to Self-love Today and Everyday Love, romance, dating… Read More Inner Space TeamFebruary 13, 2021 Ghosting in Relationships “I was seeing someone I met online. We went on… Read More Inner Space TeamOctober 30, 2019 DISCOVERING ARCHETYPES – DAY 5: THE LOVER ARCHETYPE The lover archetype represents our ideas of genuine companionship and… Read More Inner Space TeamOctober 14, 2015 EMBRACING SEX IN RELATIONSHIPS In a relationship, sex and physical intimacy play an important… Read More Inner Space TeamMay 18, 2015

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Inner Space Turns 11! - Our One Most Important Learning About Mental Health

Inner Space Turns 11! – Our One Most Important Learning About Mental Health

We turned 11 years old on the 26th of December! This time, we thought of sharing our one most important learning about mental health with you. This is the one thing that has stood out the most over all our work in the last 11 years. Working with this seemed to strengthen resilience of people no matter what their age or situation. That learning is – Mental health is the ability to ‘stay’ with situations. What does this mean? Pick up any situation – a hectic vacation, a difficult relationship, a stressful job or a pandemic. What is the 1 thing that determines how well we are as the situation ebbs and flows? It is our ability to stay with the situation. If we have some relationship with whatever is unfolding at this moment, we are able to go through it more peacefully. On the other hand, if we don’t have any relationship with the present situation, we remain caught up in suffering. This suffering could look like loops of ‘why me’ – ‘why is my nose like this?’, ‘why is my relationship not good?’, ‘why is my life like this?’. We ruminate, we become closed, fearful and resentful. Our mental health suffers.  As this insight became clearer to us, we were convinced that working on looking inwards and staying with oneself is indispensable to mental health. This became a part of our psychotherapy, group workshops, courses, our work with NGOs and other corporate organizations. Here is a snapshot of the year gone by- Transition to Working Online For Good One big change this year was that we surrendered our office space and moved to a fully online mode of work. Big as this step was, it came with the ability to work together even if the team was in different parts of the country!  Ongoing Mindfulness Meditation Courses 8 Week Mindfulness Meditation Course We created our signature 8 week mindfulness meditation course in a robust online cum webinar format. After a lot of thought into how this could be best done online, we came up with a format where course videos are shared with participants over the week. Towards the end of each week, there is a live webinar for further discussion, Q & A and meditation practice. Our First Online Mindfulness Program for Children! We have been doing the Breathing Happiness Program for Children since 2019. This time, we decided to do it online. We were overjoyed to discover how well the children took to it even in an online format! Inspired by this, we also conducted a mindfulness session for parents and children on Children’s Day. Mindfulness Based Train the Trainer Programs with Non Profit Organizations This year, we did mindfulness based train the trainer programs with 4 non profit organizations – OSCAR, CHIP Mumbai, Enabling Leadership and Saath Charitable Trust,  in partnership with EMpower. These programs were all about helping trainers imbibe mindfulness practices and then incorporate it into their curriculum. Some of these programs also involved teaching them to introduce mindfulness to adults and children. As a team, we were very thrilled to be doing this! Mindfulness Programs with Corporates We also did mindfulness workshops with GroupM, ABP news and Mercury Capital. As always, it was nice to work with diverse themes like introductory mindfulness workshops, workshops customized for leaders and sessions tailored to better process emotions that were coming up due to the pandemic. A Support Circle For Young Adults Again, this is something we are thrilled about! We began a weekly support circle for young adults that one of our therapists facilitates regularly. We had been wanting to do this for a long time, since it is immensely helpful to see and hear others who are going through the same experiences and struggles! The group discussed topics like setting boundaries, motivating oneself, dealing with difficult emotions, loneliness, stress related to the pandemic and so on. A Monthly Wisdom Circle Our chief psychologist facilitated monthly wisdom circles which involve meditation, sharing and contemplation on various aspects of emotional health such as compassion to self, how to create some separation from the thinking mind and so on. This is a wonderful space to meditate and contemplate on nuggets of wisdom that come from psychology as well as mindfulness concepts. The ‘Ask the Therapist’ Platform We also began a new platform called ‘Ask the Therapist‘ where anyone can ask any questions about mental health and they will be answered by our therapists. Out of all the questions that came to us, relationship queries and queries about how to help a family member who was going through some mental health condition were asked most frequently. A Book by Our Chief Psychologist- ‘You are Simply Perfect’! One of the biggest things for us this year is that Sadia, our founder, authored a book – You are Simply Perfect! This is a book for teens and tweens catering to their emotional needs. It applies principles of mindfulness and compassion to help them cultivate a friendly relationship with themselves, which is crucial at that age. It is out for sale now!! Click here to get it now! On this note, we end this year while beginning another one. Deep gratitude to each one of you who has been a part of our journey. Have a wonderful and peaceful 2022. May you be well, may you be happy!

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Lockdown

A Year Since Lockdown: Lessons The Pandemic Taught Us

It’s been a year since the lockdown was first imposed when the unknown and rather scary COVID-19 virus affected all our lives. It not only affected the way we lived and worked but impacted the way we behaved, thought and felt. Doesn’t it all still seem so recent ? While we continue to navigate the ongoing changes and challenges the pandemic poses, let’s pause and reflect at the year gone by. Let us create space for some of the lessons the pandemic taught us and some key takeaways. A year since lockdown and we learnt that…  We are a lot more resilient that we give ourselves credit for Looking back at the year since lockdown can bring up difficult feelings of loss, change, uncertainty frustration, fatigue and so much more. After all, we had to rapidly change and adapt to an ever evolving situation. Working not just from but with home became the norm. Virtual learning became the mode of transmitting knowledge and information. Health care services also started being offered online. Moreover, Zoom meet ups and Netflix parties became a way of socialising. Did you ever think you would be able to adapt to such changes ? And yet here we are, still adapting, trying our best to be flexible and creative in the face of ongoing uncertainty. Doesn’t it just go on to show that we are a lot more resilient that we give ourselves credit for ? That despite the many struggles, we do have an innate ability to navigate stressors as best as we can. In many ways the pandemic seems to have redefined resilience or the ability to ‘bounce back’. The pandemic seems to have taught us that bouncing back does not need to be a huge jump or leap from where we are. It can be a small step in the present moment that simply helps us cope better. While we often undermine our capabilities, reflecting at the year gone by  highlights the many small and big ways in which we have adapted individually and collectively. We need to rest to be able to feel productive The very first lockdown felt unique. It was new and created an unexpected break in our routines. But very soon we translated this break as a test of productivity. It suddenly became about reinventing ourselves. Little did we realise that the constant striving could also make us feel drained and tired. And so, the pandemic taught us that it is OK to rest.  Rest does not have to be a reward, one that we give ourselves only when we accomplish a certain number of tasks on our to do list. Rest is something that we all need to be able to survive and thrive. It is required for the nervous system to regulate itself, to maintain adequate levels of energy and to recover. A key takeaway from the year gone by is that we don’t always have to strive to fill up our routines or fight boredom or be doing something. Instead, we can spend time with ourselves, engage in leisurely pursuits and rest knowing that it is important for us. We can build acceptance for what we cannot control One of the most challenging yet empowering lessons this pandemic taught us was that of acceptance. A year ago, we were confronted with having no choice but to accept that ‘this is what it is’ and that somethings were beyond our control. While in some ways we could influence certain aspects of the situation, a large part of it was out of our hands. It could not be ‘fixed’ and that we continue to be in this waiting period as the pandemic continues to unfold. In many ways we did start accepting the changed life as our ‘new normal’. Acceptance may not come easily, at the same time planting the seed for it does allow us to sail through tough times. So, while the pandemic does continue to impact our lives, recognising that we are doing what we can while the rest will continue to evolve may just help us feel more at peace ! Wishing that these reflections foster a sense of hope as we continue to ride through the highs and lows of the present moment ! This post has been contributed by Amrita Kajaria, counsellor and psychologist at Inner Space

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Inner Space Team

Inner Space Turns 9 – Reminiscing 2019!

Inner Space Turns 9 today, 26th December. As always, it is deeply satisfying and humbling to be a part of so many lives. We feel lucky and very grateful that we get to deeply share and process something very human with everyone we meet, over and over and over again, whether in a therapy session or in a workshop. What kept us Ticking in 2019? Everyone loves good work and we are no different! Each year brings with it its own flavor. Here are some things that we loved doing in 2019! Therapy and more Therapy Well yes, this is the foundation of all our training and work. Most of us from the team have had some therapy experience even before Inner Space began in 2010, but this keeps us ticking all the way! Just to be a part of people’s lives in a free flowing, intimate way, where they share themselves as they are and we meet them as we are, is an abundant experience! Working and Interacting with NGOs This year, we did a lot of work with NGOs. We were overjoyed to facilitate mindfulness workshops for the Antarang Foundation team and the Apni Shala Foundation team. We also aligned the social-emotional learning curriculum of Apni Shala with the mindfulness principles of compassion and non-judgment, for 18 Municipal schools. This was a new, fun experience! Any work with children calls for more creativity, which we thoroughly enjoyed. Previous slide Next slide We also continued our therapy and mindfulness work with Kranti, an NGO that rescues and rehabilitates children of sex workers. We have been working on personal and trauma therapy with them for many years now and they now are an integral part of many of our mindfulness workshops! Our New Mindfulness Course! In addition to our 8 week mindfulness course (we did 4 courses this year!) and our mindfulness retreat, we were very happy to begin a new program – The Breathing Happiness Mindfulness Program for children! This has been in the pipeline for long but picked up steam after our work with Apni Shala. Our child counselor Shubhra Mehta facilitates this program. It was surprising to see how effortlessly the children took to the practice. We began a meditation circle for those who have attended our programs and wish to keep up the practice. We also now have regular guided meditation sessions on Thursdays. The more there is meditation, the happier we are! It gives us a lot of joy to watch people grow more peaceful and joyful as they meditate Previous slide Next slide Workshops for Organizations This year, we worked with Mindfulness for Engineers and their families at Tata Power, mindfulness for women at Asian Paints and Mindfulness for Leaders at Motilal Oswal and Microsoft. We also conducted a mindfulness workshop for young employees for Endurance International Group. It is wonderful to see more organizations explore this practice and explore the benefits of mindfulness for their workforce. Previous slide Next slide With this, we close this year and look forward to whatever 2020 has in store! Deep gratitude to each one of you, for all your love and support. Wishing each of you wellness and happiness in the year to come! Stay well, stay happy!

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Inner Space Turns 8!

Inner Space Turns 8! We turned 8 on the 26th of December, 2018! As always, we are excited and happy, more so because we have moved into a new office space! We feel deeply grateful towards everybody who has been with us on this journey, our clients, our therapists and staff, our readers, and whoever has interacted with us in some capacity. We work each day looking to make a difference in some way, through action, intention or through the heart. You all are a big part of what keeps us going, and we thank you for every bit of it! Inner Space in 2018 We’ve put together snippets of how this year was for us and some highlights of the year.   We have a New Office! The biggest change this year was that we moved into a new office space, the inauguration of which we held recently! In addition to bringing in fresh energy and novelty, this space also has a dedicated meditation hall that we are very excited about! Geshe Lobsang Tenzin graced our center with his peaceful, embodied presence. He conducted a meditation session for us and blessed the center. It was a beautiful experience. Previous Next Our Meditation Workshops We hold mindfulness meditation workshops through the year. As always, we feel joyful to hold these workshops and create a space for mindfulness, rest and compassion. This year, we conducted: An eight week course on mindfulness and meditation A mindfulness based psychotherapy course A mindfulness meditation retreat, Introductory mindfulness workshops Previous Next Workshops in Organizations We also feel grateful and happy to have conducted mindfulness meditation workshops in more organizations this year. Among others, we conducted mindfulness workshops for :- Employees and their families at Tata Power Senior Leaders at Mercedes Benz Women employees at Asian Paints Students at iCall (Tata Institute of Social Sciences) A Mindfulness Retreat for Antarang Foundation Sadia Saeed, our founder and chief psychologist also represented Inner Space at the 100 Wellness Leaders’ Meet, Mexico in May 2018. Previous Next Some Sharings from the Team Entering Inner Space began the most beautiful phase of my life. Thank you Inner Space for accommodating me with so much love and warmth in the past three and half years, being patient, allowing me to make mistakes and learn from them, supporting me and giving me space to find my unique style in therapy, fulfilling all my needs and instilling in me a sense of unshakable confidence to take up bigger challenges. Gitali Chatterji, Psychologist and Counselor Working with Inner Space has been rewarding and invaluable. The physical space, team interaction and group work, Sadia’s backing when we’d be stuck with difficulties in cases and the amazing client journeys we could aide through inner space has been wonderful. Truly enriching and adequately stimulating has been my experience. Wishing all of the Inner Space team and the clients a healing, rewarding experience Kunjal Shah, Psychologist and Counselor, 2012-2018 I have seen myself grow with the space since it was founded. Sadia and my other team mates have helped me overcome many a difficulty over these years, be it personal or professional. I have found the practice of mindfulness meditation and its underlying philosophy immensely useful, both in my life as well as in therapy. I am deeply thankful to Inner Space for being a space of warmth and growth. Malini Krishnan, Psychologist and Counselor I have met so many incredible people, as clients and as colleagues, through my 6 years at Inner Space. It has been a very powerful journey, where I have grown internally, been trusted and accepted, where I have unfolded deeper realms within myself while touching other people’s lives. I feel truly grateful. Megha Tulsiyan, Psychologist and Counselor, 2013-2018. We hope to continue working as best as we can and growing with you. May each of you be well and happy, as you enter into the new year. Wishing you the best!

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2015 inner space

REMINISCING 2015: ONGOINGS AT INNER SPACE

In the wake of our 5th Birthday and the New Year turning in, we find ourselves reflectively looking back at the work we have done in the year that has gone by. As we do that, we wish to share with you all about the ongoings at Inner Space for 2015. We deeply thank each one of you for being a part of Inner Space and showing your support.

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Four

WE TURN FOUR!

This post is always my favorite post of the year because I ritually sit down with a nice cup of tea and I can indulge myself in reminiscing about all the wonderful people I saw in therapy, about their movement and growth, about all the work we put in as a team, the activities we did and all the articles we wrote thinking of all of you who read this space regularly.

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a poem dedicated to ' therapist '

WE TURN THREE!

Inner Space turns three on the 26th of December 2013 and we also near the end of another year.

The year has been eventful, lots of action, work, an additional office, new associations, more therapists and so on. But amidst the enjoyable inertia of all this work and action, I want to remind myself and all the Inner Space therapists to not lose sight of why we started Inner Space…

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Mindfulness Awareness

A LITTLE SOMETHING FROM THE MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS WEEKEND

The Mental Health Awareness Weekend begins tomorrow, and we are looking forward to it!

For today, we decided to share with all of you a little memento that we’re planning to give away to those whom we meet tomorrow.

But first, some background about the memento…

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The Art of Listening