What is the difference between someone who is able to take a negative event in his/her stride and someone who gets dragged down even by supposedly minor events? The answer to this lies in not just what we think but how we think. In our cognitive distortions
“What if My 3 year old tells me he saw a ghost or monster? How should I respond? Should I ask him more about what he saw? Or should I divert his attention?” Sometimes, as parents, you are not sure what the best response would be. You might wonder whether asking the child more would make him/her recollect what he saw and feel scared. On the other hand, will it help him talk it out and feel better? Well, as therapists, we would vouch for letting him express himself. The reasons for this are many.
Why not just visit a psychotherapist when you have no problems? When you go to a psychotherapist when there is no problem, you have the space to explore and reflect on your life. The intention would be solely for optimizing your life. It’s like talking to a dietician about how to modify your diet when you don’t have cholesterol or diabetes.
Most of us get overwhelmed some time or the other. At such times, it is natural to wonder where it is all going . Sometimes it is difficult to determine how 'okay' it is to feel something so intensely or to go a through a difficult situation just by yourself and for how long. At Inner Space, often people write in to us asking, "How do I know whether I should seek counseling or just manage by myself."
Rusty is an intense character with a depressing past. He is shown to be a misanthrope, highly self-aware, truthful, responsible, messed up, cruel, obsessive, perceptive, intelligent - all rolled in one. But why are his defenses designed to keep him from experiencing happiness?
Paul Spector is a grief counsellor by day and a serial killer by night. Why does Paul kill young women, what is going on in his psyche during the murders and how do his defenses help him survive and cope?
Dr. House seems to be this bitter, grumpy, cynical middle- aged man full of pride and lacking empathy. However, we can surmise that this image is but a defense. In what ways does Dr. House manage to maintain an emotional distance when relating to others and why does he need to do it?
The very perceptive CIA Agent, Carrie, often digs out solutions that others may miss. She seems driven by her principles to catch the bad guys, and to uphold justice. In dealing with people who embody terrorism, she is objective and often ruthless. However, there are times when her objectivity can be questioned.
Spiritual practices and beliefs help us in many ways. They give us a sense of peace and solace, when times are tough. They also help us foster gratitude and guide us in our daily lives. Who would ever think that a religious or a spiritual belief or practice, could be a defense mechanism? [...]
Ruthless, narcissist, vile - she's called many things. You either love Cersei Lannister or you hate her. Being one of the most complex characters in the fantasy world today she also has several defenses at the core of her being - that almost make up the essence of who she is.