Whenever I ask people : 'How are you?' Often the reply is,“I am busy” or “I am crazy busy”. Very rarely do I hear “I am fine, I have a lot of things to do that I enjoy” or “I am feeling exhausted, I need help”. Yes, people seem to be busy all the [...]
It is hard to come by a person who has not experienced moments when they are swallowed up by a vacuum within themselves and in their lives. For many, these moments are fleeting. But some of us have a sense of meaninglessness deeply entrenched in our lives. The questions What am I doing here?, [...]
Our last post talked about the difference between fear and a phobia, and what it feels like to have a phobia. Once one knows the implications of living with a phobia, it becomes easier to empathise with those dealing with one. As a next step, one might ask - How can I deal with [...]
Most of us use the ‘word’ phobia rather casually. We often hear such exclamations as, “I really hate Maths… I think I have a phobia of numbers!” or “I don’t socialize much- It's like I have social phobia!” But what really is a phobia, and how is it different from the more generic, everyday [...]
What is the difference between someone who is able to take a negative event in his/her stride and someone who gets dragged down even by supposedly minor events? The answer to this lies in not just what we think but how we think. In our cognitive distortions
“What if My 3 year old tells me he saw a ghost or monster? How should I respond? Should I ask him more about what he saw? Or should I divert his attention?” Sometimes, as parents, you are not sure what the best response would be. You might wonder whether asking the child more would make him/her recollect what he saw and feel scared. On the other hand, will it help him talk it out and feel better? Well, as therapists, we would vouch for letting him express himself. The reasons for this are many.
Why not just visit a psychotherapist when you have no problems? When you go to a psychotherapist when there is no problem, you have the space to explore and reflect on your life. The intention would be solely for optimizing your life. It’s like talking to a dietician about how to modify your diet when you don’t have cholesterol or diabetes.
Most of us get overwhelmed some time or the other. At such times, it is natural to wonder where it is all going . Sometimes it is difficult to determine how 'okay' it is to feel something so intensely or to go a through a difficult situation just by yourself and for how long. At Inner Space, often people write in to us asking, "How do I know whether I should seek counseling or just manage by myself."
Rusty is an intense character with a depressing past. He is shown to be a misanthrope, highly self-aware, truthful, responsible, messed up, cruel, obsessive, perceptive, intelligent - all rolled in one. But why are his defenses designed to keep him from experiencing happiness?
Paul Spector is a grief counsellor by day and a serial killer by night. Why does Paul kill young women, what is going on in his psyche during the murders and how do his defenses help him survive and cope?