In life, many of us hold on to just so many of things… We hold on to insults, grudges, traumas, fights, criticisms and what not. While it is necessary to think things through and have a problem solving approach, is it really necessary to keep it alive and kicking all the time by consistently focusing on it? Is it helpful to hold on to all your pain? Taking your attention and your energy off your problems can be immensely therapeutic. While it helps you de-stress and relax your tired frantic mind, the process of incubation can also lead to significant new insights actually enabling you to solve the problem in a better way than before.
So while you will inadvertently hold and be held in conflicts and problems every now and then, what’s more important is that you remember to PUT THEM DOWN. Holding on will not help. It will make you tired, irritable, anxious and ineffective. Can u really do anything about the glass or the water in it as long as you’re holding it, just holding it? Instead try putting it down, just for today and see the difference it makes in your ability to do something about it the next day. Give yourself a time-out for today, and check if the world falls apart or things go really wrong without your constant worry. Maybe it’s safe to put things down, maybe it’s okay. Meditation and being mindful are the simplest most practical ways of putting things down, at least for those few minutes. Try it today.
Post contributed by: Mahima Gupta (Psychologist, Inner Space, 2010-2012)