This is the second sharing in our World Health Day series. The last one was on Lack of Routine and its impact on physical health. Today’s sharing is on Psychosomatic Symptoms and its relationship with chronically unprocessed emotions. In my therapy practice, I see several clients coming in with complaints like chronic body pain, asthma, ulcerative …
dealing with negative emotions
It is hard to come by a person who has not experienced moments when they are swallowed up by a vacuum within themselves and in their lives. For many, these moments are fleeting. But some of us have a sense of meaninglessness deeply entrenched in our lives. The questions What am I doing here?, What is …
“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” “The fault dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.” William Shakespeare We have always been told that situations don’t define us, but what matters is our attitude towards the situation. So then, what is the difference …
Those who have social anxiety fear social situations. This fear could be felt in all social situations or it could be about a specific kind of social situation: public speaking, going to parties, attending meetings, talking to classmates or colleagues, making phone calls, eating in public, buying something from a store, etc. The anxiety experienced in these social situations is strongly connected to the fear of being judged negatively by others.
I feel so worried
I’m extremely sad today
I’m very very angry
A feeling is equal to some thoughts and a state of mind – is that it though? When you speak of sadness, anger, fear, despair what do you think these emotions really include? A lot of us mistakenly believe that emotions are just about some thoughts and the way one feels.
This understanding is hugely incomplete
Emotions have a big, big manifestation in the body too. In fact, the body is the seat of emotions.
Body Image is what you think and feel about your physical self or your body. As you enter adolescence, “body image” takes center stage and you will have days when you start to feel awkward and uncomfortable in your body. This article introduces you to a healthier and more positive way of looking at yourself and your body.
You are in a whirlwind of emotions, following the discovery of your spouse’s affair. Your perceptions and thoughts could be hugely affected and can greatly influence your decisions. This article has pointers from our team that can help you undertake this journey from the initial discovery to eventual decisions in as healthy a way as possible.
When you are upset, tired or stressed, it becomes difficult to focus at work. You are more vulnerable to distractions and everything takes twice as long to do.
“I have been going through a difficult time since the past couple of days. I am shifting to a new house and there are soooo many things to take care of. It is very stressful and it is creating a tense family atmosphere as well. There are projects to finish at work but I find my mind drifting to these problems. It is becoming really difficult to concentrate at my job. My personal problems are starting to get the better of me. It’s affecting my work now! I don’t know what to do about it…”
– Mr.K.L, Senior Manager.
“It’s affecting my work.” Most of us have used this line at some time; generally, when something is going wrong in our personal life and it is starting to affect our productivity at work. It could be a fight with a friend. A neighbour who is causing you unnecessary trouble. Or like Mr. K.L, a tense family environment.
We feel stressed and our mind seems in disarray. It becomes difficult to focus on the task at hand. You don’t feel like working and you struggle to make it through the day.
Through our posts, we’ve been talking about how it is okay to seek help and how seeking help is a sign of strength, not of weakness.
We understand that even then, when you do decide to go in for counseling, you might have some doubts or apprehensions-
“What really is counseling?”
“What happens in these sessions?”
“Will it actually help?”
These are real questions and a lot of people we interact with do voice them as well. So, we decided that real questions deserve real answers; we asked some of those who have been in therapy with us, to share what therapy or counseling means to them.
Yesterday, we spoke about how consciously taking care of your emotional health goes a long way in nurturing and strengthening yourself.
Today, we address a slightly deeper issue.
What happens when sometimes, you feel stuck at an impasse? When you know internally that something is not quite okay… that you’re feeling a certain way and you don’t want to continue feeling like that?
You try to resolve it. Yes, it’s good to do that. You’d try and check what’s going wrong; you’d try to correct it.
What happens if still, those stresses or feelings don’t get better? Then what do you do? Turn to friends, family and other people you can trust. This is also good. People who know us act as sounding boards and support us.
But sometimes, even after talking to them, you feel that things are still not okay; like there are some knots that are entangled, and just won’t loosen up.
What then would you do?