You are in a whirlwind of emotions, following the discovery of your spouse’s affair. Your perceptions and thoughts could be hugely affected and can greatly influence your decisions. This article has pointers from our team that can help you undertake this journey from the initial discovery to eventual decisions in as healthy a way as possible.
While the world looks at someone involved in an extramarital relationship as a culprit, as psychologists we understand that it is no easy space to be in. There are real psychological struggles involved.
In this article, which is part II of our series of three articles on extramarital affairs, we have focused on the struggles of the person who is involved in an extramarital relationship and have offered some insights to work towards a possible resolution.
As time goes by, the dynamics of marriage as an institution are changing. The demands on people from within and outside a marital relationship are higher. Sometimes, amidst these numerous and stressful demands, people are not able to feel fulfilled emotionally and might seek relief and solace outside their marriage. In this article, as a team of psychologists, we discuss and enumerate the main psychological reasons for extramarital affairs.
We specialize in combining psychotherapy with deep wellness practices like mindfulness and meditation and creating a customized mental health plan for individuals and organisations.
We specialize in combining psychotherapy with deep wellness practices like mindfulness and meditation and creating a customized mental health plan for individuals and organisations.
A young woman from another country moved with her family to live for one year in a town near the monastery. When, in the course of the year she discovered the monastery, she would periodically visit to have discussions with the Abbess. The Abbess introduced her to meditation, which became very meaningful for the young woman.
When the family’s year-long stay was drawing to an end, the young woman asked the Abbess, “In my country there is no Buddhism and no one has even heard about meditation. How can I continue to learn and deepen the practice you have started me on?”
The Abbess said, “When you return home ask far and wide for who, among the wise people, is recognized as having the greatest ability to listen. Ask that person to instruct you in the art of listening. What you learn about listening from such a person will teach you how to further your meditation practice.
― Gil Fronsdal, A Monastery Within: Tales from the Buddhist Path
