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Here’s The Truth About Feeling Lonely

The world is more connected than ever. Think about this, a mere click connects us to the other side of the globe. Social media buzzes with constant chatter, and we are just a plane ride away from the most remote places on earth.  Yet, a strange irony persists: feeling lonely now seems more common than ever. Rates of loneliness, anxiety, and depression have been rising consistently. Recently, the WHO has declared loneliness to be a “global health threat.” There is a missing piece in this puzzle- we need to understand why we feel alone even while we are right in the middle of connection.  In this article, we dive into the roots of loneliness, trying to seek solutions, not just to stop feeling lonely, but to truly understand the deeper meaning behind it.  What is Loneliness? Loneliness is a complex emotion, and each individual has their own meaning around feeling lonely. Feeling lonely is more than just being alone, it’s the pain of disconnection even when we are amidst others.  Feeling lonely can be transient, or can even be stretched to a life time. Chronic loneliness can weaken our immune system, fuel depression and anxiety, and even affect our physical health.  Loneliness can be confusing feeling and it can be complicated to identify. We may feel left out out of the fun of life. We might feel excluded from life’s joys, wondering why others seem to effortlessly connect while we feel like a puzzle piece that just doesn’t belong. These feelings can create a vicious cycle, pushing us further away from others as our mind whispers doubts about our ability to connect meaningfully. Loneliness feels like a dark cloud that follows us around. It makes us feel lost and alone, even when we’re surrounded by people. We try to ignore it by connecting with others in unhealthy ways, but that doesn’t make it better. The real solution is to find deep and meaningful connections with others. These connections will help us feel happy and fulfilled again. We are not alone. Everyone at some point or the other feels lonely. It is a shared, human condition.  The Truth about Feeling Lonely The tendency to feel lonely has been deeply embedded into our systems since the wake of mankind. As a social creatures, we needed others to survive. We moved in packs, fought predators, found food, and thrived.  Therefore, moving away from the pack meant that we are more exposed to threat. So the ache of loneliness served as a alarm system to remind us to reconnect with our pack, as being alone would result be a threat to our existence.  Fast forward to today, where wild animals aren’t the immediate threat, the same pain of feeling lonely persists. When we feel excluded from our social circle, that ache might seem like a personal failing. However, it’s simply an echo of our evolutionary past, a reminder of the importance of connection. The discomfort of loneliness can be a powerful guide, a gentle nudge towards building a deeper connection with ourselves.  Look Inward when you are Feeling Lonely Our minds are wired for pleasure, seeking what feels good and avoiding discomfort. But sometimes, exploring the “not-so-good” areas, like choosing healthy food over junk or facing difficult emotions like feeling lonely, opens doors to deeper self-awareness. Feeling lonely can signal the need for social connection. However, seeking one-sided connections or isolating ourselves due to feeling like a misfit can be counterproductive. Both behaviors can prevent us from enjoying our own company and finding joy in solitude. This avoidance of feeling lonely might stem from a belief that we are not good company for ourselves. But remember, loneliness is a normal human experience, and it can also be a valuable guide. It can signal a need for inner connection, a time to simply “be” without external stimulation. Sometimes, just embracing our own company can lead to incredible self-discoveries. We learn our likes, dislikes, values, and what we truly desire in relationships. Being content with ourselves doesn’t mean shutting others out. Instead, it’s about deepening our connection with our authentic self, nurturing relationships that feel safe, reciprocal, and fulfilling. Two Ways to look at Loneliness We tend to believe how loneliness can only be resolved by seeking more relationships. However, looking inward, being with oneself can also lighten the burden of loneliness and help you view your relationships in a better light. Thus, the key to managing loneliness is to find a balance between the relationship we have with ourselves, and with others.  Here are some ways to manage loneliness by reaching out and looking within: Connecting With Yourself: Doing your favourite hobbies, exploring activities you enjoy, or pursuing interests by yourself Practicing mindfulness can help you turn inward and manage the negative emotions that come with feeling lonely  Connecting With Others: Be a part of clubs, groups, or organizations Explore online communities Try volunteering for a social cause Feeling lonely doesn’t diminish your worth. It’s a shared human experience, a signal that something within needs attention. Embrace this feeling as an opportunity to explore both your inner and outer landscapes, building a richer, more fulfilling life in the process. You are not alone on this journey, and both self and social connection can play vital roles in finding your way back to belonging. Is your Loneliness holding you back? Counseling can be a great tool for you to manage and overcome your loneliness and lead a happy, fulfilling life. We are here for you. Book an Appointment About the Author This article was written by Parvathi Ganesan, Counselor at Inner Space. This post was consulted & approved by professional therapists practicing online therapy and counseling.  Ask a Therapist If you are interested to know more about loneliness and other mental health topics, ‘Ask A Therapist’ is a platform for you to ask your questions related to Mental Health, Mindfulness & Emotional Well-Being to our team of qualified Therapists. Ask a Therapist Related Blogs Do

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Trauma In Relationships: The Hidden Barrier To Love And Connection

Trauma can create a lens through which you view the world as an unsafe, unpredictable, and unwelcoming place. This distorted view can extend to your relationships, making it challenging to find the safety and connection that others seem to find easily.  Therefore, trauma can affect your  relationships by creating a barrier between you and the opportunity of co-creating a healthy, peaceful, loving, intimate relationship. If you find yourself stuck in this cycle, learning about the effects of trauma in relationships is key towards breaking free and nurturing wholesome, fulfilling, intimate relationships. Signs Of Trauma In Relationships Take a critical look at your relationships, and ask yourself what might be standing between you and the fulfilling connection you seek. It could be difficulties managing emotions, struggles with self-esteem, challenges in creating and sustaining connections, or trouble expressing thoughts and feelings during conflicts with your partner. Here are some ways trauma impacts your relationships: Trauma Can Cause Trust Issues In Relationships: If you are someone who has experienced the pain of betrayal from a previous relationship, you may find it challenging to trust your current partner. You may feel doubtful of their actions, and look out for signs of betrayal, and constantly worry about how they may betray you. Every healthy relationship is built on trust. Therefore, past trauma can often result in trust issues in your relationships.  Trauma Can Make You Avoid Emotional Intimacy With Your Partner: If you withhold affection and feel uncomfortable in intimate relationships, it could be a way to protect yourself from the discomfort that emotional intimacy brings. This could show up as ghosting someone you are dating, avoiding deep, emotional conversations, and expressing your true feelings for your partner. Distance takes away the safety and comfort that intimacy brings to a relationship, making it challenging for you to feel fulfilled and content in your relationships. Trauma Can Cause Separation Anxiety In Your Relationships: Experiencing some level of emotional or physical abandonment in childhood, or from a previous relationship, can build a deep-rooted fear of it happening again. This can look like constantly worrying that a partner may leave, and constantly asking for reassurance from your partner. You may feel like your partner is too good for you, and that they will find someone better. You may feel empty, anxious, and hopeless without your partner’s presence. This can make it challenging for you to be yourself in relationships, causing a lot stress and possible conflicts in them.  Trauma Can Make It Challenging To Manage Your Emotions: Trauma can make you feel like you are stuck in a rollercoaster of emotions. This can look like having intense mood swings, lashing out at your partner, shutting down or feeling emotionally numb, zoned out during conflicts. These extreme highs and lows can impact the stability and results in a strained relationship. Trauma Can Affect Your Attachment Styles: If you have been in an unhealthy family dynamic during childhood, you may notice a pattern developing in your present relationships. This can look like having a pattern of ending relationships abruptly, or being too close or clingy with your partners, or choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Sometimes, these tendencies may go unnoticed, and you may feel you are simply unlucky in love. But, if you notice them, you may find the answer, and a way to heal your past trauma, work on your attachment styles, and break this cycle of unhealthy relationships.  Trauma Can Take A Toll On Your Self-Worth And Self-Esteem: Having a low self-esteem from past trauma could cause you to turn to your partner to seek their constant validation and approval. You may feel like only their opinion matters, forgetting the importance of having your own. You may place your partner on a pedestal, and this can create an imbalance in the power dynamic in your relationship. Also, a low level of self esteem can also make you push away your partner as you believe, deep down, that you don’t deserve them.  Trauma Can Make Communicating With Your Partner Difficult: Do you struggle to express what you truly want in your relationships? Do you go ahead with whatever your partner wants, without really looking into what you want? These could be signs of communication challenges in relationships. Struggling with how you express your emotional needs and wants in a relationship could stem from having experienced verbal or emotional trauma or abuse during childhood. A lack of healthy communication can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts in your relationships. Trauma Can Make It Challenging To Think Of A Long-Term Relationship: Your past trauma can make you believe that you are undeserving of happiness and love. Relationships can feel unsafe, making it seem like all the pain of the past will resurface. Therefore, past trauma can make it challenging for you be in long-term relationships, and look into the future.  Contact Us Counseling is a process that can help you learn more about yourself and your relationships. Our Counselors are trained to help you with a wide range of concerns. If you are interested in scheduling an appointment with us, please click the link below. Book an Appointment Healing From Trauma In Relationships Through Therapy Trauma doesn’t make you a bad person-regardless of what your actions, thoughts, or even your partner may tell you. When trauma happens, your mind and body quickly get to finding ways to protect you by whatever means possible. But why? Your mind and body does this to protect you from the trauma happening again. Thus, all of the behaviours you label as “bad” are, in fact, ways your body deemed okay as a response to what happened in the past. So, your tendency to shut down during arguments can be seen as a protective mechanism to save you from feeling attacked, hurt, or abandoned as you felt in the past.  But, these protective mechanisms can become counterproductive over time. These approaches to protect yourself can hold you back from experiencing true intimacy, which comes from being open, curious, and vulnerable with

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My Partner Doesn’t Want To Go For Couples Therapy: What To Do?

So, you have tried having “the conversation” with your partner about going for couples counseling. You went in with hope, and a tinge of excitement thinking of the possibility of having an unbiased opinion on how to fix and work on your relationship problems. However, unfortunately, your suggestion was met with resistance.  “What is the need for couples counselling?,”  “We are doing fine?,”  “I am uncomfortable discussing our personal matters with a stranger.” You might have heard these sentences from your partner when you suggested relationship counseling to them. These responses are common, and normal, considering the fact that therapy can sound like a daunting, and new experience that can make one feel vulnerable and exposed. How You May Feel When Dealing With Your Partner’s Resistance To Couples Therapy Let us first address how you are feeling after having these conversations with your partner. This form of resistance can be disappointing, It can make you feel that they aren’t willing to work on their relationship. You may feel rejected, disconnected, and burdened, as you feel that saving the relationship is now solely your responsibility.  Notice what other feelings come up for you after having these conversations. It is highly likely these conversations have created some distance between you and your partner.  In this article, we look at what to do if you partner is resistant to couples counselling by looking at some of the reasons why there may be resistance to relationship therapy, and highlighting some of the ways you can have more fruitful conversations with your partner on how to work on your relationship issues.  Contact Us Counseling is a process that can help you learn more about yourself and your relationships. Our Counselors are trained to help you with a wide range of concerns. If you are interested in scheduling an appointment with us, please click the link below. Book an Appointment Understanding Your Partner’s Resistance To Couples Therapy While having a conversation with your partner about couples therapy, you may have observed a sense of defensiveness, worry, or fear within them. This could be an indication of their resistance to couples counselling.  Therefore, it is necessary to understand this resistance, and its origin, to be able to get through to your partner.  For this, initiate a conversation that is open and non-judgmental. This means that you don’t do any of the following: You: Don’t put the blame on one partner for the relationship problems Don’t issue ultimatums such as, “I will leave you if you arent willing to go for couples counselling.” Don’t engage in labelling your partner as “irresponsible,” or “lazy,” when they show their disinterest towards counselling. While doing the above may seem like a natural response to your partner’s refusal, it creates further resentment, avoidance, and ultimately more resistance towards therapy. Sometimes, they may go along with the process as they feel pressured to make a decision. However, they are less likely to stick to counselling if they feel ‘forced’ to do it.  Think about this: How would you feel if you felt pressured to do something, that you did not want to, even if it is good for you?  How to Initiate A Conversation With A Partner That Doesnt Want to Go For Couples Therapy So, how do you initiate a fruitful conversation with your partner who is resistant?  Here are some pointers that may help you out: Keep an open mind to their responses: When you listen closely with your guard down, you may notice that they may have some negative beliefs, experiences, and feelings towards therapy.  Validate their feelings and beliefs:  When they express fear towards feeling vulnerable, try telling them, “I understand why therapy can make you feel afraid/vulnerable/exposed/judged.” This helps you hold space for them. They feel seen and heard and they are more likely to be open to sharing their thoughts. Try to dispel some of their beliefs and myths surrounding therapy: Knowledge is the way to remove your fear of the unknown. For instance, your partner may be worried that a counsellor may leak or share private information that is shared during sessions. You can try validating their fears about this happening, but you can tell your partner about the confidential nature of therapy. Or you can suggest that you both read up about therapy together. Adopt a collaborative approach: Use a “we” approach in your conversations. Instead of sharing why your partner needs to change, highlight how you and your partner will benefit from working on the relationship. Clearly Express Why You Feel The Need For Therapy: This is important to help your partner understand why you feel the need for couples counseling. Without blaming your partner, express what are the difficulties you hope will get addressed in couples counseling. Convince them for one session: If you partner is unsure about the therapeutic process, try to convince them to attend just one session, where all doubts can be cleared with the therapist. This can alleviate the fear, ambivalence, and false beliefs surrounding therapy. Express how your partner’s collaboration in coming for this one session will help you.  What Are Some Alternatives To Couples Counselling? If you partner is still resistant towards therapy, you can try offering them a few alternatives such as books on relationships, trying new activities together to build connection and trust, reading articles, and learning healthier ways to communicate. To make this process easier for you, we have compiled a list of articles that can help you below: (put list of articles) What If My Partner Continues to Refuse Couples Therapy? Can I Take Therapy Alone? It can feel disappointing and painful if you partner continues to refuse to go for therapy, despite trying these steps. You may begin to feel worried about the future of your relationship. However, their lack of acceptance is not always a negative sign.  This is because their opinion may be subject to change with more time, conversations, and other factors. Therefore, if your requests are met

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Understanding Common Causes Of Anxiety In Teenagers

Anxiety In Teenagers And Its Significance Adolescence is a crucial period marked by significant physical, emotional, and cognitive changes in an individual. Teenagers see these changes unfold rapidly, and they also notice a shift in how they are viewed by others around them.  Many teenagers feel like they are stuck in a grey zone, where they are neither a child, nor an adult. While many adolescents become well-adjusted to this shift, others tend to feel an immense pressure while trying to fit in and navigate through their adolescent years.  The teenage experience of adolescence can be complicated and certainly confusing. Therefore, it is quite common for them to experience anxiety during this stage. This article focuses on understanding what causes anxiety among teenagers, and the significance of it.  Top Common Causes of Anxiety in Teenagers Academic Pressure: Many teens go through immense pressure from the family to perform well academically. This can cause teens to place unrealistic, high expectations for themselves. Additionally, being in a competitive academic space can also trigger feelings of inadequacy and comparison, which leads to anxiety. Social Acceptance: Social validation and acceptance are highly important to teenagers. Being socially isolated by their peers, or the fear of it can cause excessive worry about not being liked by everyone. Bodily Changes: One of the most externally visible changes in a teen during adolescence is bodily, or physical. Adjusting to a new frame takes time and can come with a lot of internal and external judgement. This can also cause extreme worry or body insecurities. Social Media: Social media has now become an indispensable part of many teenagers’ lives. Social media provides ample opportunities for social validation- through likes and comments. This can cause many teens to associate their self-worth with the numbers on social media. An over-reliance on social media for social validation, and comparing their lives with others, can cause anxiety and low self-esteem. Negative Experiences: Having negative, traumatic experiences, like losing a loved one, going through physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, and bullying, can cause severe anxiety. Interpersonal Relationships: During adolescence, teens can find a change in how they interact with their family, friends, and in other relationships. For instance, due to the shifting roles at home, teens no longer resonate with the title of being “the child,” while the parent still views them as one. This can cause frustration, anger, and ultimately conflicts in the family. Also, during teenage, there is a shift in how relationships are approached. Teens may begin to show romantic interests and may begin dating. Handling newer experiences in relationships can be daunting, and anxiety can be an expected outcome of this fear. Worry about the future: Teens may experience worry about multiple things in their future. They could feel anxious trying to picture how their life would look in terms of their career, lovelife, friendship, or just their future in general. Importance Of Identifying And Addressing The Underlying Causes Of Anxiety In Teens. Anxiety is a normal human experience. Everyone, from a child to an adult, can experience bouts of anxiety from time-to-time. Navigating through multiple shifts at once, as a teen, can be challenging. As a result, teens may experience anxiety while moving through these changes.  While some anxiety is normal, excessive worrying and anxiety during this stage can cause a multitude of physical, emotional, and social setbacks. Therefore, it is imperative to identify, address, and work towards understanding the cause of anxiety and resolve it.  Here are some of the reasons why it is important to work through anxiety in adolescence: It Helps With Understanding “The Self” Teenagers tend to go through many physical and mental changes around adolescence. During this stage, their idea of “self” changes and they try to find an identity that they deeply resonate with. This process can bring in anxiety for many teens as they try to have an identity that stands out, and is also relatable and similar to their peers.  A secure identity and a positive attitude towards oneself during this stage can make them well-adjusted adults in the future.  It Helps With The Fear of Being Socially Isolated Adolescence is also a stage where there are changes in the way teens interact with people. For teenagers, it is crucial for them to fit in and be liked by everyone. Having different interests or being different from others can put them in a disadvantageous position. In such instances, many teens can feel anxious, as not fitting in could affect their identity. This internal discomfort can lead to social anxiety or anxiety of not being liked. Working with this anxiety is important as it helps you learn the skills necessary to hold interpersonal relationships and connect with people. It Helps With Understanding Your Emotions Better As a person moves from childhood to adolescence, they are introduced to many new, complex emotions. As the situations and their environment begin to change, so do their responses. Teens can sometimes feel overwhelmed by what they feel. As a child they would have a single, monotonous emotion, but as they grow older, emotions can get more difficult to differentiate. This confusion towards their own feelings can cause anxiety, and resolving and understanding this anxiety can improve the teen’s perception of their emotions, which is also known as “emotional literacy.” It Helps With Improving Your Familial and Interpersonal Relationships Working through the anxiety during teen years can also improve familial and interpersonal relationships. As the teen becomes aware of their anxiety and other uncomfortable emotions, they start to become more articulate about these emotions. Communicating about their feelings with their loved ones can create a positive dialogue and build a better relationship with them.  Being a teenager can be confusing and difficult. Get the support you need to live a happier, healthier life with our online Teen Counseling services. Book an Appointment Conclusion For a teenager, adolescence is a confusing and worrying phase of their life. Teenage brings with it opportunities for growth and learning.

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Teen Mental Health Challenges In The Modern World

Teen Mental Health Challenges In The Modern World

Adolescence is a time of many shifts, both in the mind and the body. It is a transformative period, where there is a growing curiosity about oneself and the people around them.  Teenage certainly isn’t a smooth period in one’s life. It is a time when one invests time into self-exploration and learns more about how and where they fit in. During this phase, with a myriad of changes, it is quite natural to face stress and worry over what could happen, and whether we would be accepted by everyone.  While many emphasize on the significance of having a healthy childhood, people tend to undermine the relevance of being a happy, well-adjusted teen.  The teenager in this stage, grapples with the many changes happening within and around them. It is a time where they try to fit in and find a niche for themselves. Adding to this, the teenagers of the present world also have the added challenge of maintaining their presence in an online, virtual world.  Thus, the teenagers today have to not just balance the challenges of growing up and accepting change, they also have to learn to navigate through the standards and norms of a virtual world as well. Balancing two worlds can be difficult, and therefore, acknowledging and understanding the significance of teenage mental health becomes important. The Changing Landscape Of Teen Mental Health The world as we now know it, is a product of the many significant changes and developments that have occurred only in the recent years. Due to advancements in technology, we can now connect to people across the globe with just a click of a button. Teeangers these days enjoy a plethora of options to connect with their peers without any hassle, over the internet.  But can these virtual interactions replicate actual, human interactions?  Ironically, there has been a surge in mental health disorders, loneliness and discontentment among teenagers in recent years. As of 2021, around the world, approximately one in seven teenagers suffer from at least one mental health disorder.  There are also other factors contributing to the pervasive mental pressure that teenagers face these days. While social media and technology are recent developments, there are other aspects that contribute negatively to the modern-day teenager’s mental health.  For instance, unrealistic body standards, shifting family dynamics, navigating through changes in the mind and the body, and managing peer and academic pressure may trigger mental health issues in many teenagers.  Therefore, it becomes imperative to understand the issues and challenges faced by teens. We have highlighted some of the most common mental health challenges among teens below:  Common Mental Health Challenges Among Teens 1. Social Media and Peer Pressure: Social approval, social acceptance, and social validation are some of the most important needs of the adolescent. As teenagers, it is quite normal and common for them to dabble into and try out new things that would gain approval from their peers. Peer pressure is a very common phenomenon experienced by many teenagers. For a teenager, peer pressure puts them in a tricky situation. If their peers pressure them into doing something they don’t like or something that their parents don’t approve of, it creates guilt and shame within them.  Or, if they don’t give in to peer pressure, there is also a huge chance of being isolated or rejected by their peer group. For a teenager going through adolescence, social approval is of utmost importance.  As a result, many teenagers experience stress, confusion, guilt, or may indulge in habits that may not be good for them.  Social media, in essence, is designed to provide you with social validation through likes, comments, and sharing just the happy, positive moments of your life. However, many teenagers use social media to base their self-worth on the numbers on social media, leading to poorer mental health.  Social media tends to only show a filtered version of life, and it shows only what others want you to see. This creates a warped form of reality.  “They have it better than me,” is something teenagers find themselves saying quite often. Many teens may find themselves constantly comparing themselves and their lives to what they see online.  While social media isn’t the sole reason for teenagers’ poor mental health, the excessive and mindless usage of it can definitely create low self-worth among teenagers and can lead to a multitude of mental health concerns like anxiety, depression, or substance use.  2. Academic Pressure and Performance Stress: Adolescence is one of the most turbulent and transformative periods of an individual’s life. During this stage, many teens begin to ponder over the question, “What next?”  Teenagers use this period to figure out their careers. This decision-making process can be uncomfortable, stressful, and daunting. There is a lot of pressure from oneself and also the family to choose the right field of study to ensure a secure career. And to choose the right field of study, the teen goes through immense academic pressure. Parents, and many of the grown-ups around the teen, constantly remind them of how important it is to score and perform well academically.  This causes the teen to set high expectations for themselves, thus, creating anxiety. Additionally, the competitive nature of education also causes the teen to constantly doubt themselves and compare their performance to others, creating more performance anxiety, stress, depression, procrastination, and self-doubt.  3. Digital Dependency and Screen Time: This is related to the excessive social media usage among teenagers. With the term “doom-scrolling” gaining popularity, it is becoming more apparent that everyone, including teenagers, are using their screens excessively.  Excessive screen dependency can lead to using social media and other mediums like binge-watching content online, gaming, and other means, to numb or suppress emotions. One of the main characteristics of adolescence is attaining emotional maturity and exploring various negative emotions that come up like sadness, angst, and irritability.  When there is an over dependence on the screens, teens do not learn how to sit with their feelings or actually feel

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Why Am I Feeling Sad? : A Guide On Understanding And Accepting Sadness

Why Am I Feeling Sad? : A Guide On Understanding And Accepting Sadness

What Is Sadness? Sadness is a basic human emotion. It’s a natural response to situations that cause emotional, psychological or physical pain. You can feel happy, angry, joyful, and a plethora of other emotions. Same goes for sadness, it’s real and a part of life. There’s nothing unusual about feeling sad. You may also feel sad for no reason, and that is normal too.  Sadness can coincide with other feelings such as stress, grief, anxiety, anger or hopelessness. How Sadness Is Felt In the Body We can use different words when referring to sadness. For instance, agony, dismay, anguish, distress, unhappiness, dejection, sorrow and many more. Sadness also changes how you feel in your physiology. Perhaps you may have a headache or a stomachache, or you might also have trouble going to sleep when you are experiencing sadness. When you experience sadness, you may get teary-eyed, frustrated, grumpy, bored or just eager to avoid or  may even disconnect with people. The Society’s Perception Of Sadness Sadness is a healthy emotion. Although it doesn’t come under the list of ‘comfortable emotions’, a lot of us do our best to avoid it. Since sadness is not culturally accepted, witnessing it in others and ourselves can get challenging. The last few decades has promoted happiness as a normal state of being – something that we all should aspire to be. We’ve been encouraged to diligently work on acquiring happiness in all aspects of our life. On the other hand, we’re advised to conceal sorrow and work on hastily eliminating it rather than dwelling on feelings of sadness or melancholy. The above understanding of normal does not allow us to sit with our sadness and understand what it is trying to communicate to us. Possible Reasons For Feeling Sad Life is filled with situations that make people sad. Experiencing issues or troubles at home. For instance, family feuds, skirmishes or domestic violence Feeling pressured at school or work Moving away from home – relocating or migrating to a new city or country Losing a loved one or a dear friend Getting diagnosed with an illness, caring for someone who is unwell or in a critical condition Struggling with financial issues Grappling with changes in thoughts like getting self-critical, or learning new   information on subjects like poverty, inequality or climate change Sadness doesn’t have a clear path or a pattern of inheritance in families. Nonetheless, some of us may be genetically predisposed to sadness and that’s perfectly okay. In case you are one of them, you may find yourself getting twirled in the cycle of sadness when triggered with difficult life events.  When you face situations that overwhelm you, it’s possible to get entangled in negative thoughts. These very thoughts can push you further into a shell aggravating your sadness. Here are some ways you can get in touch, explore, and ultimately learn how to manage your sadness. Are your anxieties holding you back? Counseling can be a great tool for you to manage and overcome your anxiety and lead a happy, stress-free life. We are here for you. Book an Appointment How To Deal With Sadness Normalising Sadness Sadness, unlike other emotions, unfortunately comes with a bad reputation. No one really wants to talk about it. We’re so stuck in the narrative of happiness that everybody craves for it and abstains from feeling sad. You can be a self-confessed optimist. But being optimistic doesn’t guarantee happiness all the time. You can be sad – but you can also be a person who is optimistic at the same time. Sadness is important as it connects you to yourself. Myths around the world lead us to believe that sadness is attributed to being weak. For instance, when you are feeling sad and are brave enough to verbalise or show it, you are told not to ‘stew’ or ‘wallow’ in it. In other words, even when you want to, you’re discouraged to feel sad. If you were raised in a family where it wasn’t safe to feel sad because you were criticised as being needy, you might judge your sadness and brush it aside. It results in you suppressing this vital emotion. A person may distract oneself from genuinely feeling sad. An individual may push it away with whichever manoeuvres the mind, body, and the brain can take to avoid any emotional discomfort. Sadness helps in understanding what’s happening within you and lets you process your feelings. For this reason, it’s a very important emotion. There’s nothing weak about feeling sad. There are no labels around sadness, it just is!   Recognising and Allowing Yourself to Feel Sad Sadness comes with a message of its own. ‘Feeling’ your sadness is essential as it tells you what’s missing. In other words, it conveys to you that there’s something that’s not currently present in your life. Often when you’re feeling sad, you’ll realise that your energy levels are depleting and it’s a task to get back up and re-engage. Sadness can do this to you. During times like these, your mind forces you to instantly fix what feels wrong and look for what’s missing. When your ‘fixing mind’ doesn’t give you what you need at that moment, it causes frustration and in turn leads to more sadness.  How can you recognise sadness in yourself? When you’re aware of triggers that make you sad, then know that it’s time to feel sad. Feeling sadness isn’t pleasant. However, by just letting yourself know that you’re sad by either saying “yes” or a simple nod when you feel a rush of sadness is a good way to begin. Acknowledging your emotion in this manner makes it easier to access it. You can now fully feel sadness without judging or analysing it. (This part doesn’t come easily. It takes practice to learn to recognise physical sensations with the experience of sadness).  Instead try and focus on your sadness and see what it is about. Any reasons come to mind or is it

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Mindfulness during difficult times

How To Use Mindfulness During Stressful Situations

How To Approach Mindfulness During Stressful Situations? In today’s times, mindfulness practices have become pretty well known as stress management practices. Even if one does not practice, one has at least heard of mindfulness as something that brings down stress. However, what still remains less known is, how to approach mindfulness during stressful situations? What to expect from it when one is going through an emotional upheaval?  For instance, you’re going through a particularly difficult phase in life like job loss, relationship loss, a significant life change, conflict and upheaval at home, a very hard part of your student life or career, a significant mental health issue, debilitating physical issues and so on. Does mindfulness magically wipe out your stress? Or does it help in more cumulative, subtle ways? Let’s find out! What to not expect from a Mindfulness Practice during a stressful situation? The main thing that you should not expect from mindfulness practices during a difficult time is – the typical image that comes to your mind when you think of mindfulness. A content person sitting on a hill, feeling light, blissful and worry free. This expectation can become your worst enemy during a difficult time and can cause you to believe that mindfulness isn’t helping. It can cause you to let go of the practice and lose out on all the benefits it actually brings about. If you are practicing mindfulness during a difficult time, it’s very helpful not to expect: Your mood to lift significantly Yourself to feel good for hours or days A clear, fresh mind for a long span of time Significantly improved memory and focus To stop worrying about your problems To stop feeling low or down You will most likely still feel difficult feelings, have worrying bouts, crying spells, anger bouts, emotional eating or binge shopping sprees -depending on how stress tends to manifest itself for you. Mindfulness does not erase this out, at least not until years of practice and learning take place. So if you expect to breathe and be for 10 minutes a day and then feel like the blissful person on the mountain, you will be sorely disappointed, something that is completely avoidable if you know what to expect! Mindfulness does not erase the humanness in you. Instead, it builds capacity and softness within you to receive and cope with that humanness better. So, now that we have dealt with what not to expect, do not despair, mindfulness has some very tangible and robust benefits that will help, especially as you practice. Let’s now look at the good news – how indeed mindfulness helps during a tough time! Research On Mindfulness Eager to learn more about mindfulness? We have gathered all of the recent studies on the benefits of mindfulness to help you unlock the path to greater well-being and mental clarity. Know More What You Can Expect From Mindfulness Practice In A Stressful Situation? Opportunity for a Reset: Even if it’s just for some time, you tend to feel lighter, clearer, more relaxed. This opportunity to reset is very important to fill your cup a bit while the difficulty empties it. A Break for the Nervous System: Your nervous system is going through a whole lot during difficult times. It remains wired up and dysregulated, sometimes for weeks or months together. Mindfulness practice helps this dysregulated nervous system stabilize for a bit. Your heart rate, blood pressure, breathing quality, muscle tension, digestion, circulation etc are all affected when you are under perpetual stress. Mindfulness helps all this stabilize at least for some time before you deal with the difficulty again. This helps your body and nervous system a great deal. It can help all your body and brain functions to reset and release at least for some time each day. When you are dealing with a chronic difficulty, this opportunity means a lot. The body gets some space to repair, the mind gets some space to just be. Opportunity for small little insights: When you return to stillness and the present moment (instead of being just in your head), it helps you think better, get some perspective/insight. This may not happen all the time but is of great help when it does. These little (or sometimes bigger) aha moments can open up new ways of seeing things when you feel like you’ve hit a dead end. The practice itself builds resilience – mindfulness practice in itself changes how stressed you feel and for how long. But this is a long term benefit and needs consistent practice. You can read more about the benefits of mindfulness here.  Better Ability to snap out of overthinking- With more practice, your ability to recognize when you are getting caught up in brooding and ruminating becomes better. You become better able to release the impulse to keep thinking and instead, just be. You become better able to check in with yourself and see when you are tired of stressing and to release that stress, just for a bit. This increased flexibility helps a whole lot during a difficult time. You do not then need an entire shopping spree or 3 pizzas to feel better. You become better able to regulate yourself, and decide when it’s time to stop stressing and just be in the moment. This is a huge benefit when we need to run a psychological marathon. It helps greatly in the ability to rest mentally. It helps greatly in being able to come back to the situation better once you have had that mental rest, even if it’s just for one activity like – ‘ I’m thinking while swimming, let me release my stress and just feel the water while I swim’. Hope this gives you some idea of how mindfulness is likely to help during difficult times. It’s like a silent friend. You feel like nothing is happening, but something is definitely happening. It’s just not as loud or obvious as, ‘I don’t think this will bother me anymore’. Its

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Agoraphobia and panic attacks

Exploring The Link Between Agoraphobia And Panic Attacks

What is Agoraphobia? Agoraphobia comprises two words of Greek origin. “Agora” means “open or public space” and “phobos” means fear. Thus, agoraphobia is a type of anxiety disorder that refers to the fear of open or public spaces, where you feel you won’t receive any help or can’t escape.  If you experience agoraphobia, you may feel helpless and trapped in public spaces or in crowds. You may feel like there would be no one to help you if something happens to you. You may also feel like you will lose control in public spaces.  Eventually, to avoid these overwhelming fears, you may avoid public spaces. You may also avoid going out of your house. This can negatively affect your personal relationships, work, or school. Agoraphobia is a scary, difficult experience for those who go through it. Yet, people many people are unaware of this disorder and its connection to panic attacks. This article explores this relationship between agoraphobia and panic attacks. We talk about why it is important to identify agoraphobia, and the consequences of neglecting it. We will also guide you through some ways through which you can manage agoraphobia.  Symptoms of Agoraphobia Agoraphobia is a form of anxiety disorder. Therefore, when you think about or visit public or open spaces, you may experience extreme anxiety. Agoraphobia symptoms often overlap with symptoms of anxiety and a panic, making it difficult to make sense of. If you are experiencing agoraphobia, you may notice the following symptoms when you are in, or imagine being in open, public spaces: Fear of losing control in a public space  Fear of not receiving help when needed  Fear of being trapped in a public space Fear of being away from home Fear of being in crowded and open spaces These fears can be suffocating and overwhelming for you. As a result, you may experience feelings of anxiety and panic.  Sometimes, the fear can be extreme, and can result in a panic attack. Due to the persistent and extreme anxiety, you may begin to avoid stepping out of your home. Going out alone to do everyday tasks can seem terrifying without a companion. And thus, you may spend most of your time at home as your fear holds you back. What Are The Common Triggers For Agoraphobia? There is a misconception that agoraphobia happens only in public spaces. There are other situations that can trigger agoraphobia as well. Agoraphobia manifests often in places such as: Shops, theaters, malls, hospitals, restaurants Public Transport Crowded Spaces A line or queue  Enclosed spaces such as elevators or cubicles These situations can trigger a panic attack, or can cause anxiety symptoms like shaking, sweating, nausea, rapid heartbeat, and shallow breathing. In a world that constantly requires you to step out of your home to get tasks done, it may be difficult for you to manage things like school, work, travel, or visits to the hospital.  What Is The Relationship Between Agoraphobia And Panic Attacks? There is a strong relationship between agoraphobia and panic attacks. Agoraphobia can often arise as a result of repeated panic attacks. Experiencing frequent panic attacks, especially in public spaces, can make you fear having a panic attack in public again.  You may worry about not receiving help, or losing control in public. These fears can bring up feelings of helplessness and embarrassment. Sometimes, the fear of having a panic attack in public can be intense enough to trigger another panic attack. This creates a vicious and endless cycle. Therefore, the anxiety about having a panic attack becomes even more difficult to manage than the actual panic attack. You may become highly sensitive to any situation that could potentially lead to another panic attack.  This sensitivity can make you avoid being in public spaces, thus leading to agoraphobia.  The core of agoraphobia and panic attacks are anxiety. It is therefore important to handle the underlying anxiety in order to manage the symptoms of the anxiety disorder. Working with the anxiety and its root cause will subsequently reduce the panic and the agoraphobia.  Are your anxieties holding you back? Counseling can be a great tool for you to manage and overcome agoraphobia and lead a happy, stress-free life. We are here for you. Book an Appointment Managing Agoraphobia Treating Agoraphobia and other anxiety disorders have a lot to do with regulating the nervous system, and addressing the underlying anxiety.  But, How do we regulate our nervous system? Some of the best ways to do this is to: Adopt a self-care practice: Incorporate meditation, mild exercise, and mindfulness into your everyday life. These practices can reduce your stress levels, heart rate, and release happy hormones into your body. They are simple, yet effective, ways to heal from within and manage your anxiety.  Go for Therapy: Therapy is a great way to seek professional guidance to manage agoraphobia. Therapists can work with you to understand the underlying patterns of thinking that contribute towards your fear of public spaces.  The ideal way to treat agoraphobia would be a combination of a good self-care and self-help regime, counseling, and medications, if required. By using these techniques and with time, you will be able to manage agoraphobia and lead a joyful life.  Counseling And Therapy For Agoraphobia At Inner Space, we believe that managing agoraphobia requires a multi-dimensional approach. Therefore, our therapists help you observe the underlying patterns of negative thoughts and beliefs, and regulate your nervous system and body through relaxation and somatic therapies.  It is important to find the right therapist to help you through an anxiety disorder, such as agoraphobia. Going for counseling can help you learn ways to manage everyday stress and reduce symptoms.  Anxiety disorders can be a tough experience to go through. However, with the right support, you can manage agoraphobia and live your life with ease. Self-Help Techniques For Agoraphobia There are numerous self-help techniques you can do by yourself to manage some symptoms of agoraphobia. Performing these techniques, along with therapy and/or medication, can improve your ability to manage the

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A Guide To Understanding And Managing Depression Symptoms

A Guide To Understanding And Managing Depression Symptoms

Depression is one of the most common mental health disorders. Currently, around 5% of adults in the world are suffering from depression. With a large number of people suffering from this disorder, there has been increased awareness surrounding it.  Despite this, there is considerable confusion between what can be considered sadness and depression. Therefore, understanding whether what you are going through is depression, lies in understanding the symptoms of depression.  Understanding the symptoms of depression, and what it is like can help you reach out for better mental health resources, treatment options, and work towards improving your mental health. In this article, we aim to give you more clarity on what depression is, it’s signs, some ways to manage depression, and options for treatment. However, if you are curious to learn more about sadness, and how to manage sadness, you can read more about it here.  Understanding The Symptoms Of Depression How can you tell if you are depressed? Depression can have clear, and sometimes vague signs, that go unnoticed.  Depression can be understood as a constant feeling of sadness or hopelessness, which doesn’t go away easily. Depression, like other mental health disorders, significantly impact your ability to function in your personal, social, school, and professional life. While screening for depression, here are some physical, mental, and emotional  Depression also manifests in the form of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms:  Physical symptoms Sudden weight loss or weight gain Shifts in sleep patterns, sleeping too much, or too less Anxiety about the future or past events Random pains, body aches, and numbness that come up without any explanation Excessive crying, or sometimes, finding it very difficult to cry Emotional and Mental Symptoms Irritation or anger towards yourself or others Excessive shame and guilt Engaging in reckless behavior such as binge drinking, drunk driving, so on Difficulty concentrating on tasks Feeling numb and zoned out during conversations Feeling lost and hopeless Feeling tired  Engaging in suicidal and self-harm behaviors, or having thoughts about suicide* We are not a crisis intervention center, hence if you feel actively suicidal or have frequent suicidal thoughts, we strongly recommend speaking to a crisis or suicide helpline. Differences Between Symptoms Of Depression And Sadness Depression can often look like extreme sadness. However, there are differences between the two that can help you effectively identify  what you are going through. -Sadness is a common, normal human emotion everyone experiences occasionally that goes away with time. But, depression is a serious mental health condition  that requires professional help and support.  -Sadness can be triggered by certain life events and usually have a cause behind the emotion. Depression can appear due to a variety of reasons and it can be difficult to identify a single trigger.  -While depression may appear to be similar to sadness to others, depression is more severe and intense, and its symptoms can take longer to alleviate than sadness.  -When compared to sadness, depression can severely impact normal functioning and the quality of our lives. Sadness is only temporary and usually doesn’t affect your daily life.  -Depression is also characterized by suicidal thoughts, and intentions to end one’s life. This, however, is not noticed with sadness. Dealing With Depression Symptoms The signs and symptoms of depression can often feel like there is little to no way out of it. However, there are numerous ways, apart from therapy or medication, to manage depression through self-help techniques. Here are some ways you can support yourself through depression. Seek support from the people around  you: Depression can often make you feel withdrawn from others. However, putting in slight efforts to engage with your family, friends, and loved ones can help you feel better. Talking to your loved ones about your feelings, can also make you feel heard and validated and can lessen the intensity of the depression. Engage in activities you like to do: A common symptom of depression is to lose interest in things you like to do usually. Therefore, trying to pursue your usual hobbies and newer ones can help you feel lighter and can improve your mood.  Maintain regular mild to moderate physical activity: Exercise and mild physical activities help in releasing endorphins, which are known as the “feel-good” hormones. Having a good amount of endorphins in your system helps you feel happier and can alleviate your symptoms of depression. Mild physical activity can also help in managing your sleep cycle and the pains in your body as well.  Manage Anxiety: Anxiety commonly occurs with depression. When anxiety happens along with depression, it can cause you to get stuck in negative thought spirals. With depression it also becomes easier for you to believe in the negative thoughts. Therefore, managing anxiety with the help of mindfulness meditation, therapy, and other techniques can help lessen the intensity of the depressive symptoms.  Notice your negative thoughts: This is inspired by Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, which is a form of therapy that works on unhelpful, negative thought patterns. With depression and anxiety, our mind tends to be stuck onto negative thoughts and core beliefs we hold true about ourselves, others, and the world. These extreme, negative thoughts can bring about negative emotions, which overtime lead to anxiety and depression. One of the first steps to work on depression is to observe the negative thoughts we have in our daily life. Noting these down and learning to believe in a more balanced version of these thoughts can therefore, bring about positive emotions.  Consume a balanced diet: Our gut is known as our “second brain.” Our brain and gut are in constant communication and their activities influence one another. Therefore, what we feed our gut ultimately affects what we think and how we feel. Having a balanced, healthy diet with limited processed foods can improve our gut health, which thereby improves our mental well-being.  Feeling low? Counseling can be a great tool for you to manage and overcome depression and lead a happy, balanced life. We are here for you. Book an Appointment Therapy

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: Overcoming The Constant Battle In Your Mind

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: Overcoming The Constant Battle In Your Mind

OCD is a deeply misunderstood disorder. Often, we see people around us referring to someone as being “extremely OCD,” when they are talking about someone who is keen on cleanliness and order.  When people talk about OCD, they tend to miss out on the more difficult, less-understood parts of it. It is much more than being a “neat-freak.” Learning more about the actual symptoms of OCD can help you understand the disorder better for yourself and others around you. This way, you can seek the right type of help and be aware of the signs of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.  This article is a guide to understanding what Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, is, its symptoms, treatment options, and ways to manage it.  What is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder? Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is an anxiety disorder where you can have repeated thoughts in your mind, which causes you extreme anxiety. These are known as “Obsessions.” As a result of these thoughts, you may feel anxious. And to feel better, you may find the need to do something. These are referred to as “Compulsions.”  If you experience OCD, you may also experience severe anxiety, guilt, and difficulty in leading a normal life. Thus, it would be incorrect to assume that someone who is simply particular about being clean and orderly has OCD. Common Obsessions in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Obsessions are repeated, intrusive thoughts you may experience. These thoughts could be shameful, scary, or worrying in nature. Sometimes, people may also have obsessive thoughts that go against their cultural and religious beliefs.  Obsessions aren’t simply “thoughts.” Obsessions are relentless thoughts and ideas that can keep bothering you and cause you a lot of discomfort. They are difficult to get rid of.  While obsessions may vary with each individual, there are some common obsessions that occur in OCD. These are: Fearing that you will be contaminated with germs, or that you will be dirty.  Having unacceptable intrusive thoughts about sex and religion that goes against personal and societal beliefs.  Feeling like everything should be symmetrical, in order, or be “just perfect.” Worrying excessively whether you or someone you know may experience something awful (like death or an accident.) Many people may experience a fear of losing their loved ones, or may have sexual fantasies, or may feel like everything should look neat. These are quite common and normal.  But, these thoughts turn into obsessions when they become intrusive and keep you from having a healthy life.  Common Compulsions In Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Also, at times obsessions can feel extreme, immoral, or unacceptable. You may feel like you are unable to control or get rid of it. So a way to reduce the anxiety we feel from these thoughts is to do certain things or “compulsions.” Compulsions are actions you do to reduce the anxiety, fear, or shame created by obsessive thoughts. Some of the common compulsions are: To feel more clean and free from germs, you may repeatedly wash your hands with soap, sanitize your hands, take frequent baths, or you may avoid sharing items with others.  To reduce unacceptable thoughts of sex or religion, you may pray more, or use certain rituals to avoid the thoughts. To manage the thoughts of things being perfect, you may ensure that you follow a strict routine, you may spend a lot of time ensuring things are in correct order.  To handle the fear of something dangerous happening to you or your loved one, you may repeatedly check if you or others are safe. You may look out for weapons, or check if there is anything that may cause harm.  Compulsions are not just “habits.” They are a response to the overwhelming fear and anxiety you may experience from obsessive thoughts.  Compulsions can impact your self-esteem, ability to function normally, and may cause you to avoid situations or people that can trigger these feelings. You may feel deeply guilty, conscious, or shameful of what your mind tells you. You may also feel powerless over your mind.  However, OCD is a completely manageable condition. With the right support and professional help, you can address the root cause of your OCD, and work towards a peaceful and happy life.  What Causes Obsessive Compulsive Disorder? Like other Anxiety Disorders, OCD is also deeply rooted in anxiety.  These anxieties could be deeper fears about losing control, dying, or may fear being unattractive or unloved. Since these anxieties are too painful, uncontrollable, or difficult to process, our brain creates ways to gain a sense of relief and control over the anxiety.  Thus, acting on the compulsions can bring us temporary relief from the anxious, obsessive thoughts. OCD also protects us by making us avoid things that trigger our fears. For example, those who may experience fear of being contaminated may avoid using common items, or visiting public places.  OCD can be caused due to genetics, or may be linked to stressful life events. It may also co-occur with other anxiety disorders. We understand how disturbing, exhausting, and difficult OCD can be.  However, with support and time, you will be able to manage these obsessive thoughts without feeling deeply anxious. Are your anxieties holding you back? Counseling can be a great tool for you to manage and overcome Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and lead a happy, stress-free life. We are here for you. Book an Appointment Managing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder OCD is a condition that can be managed with the right kind of self and professional support, and lifestyle changes. We have mentioned some ways OCD can be managed below: Since OCD is an anxiety disorder, it can worsen with stress. Therefore, following a healthy diet, exercising, and taking up hobbies can reduce your stress levels and OCD symptoms.  Meditation and Mindfulness are great tools for you to stay focused, present, and feel less stressed. Performing deep breathing and mindful awareness exercises can make you feel more in control of the situation. Sometimes being simply aware that you are having an obsessive thought can put

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