Counseling for Children and Adolescents

Child and Adolescent Counseling aims at providing your young ones with an environment where they can explore their difficulties through age appropriate and holistic approaches.

A Mindfulness &
Self-Awareness Guide
By Sadia Saeed

This book is written with an intention to help children & adolescents adopt perspective and practices to live life joyfully, to initiate valuable learnings from Indian wisdom traditions early in life and to avoid learning unhealthy patterns that will lead to mental health difficulties later.

What Is The Focus of child and adolescent counseling ?

1. Enabling Self Expression :

  • The objective here is to help children and adolescents fully express their needs, worries and anxieties.
  • Puppets, games, colors, make-believe play and story-telling sessions help us build rapport and understand the inner world of children and teens. 
  • This helps us understand important aspects about children and teens such as self-esteem, how loved they feels and how they relate to people around.

2. Understanding Roots of Behaviour:  

  • On the basis of the above, we identify the roots of the problem behaviours. In most cases, the roots lie in unfulfilled emotional needs.
  • This manifests in behaviors ranging from aggression to social isolation and depression, as children and teens do not often have enough resources at their disposal to understand how to deal with negative emotions.
  • The family environment and parent-child relationships are also often conflicted, leading to further emotional pile up in the child.
  • Recognizing these underlying needs is a core step of child and adolescent counselling and helps a great deal in remedying behavioral difficulties. 

3. Modifying Behaviour:

  • In this phase of therapy, we help children and adolescents satisfy their needs in productive ways. Enhancing self-esteem is almost always a core aim here, along with instilling feelings of emotional security.
  • We also work on their  social skills in order to help them deal better with their environment.
  • Often, changes are required in the home environment as well, so as to help the child. Thus, we have periodic sessions with the parents to help them gain more perspective about their child and understand their role in determining their child’s behavior.

Many children today face several stressors at home, school and with peers. At a time when their minds are growing and they are forming impressions of how the world is, it is very important to work on such stressors in order to prevent the formation of long standing emotional and behavioral difficulties.

389 thoughts on “Child Counselling”

  1. Dear Vishnu,

    It must be quite painful for your daughter to go through this and even difficult for you to see her suffering. Thank you for reaching out to us. We would like to support you both through counseling and for the same, we have e-mailed you our details.

    Feel free to call us on 9833985538 for further assistance!

    Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  2. Hello,
    My 10 year old sister is suffering from horror. Whenever she goes to any where or any room, kitchen, washroom etc. she wants a shelter of parents.
    She never goes anywhere without then even in day time.

  3. Dear Pranav,

    Thank you for reaching out and sharing the challenges you are experiencing. We would like to support your son through child counseling. We have e-mailed you our details.

    Feel free to call us on 9833985538 for further assistance!

    Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  4. My son Pranav is week in education, he was good 3 years before but now too many frineds near home always interest in playing. rather study, even Abacus classes he is not showing full interest, or maths very week.. laziness fond of more eating, tell tales some times, or talk with out knowing, need some counseling,
    Failure to pay close attention to details having trouble focusing or concentrating on tasks
    Forgetful about completing tasks
    Seems distracted even when spoken to directly
    The tendency to lose things necessary for tasks and activities (books, pens, etc.)
    Am bit worried he might need some counseling to set himself correct !! your advise and if any classes or fee required.. Thanks

  5. Dear Natarajan,

    Thank you for reaching out.
    We can only imagine how difficult this might be for your daughters, your wife and you.
    We have sent you an email with details.
    We wish you all the best.

    regards
    Inner Space Team

  6. Natarajan Subramanian

    Hi Team,

    Am a father of 2 girl children. One of my daughters loosing interest in studies. Especially to be precise she is getting weak in one of the subjects only. Am not there in my hometown but here in other location where when I had to take care of anything I had to travel for 24 hours by train or I had to fly. Often flying is difficult and getting leaves from office for a week or so is not that easy on a monthly basis. In order to support my kids my father-in-law is there. My wife is working. We are giving headsup and proper counsel every now and then I give suggestions over the phone and her mom gives heart and soul to groom the kids.
    Though there is response on the suggestions whereby she improves the moment we advise or suggest her. She is not a dullard but not a brilliant student as well. On the other hand she’s getting weak in her studies but showing interest in seeing the TV and other online stuffs such as some useful drawings etc. When mobile is pulled from their hands both children cries and they right each other always. I have put full stop for the fights by telling them that I will stop speaking with initiator of the fight for one year.

    Now my question is about my elder daughter who is 9 year old now. Should we need to go through the counselling through your team or you may suggest some counselling tips and tricks to handle this situation. Let my child study in a normal way. I don’t want to pressurise her but concerned about her loosing concentration. Please suggest.

  7. Hi Purusottam

    Thank you for reaching out.
    We can only imagine how tough it might be for your child and for you as well.
    We will be happy to book an appointment for the consultation session.
    We have emailed you the details.
    Feel free to call us on 9833985538 if you have any queries.

    Take care

    regards
    Inner Space Team

  8. Purusottam Bhattacharya

    My daughter at the age of 12 years is not interested in studying attentively. she does not like to have good items but outside food is very attractive to her. she does not pay heed any word of us or others. every day complaint against is coming to us from her school, tuitor. we are trying to realise the situation heart and soul but no improvement. we are in very crisis for our daughter. please give some suggestions for her to be gentle, calm, attentive. please help us.

  9. Hi,
    My son shows an aversion towards studies…apart from that he is a normal kid…kindly guide me

  10. Hi Manjula,

    Thank you for writing to us. We will be happy to support you and know more from you.
    We have sent you the details about counseling via email.

    Warm Regards
    The Inner Space Team

  11. Hi,

    I would like to get in touch with you regarding my child’s problem with respect to studies Could you please provide the necessary details?

    Thanks!

  12. Hi Bhuvaneshwari,

    Thank you for writing to us. We have emailed you child counseling’s details as requested. Could you please check your inbox.

    Take care

    Warm regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  13. Hi Deepa,

    Thank you for writing to us. Sometimes as parent it can be quite tough to tackle such issues. We would like to support your child via counselling.
    We are sharing with you, some details of the process and fee structure of the same. Kindly check your your email for details.

    Warm Regards
    The Inner Space Team

  14. Hello, My Son is studying in 9th class. He is not showing much of interest in his studies, as a result he is doing horrible in exam. In fact he got red mark in 1 subject in last half yearly exam. His interest lies in gymnastics & not in study. I am working mother. I feel guilty as i can’t give time to him & his studied. His father always remains out of town due to work. There is general procedure of his school that if the student doesn’t score 75% they deny for 10th admission. I am very worried.

  15. Hi Sumita,

    Thank you for reaching out.

    We are glad to hear about your younger sister’s recovery. We wish your sister and family all the very best for her recovery.

    We are glad that you are seeking help for the concerns that you have. Sometimes it can be quite tough to tackle such issues. We would like to support your 8 year old niece via counselling. Initially, you can book a consultation session with our therapist. Usually, in case of children, the first session is conducted with the parents/close relatives or guardian.

    We are sharing with you, some details of the process and fee structure of the same. Kindly check your email for more.
    Do take care.

    Warm Regards
    Pushpendra
    The Inner Space Team

  16. My 8-year old niece is quite well-behaved with me. But, when it comes to her parents, especially mom, she shows too much aggressiveness. Her mom (my younger sister) is recovering from stage 2 brain cancer,for which she is not quite active like other ‘normal’ mothers. Though she does beyond her capabilities, but certain things take time. My niece tends to ignore her or talks rudely, and is very much addicted to mobile games. She is also very much attached to our dog and whenever gets the chance, starts playing with him. She feels shy among strangers, forgets to tell about the home work given by teachers and at the last moment asks her parents that techer has told to bring this and that to school. She lacks concentration also, as per her class teacher, and tries to put blame on her friends. She is otherwise a very helpful, jolly, girl. When I try to make her read something, she shows interest, keen on Maths. But rude behavior, telling tales, lack of concentration – causing us great trouble. Please advise what to do.

  17. Hi Sandip,

    Thank you for writing to us. We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

    Warm regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  18. Dear Team Inner space,

    My name is Sandip kadam, My son is of 4 years old, He is very shy at outside environment like in school, relatives place.

    So he not able to respond to teachers, please let me know about help can be provided from your side

  19. Hi Vipul,

    Thank you for writing to us. We can imagine how tough it might be for you as a parent.

    We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

    Warm regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  20. Dear Sir/Madam,

    My daughter is 5 years old, She is regularly going to school. No complaints from school, but she never tells her mother about the activities carried in school or any homework given by her teacher. We both husband & wife are working. Most of the time I am out of town. Whenever my wife comes from office she starts crying on petty things and starts beating to her mother. If her mother asks her what teacher taught in school she says have you not received whats app msg. She is least bothered about studies. Please help me.

  21. We understand your concerns about your son. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be very overwhelming for teenagers. There may be several reasons underlying your son’s difficulties. To support him, we need to identify his concerns in a deeper light. You could consult a counsellor from our team, to understand ways in which we can support him in managing his concerns adequately.

    We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  22. takshasila public school

    Dear sir,
    My son is 9 yeas old he is unable to write a and the school teachers has advised to meet counsellor but in other things in good what will be the reason

  23. Dear Devarajan,

    We understand your concerns about your son. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be very overwhelming for teenagers. There may be several reasons underlying your son’s difficulties. To support him, we need to identify his concerns in a deeper light. You could consult a counsellor from our team, to understand ways in which we can support him in managing his concerns adequately.

    We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  24. My son is studying 9th standard in Kendriya Vidyalaya. He always scores 25% to 30% marks in examinations. He works hard. He studies regularly. When he gets such marks, he is very much pained. But, I never scold or beat him. Every time, I try to analyze why he has failed, but I involve myself in improving him. But, the story repeats. He does not have any abnormalities, except that he stammers. He does have good friends. Please advise me how to make him score at least 60% in all subjects.

  25. Dear Rajashri,

    We understand this must be really worrying for you. Having to deal with the difficulties in academics, like a lack of interest, and so on, may be very overwhelming for your son. It can deeply impact his well-being in many ways. There could be many reasons underlying these difficulties. To support him further, we need to identify his concerns and accordingly help him find ways to manage the same adequately. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  26. Hello, My Son is studying in 9th class. I am noticing that he is loosing interest in study, as a result his doing horrible in exam. In fact he got red mark in 3-4 subject in last half yearly exam.He is very sensitive person. His interest is each & every type of vehicles, food, cricket, cycling & not in study. I am working mother. I felt always guilty as i can’t give time to him & his studied. His father is always remains out of town due to work. There is general procedure of his school that if the student doesn’t score 75% they denies for 10th admission. I am very worried. We have gone through counselling before last 2 years. But there is no improvement in his progress. Please help.

  27. Dear Ekta,

    We understand your concerns about your nephew. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be very overwhelming for children. There may be several reasons underlying your nephew’s difficulties. To support your him, we need to identify his concerns in a deeper light. You could consult a counsellor from our team, to understand ways in which we can support him in managing his concerns adequately.

    We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  28. Hi My nephew is 13 yr old, He is weak in studies, not able to score minimum marks also, He is putting all the efforts doing studies, but very weak in academic studies. Please guide us in the same regards.

  29. Dear Vaskar,

    This must be a difficult time for your child and you. As a parent, it can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand. There could be several reasons why your child is displaying the concerns you mentioned. Often children tend to have varying interests, and so they may display interest in many things apart from academics. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which can show up in terms of academic difficulties, lack of interest in studies, and so on. In some cases, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their ability to perform academically.

    To support your child, we need to understand his concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly help him find ways to manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the process and fee structure for the same. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  30. Hi

    My Son is 11 Years now and he is in Class V. He is not naughty at home or out side home when we are around but his class teach keep on complaining that he does not listen to her or do not follow class work, in fact most of time he disturb other child in Class. I am noticing that he is loosing interest in study, as a result his doing horrible in exam. In fact he got red mark in one subject in last half yearly exam. Normally his mother takes care of my son for everythings but he does not listen to my wife, most of time he argues with mom. My wife is little soft and fulfill all his desire as a result his demand is going up but he does fulfill his mother’s expectation. Please help.

  31. Dear Dipak,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you. As parents, it can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand. Having to deal with boredom and so on can be very overwhelming for your son as well. It can deeply impact his functioning in many ways.

    There could be several reasons underlying this concern. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of a lack of interest in studies, and so on. However, in some instances, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their ability to perform in different activities, which makes it hard to sustain interest in the same.

    To support your son further, we need to identify his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support your son via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the process and fee structure of counselling. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us for the same.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  32. My son is at sixth std. not at all interested for study and also not obeying parents from last six months, He is intelligent but not touching any books. .His behaviour towards society is excellent except for his parents.

  33. Dear Mayank,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for all of you. Having to deal with behavioural concerns in your child can be overwhelming. There could be several reasons underlying your child’s behaviours. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of aggressive behaviours like hitting and kicking, and so on. However, in some instances, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to understand instructions and behave accordingly.

    To support your son further, we need to identify his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details as you requested. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  34. Hi, my son is 4yrs 9 months now… he is a sweetheart but we have seen a sudden change in his behavior for instance he has started giving back answer to me, my wife and even my parents. Recently also heard some bad words, although I am sure he is small enough to understand the meaning of these words, but just need to put a break on this and want your help in bringing back to what he was… He has also started to kick us if we do not listen or throw anything in hand to make us fulfill his needs. We really care and have tried our best to counsel him various times but as we both are working, we are not able to give him required time. Still we manage to reach home by 7.00 pm and spends as much time as we can. Kindly mail me with your detail counseling along with the fees.

  35. Dear Umesh,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for your son. Having to deal with difficulties in academic performance can be very overwhelming. The added pressure of being in the 10th standard can make it hard to cope. All this could cause a lot of anxiety in you as a parent. Counselling as a process could help him and you explore these concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly find ways to manage the same.

    We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details as you requested. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  36. my son in is in 10th standard and very poor & not at all serious in his studies, whenever we ask him about his future planning every time he told us that he want he just want to make his life in football, but by seeing the future of sports in india, i am very much worried for him. what is the fee structure and how to take appointment for teenage councelling ? Kindly help me.

  37. Dear Roopak,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for your daughter. Having to deal with difficulties in academic performance, in relationship with peers, and so on can be very overwhelming for children. As a parent, this may cause you a lot of anxiety as well.

    There could be several reasons underlying your daughter’s difficulties. Often, children tend to have varying interests, and so may develop interests in areas other than academics. At times, children may experience some emotional difficulties which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotional difficulties could then manifest in terms of reduced interest in studies, difficulty performing academic tasks, and so on. In some cases, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to perform well in studies. To support your daughter further, we need to understand her concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly help her find ways to manage the same.

    Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support your daughter and you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the same. Please go through it and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  38. My Daughter will be 15 in another 4 months. Since last year she has lost interest in her studies and her grades are going down. when she starts learning 1 page she spend the whole day and still not learning it. The moment she sits for studies either she has to go to washroom, starts feeling thirsty & sleepy. and if that very moment we start gossiping with her she don’t feel like urge of going to washroom , her thirst is quenched and gets fully awake. She had lost interest in friends in fact there is no one in her age group whom she can call friends. For playing i am the only one who plays with her when ever i can. it is not that we force or put preassure her to get the first class grades but do ask her to get atleast above average grades . we try to counsel her that she has to study all the subject atleast till 10th and after that she can choose the subject or course of her chioce. She is losing emotional touch inspite of we are giving her a good time she used to have with us she gets bored of the things very early. i do not know what to do. can you advise and help?

  39. Dear Saatvika,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for all of you. Having to deal with difficulties in academic performance can be very overwhelming for your brother. Counselling as a process could help him explore his concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly find ways to manage the same. We would like to support him via counselling. We have sent you an email with some details of the process and fee structure. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  40. saatvika dhumeja

    Hello team,

    I have my younger brother who is in 11th standard and doesnt want to study at all. He doesnt even hear to my parents. He is very stubborn. all he wants is playing football all the time. parents are really stressed out because of him. Please revert.

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  42. Dear Deepali,

    We understand that this is a worrisome time for you as a parent. It can be very overwhelming when your child is facing academic difficulties. Having to deal with these concerns must be very hard for your son.

    There could be several reasons for these difficulties. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotional difficulties may then manifest as reduced academic performance, inactivity, aloofness, and so on.

    In some instances, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to perform academically.

    To support your child further, we need to understand his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same.

    Counselling as a process could help us in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the the process and fee structure. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  43. hi,
    mera ladka 3.5 years ka hai…. abhi wo Jr. Kg. m hain. par wo studies k naam se hi rona start karta h…Reading m use interest hai… but writing k naam se hi wo rona shuru karta h…Maths writing wo 1 to 50 numbers likhta h. but a, b, c, d likhne k liye wo jara b tayar nahi hota. aur gussa hone p main use kabhi kabhi marti b hu….Pl advise me.

  44. Dear Shashi Kumar,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you. To support you further, we need to get a clearer understanding of your concerns, and accordingly assist you in finding ways to manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We have sent you details of the counselling process and fee structure. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  45. Hi, i am writing to talk about my son who is 12 years old and is very talkitive. he does not listens to parents and is very difficult to manage. My wife is very stressed as this is a delicate age to slip or shape up. he behaves like kid of age 8.and we are in joint family my father and mother are too fond and lienen to him. my wife is getting difficult to handle and we are stressed about that now. Pl revert, what can we do to ensure that she understands the point of view of her parents and alter his behaviour

  46. Dear Mandy,

    We understand that as a parent, this is a worrisome time for you. Children’s academic performance can be a major cause of concern for parents. Having to deal with difficulties in performing academic tasks like writing can be quite overwhelming for your son.

    There may be several reasons underlying the concerns that you mentioned. To support him further, we need to understand his concerns better. Accordingly, we can then help him find ways to manage them. Counselling as a process could help us in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the process and fee structure of counselling. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  47. hi my son is 11 years.his school books are away not up to date.his teachers keep complaining abt his bad behavior..he only loves to draw dragon and watch cartoons.everyday there is a fight in school.he back chats at the teachers but at home he listen to me only.he also talks alot.but his teachers said he can be a+student.he hates writing.he writes like a grade r pupil.all my nieces nephews are doing very well in school except him.so they always mock him.please help me.very stressed mom try my best to help him but it of no use. .

  48. Dear Amit,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be overwhelming for your nephew as well. It can impact his functioning in many ways.

    There could be several reasons why he is facing difficulties in academic performance. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard for them to express. These emotions may then show up in terms of difficulty concentrating in studies, lack of interest in the same, and so on. In some instances, children may have a genuine difficulty in terms of their ability to perform academically.

    To support your nephew further, we need to identify his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly help him find ways to manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We have sent you an email with the details of counseling at our centre. However, as we are located in Mumbai, we suggest that you look for counselling centres in and around your area, to seek guidance regarding your nephew’s concerns.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  49. Amit Dasharath Narwade

    Dear Sir,

    My nephew is 13 yrs and is in 8th std in an CBSC school in surat, he is very hyper,noughty, least interested in studies / cannot concentrate / cant focus due to this he is unable to understand the concept of international pattern but at the same time is quite smart and intelligent. He is more intrested in sports only. One thing we observed that, he came in contact with some bad childrens in school. He is attracted toward them, so doing some unexpected behavior some times.Hence need to take your advice and guidance. pl advice

  50. Dear Debasmita,

    This must be a difficult time for you. It can be very overwhelming when your child experiences difficulties like insecurity, being slow in physical tasks, and so on. There could be several reasons why your son may be experiencing these difficulties. In some situations, children experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard for them to communicate. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of insecurity, discomfort in an unfamiliar set up, and so on. To support you in managing your son’s concerns, we need to understand his concerns in a greater depth. This could be done through gentle conversations with your son about his feelings, or through stories, play, art, and so on. Counselling as a process could also help us in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. If you have any query, please feel free to reach out to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  51. Dear Kusum,

    We understand that as a parent, this is a worrisome time for you. It can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand. At times, children may face overwhelming emotions in certain situations. These may be hard for them to express. These emotional difficulties may then show up in terms of behaviours like refusing to separate from the parent, avoiding being in a strange environment, and so on. To help your child further, we need to understand in a greater depth, what his concerns are. This could be done by gently holding a conversation with him about his feelings about school, exploring what triggers his fears, and so on. This could also be done via stories, play, using puppets, drawing, and so on. Counselling as a process may help in this regard.

    Please feel free to reach out to us in case of further queries.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  52. Hii
    I have a 5 year old son. I am from Odisha, India. he is a real genius and understands things very logically. he reads well, plays chess well and is good at understanding emotions very well. but the only problem with him is he is very insecured about his surrounding i guess. it took me long time to settle him in school without me. in chess class too he wants me to wait for me till he finishes his class. basically he doesnt want to be with known people without me or his grandparents exclusively. He is a little slow also in everything. his physical activity like running, jumping, climbing is a little backward as kids of his age which means he is slow. how do i deal with his insecurity feelings.

  53. Hi my son is 3.5 years and recently started going to preschool. But from last one day he is crying to go to school. And after returning from school he is constantly repeated that he will not going to school nowonwards.
    Pls help what will I do.

  54. Dear Hemalatha,

    We understand that this is a worrisome time for you as a parent. Often, it can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand.

    There could be several reasons why your daughter is not interested in studies. Children tend to have varying interests; so they may enjoy some tasks more than others. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard to express. These underlying emotions may then manifest in terms of a reduced interest in academics, anger, stubbornness, and so on. In some cases, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their ability to perform academically. This could cause them to experience frustration and other emotional difficulties, which can further affect their interest in academics.

    To support your child, we need to understand her concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly find ways to help her manage the same. Counselling as a process could help us in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the same. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  55. Hi, My 9 years younger daughter is below average student. I’m pushing hard to make her study. And she is not at all interested in studies. Also gets angry too often with every one. She is not calling her father as daddy too. Very adament to do this and past 2 years she did not call him. Pl. advice.

  56. Dear Rupali,

    Thank you for sharing your concern with us. Having to deal with a lack of interest in writing can be very hard for children. There could be many reasons underlying this lack of interest. Very young children tend to have varying interests. So they may be interested in some activities, and uninterested in others.

    However, at times, children may have genuine difficulties when it comes to some areas of academic performance, like writing, reading and so on. To support them further, we need to understand his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same. Counselling as a process would help in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the same. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  57. My son is 8 years old and he studied into 2nd standard. He is good in reading and grasping but he did not intrested in writing. i think he hate writing

  58. Dear Mitu,

    We understand that this is a worrisome time for you as a parent. Children’s academic performance can be a major cause of concern for parents. Having to deal with difficulties in studies can be very overwhelming for your daughter. In case of very young children, there could be several reasons underlying such difficulties. To support her, we need to identify what her concerns are, and accordingly help you find ways to support her adequately.

    Counselling as a process could help you in this regard.

    We would like to support you via counselling. Please feel free to get in touch with us if you have any queries or would like to book an appointment with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  59. Hi.
    My daughter is 4 years old. She is going to play school from her age of 2. She was very attentive and responsive by her teacher’s observation. But from last 3/4 month she is gradually down in her class. She is not listening her teacher and nor responding. Rather busy with her personal stuffs or looking around.
    Me and teachers are very disappointed. She used to be the best student in class, but not now.

  60. Dear Padmavathi,

    As a parent, your child’s academic performance can be a major cause of concern. Having to deal There could be several reasons why your daughter displays a lack of interest in studies. To support her further, we need to identify her concerns in a greater depth and accordingly find ways to help her manage the same. Counselling as a process may help us in this regard. We would like to support you and your daughter via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the same. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  61. Dear Kanta,

    As a parent, this must be a worrisome time for you. It can be very overwhelming when your child experiences difficulties in academic performance. There could be several reasons underlying his difficulties. To support him further, we need to understand his difficulties in a greater depth, and accordingly help him manage the same.

    The process of counselling could help us in this regard. We have sent you an email with the details of the same. Please feel to check and recah out to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  62. Dear Padam,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for your son and for you as well. There could be several reasons why he is facing the concerns you mentioned. To support him further, we need to identify his concerns in depth. Counselling as a process could help you explore your son’s difficulties and accordingly arrive at ways to help him manage the same. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the process and fee structure, to help you decide. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  63. Hi, My son is 6 years old and has problem in concentrating on mostly everything. He is not very physically & socially active as compared to the kids of his age group. He does not listen until I start yelling. He keeps banging him self mostly as he walks in his dreamzone. He is often made fun off and also bullied by other kids because of his behaviour. He is ok in his studies only needs push every time. I don’t understand what mental blockage is it. He cant run fast and often found sucking his figure. I am really worried if this goes on continuing then future may be a problem. Please suggest

  64. My son Zayan is 5.5 years old. He is in KG class. He is very restless and does not pay attention to things told at class or home. He has got into the habit of telling lies. He forgets his things at school despite repeated instructions. He is good at studies but does not complete class work . He is very emotional, easily tears comes. When we ask about school activity he never reply. He can’t mix with his cousins & Neighbors children. He feel helpless but don’t try to to mix with them. Please suggest. I m a working mother.

  65. Dear Nazma,

    We understand your concerns about your daughter. As a parent, it can be quite stressful when your child is experiencing difficulties in studies, particularly when they seem to perform well in other activities.

    There could be several reasons why your child is finding it difficult to focus on studies. At times, children experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of difficulties in concentration, reduced academic performance, and so on. However, in some instances, children genuinely have difficulties in terms of their ability to perform academically.

    To support your daughter further we need to identify her concerns in a greater depth. Counselling as a process could help us understand her concerns, and accordingly find ways to help her manage the same.

    If you have any more queries, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  66. Hi,
    My daughter is in 5th standard, she has hard time focusing on studies. She is smart in all other things such as games puzzles etc but only the drawbacks is in studies. Please advise

  67. Dear Nazneen,

    We understand that this must be a difficult time for you and your son. Having to lie about studies can be very overwhelming for children. There could be various reasons why children find it difficult to perform academic tasks. At times, they may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to perform academically. This could make it hard for them to engage in their school work.

    To support your child, we need to understand his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly, find ways to help him manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard.

    If you would like to know more, or would like to book an appointment with us, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  68. Hi. My son is 10 yrs and is in fifth std he has started lying now a days about his school work and lessons.previously he used to complete his books but now they are incomplete.. and sometimes he only writes one or 2 lines of a particular subject. He is my only child and I do attend him for all the things .previously was intuition now I started taking his lessons..will never study on his own always need pushing…kindly help me with some suggestions.

  69. Dear Sejal,

    There could be several reasons why your child is facing difficulties in terms of reluctance to go to school, and with academic tasks in general. At times, children may face some overwhelming emotions that are hard to express, which could then show up as academic difficulties. However, in some cases, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their ability to perform academically.

    To support your child, we need to explore the nature and extent of your child’s difficulties in greater depth. The process of counselling could help in this regard. Using psycho-educational assessments, we could understand your son’s concerns, and accordingly determine the future course of intervention for him.

    If you would like to know more, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  70. Hi. My son is 6 yrs old. We have always felt he is very bright in grasping concepts except numbers but only if he concentrates and sits for studies. In all his class assessments, its like if he has studied even 1 topic out of 5 thoroughly, I know he will do well in that and he actually does.and this is what frustrates us. But that will not help. But yes, he kind of. has this fear of the unknown…he gets cranky daily before going to school.He asks me that is there any test today?, etc..Please advice as to how to go about. He also has this fear of reading. He does not tries to read what is written, but simply utters things which he knows are a part of that chapter..awaiting help

  71. Dear Mustafa,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you. As a parent, it can be very worrisome when your child is displaying behaviours that are hard to understand. There could be several reasons why your child may be facing difficulties in concentration and academic performance. To support you and your son further, we need to identify what his concerns are, in a deeper light.

    Counselling as a process could help you understand your son and accordingly find ways to help him further. We would like to support you via counselling. If you would like to know more, or would like to book an appointment, please feel free to give us a call on 9833985538. The timings for telephone enquiry are 11am to 7pm, Monday to Friday. Please call us 3-4 days in advance as our slots usually get full.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  72. Hi,

    My son is 4.5 years old. (In Lower Nursery) He does not concentrate in the school C.W or H.W. Teacher tells us that he does not participate in the class and says that he is in his own Imagination world (Also Shy in Class). At Home, he is totally opposite (Very Hyper Active) He always seeks attention while doing is Home work as he always wants someone to sit with him and guide him all the way otherwise if we are not around, he don’t focus and scribbles on the paper. Though he is very intelligent but we think he is slow in picking up things as compared to other students in class.

  73. Dear Babitha,

    As a parent, it can be very worrisome to receive complaints about your child. There could be several reasons why your son is facing difficulties in concentration, and in interacting with classmates. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotional difficulties, which may manifest as problems in concentration and in social interactions.

    However, in some cases, children may have genuine concerns in terms of their ability to concentrate. These concerns could further compound their emotional difficulties.

    To support you and your son, we need to identify what his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage them. Counselling as a process could help us in this regard. We would like to support you via therapy.

    If you would like to know more about the process, or would like to book an appointment with us, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  74. Hi,

    My son is 9 years old studying in 4th std. His teacher and other classmate complain that he is very naughty and mischievous. He is good at academics. But don’t know why teachers and students complain that he is very disturbing. He cannot concentrate on a single task for more than 15 mins. He doesn’t have any friends in his class. All students in the class maintain a distance from him. The way he communicates to parents and teachers is not so respected. Please guide me, I’m afraid that that he would continue this behavior for rest of his life.

  75. Dear Mona,

    We understand that this must be a worrisome time for you. There could be several reasons why your son may display difficulties in concentration. At times, children may have genuine concerns in their capacity to concentrate and to perform academic tasks like writing. To support him further, we need to identify what his concerns are, and the reasons underlying the same. In this regard, some form of psycho-educational assessments may guide us. Please feel free to get in touch with us, if you would like to know more about the same.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  76. My son is of 9 year. He is in grade 3, Academic wise he is quite good, but he has attention problem. He don’t remember any instruction given by teachers, he don’t finish his class work. He is very slow in writing. Apart at home, we have to give him repeat instruction. He is not able to play as a team with his friend & always like to roam lonely and dreaming in his own world. With every thing he do motion play, like eraser, pen or any thing which is in his hand. If you give him more than one instruction, then he will definitely forget other instruction or will do something else. I need your guidance, as he is growing. I am worried if nothing is done right now then things will not improve at later stage. Even he has reached that age that he don’t want to listen what we are saying. Pls guide.

  77. Dear Satish,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you. As a parent, it can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand. Often, it is hard to communicate ideas to children, because they tend to have their own views and thoughts as individuals. As adults, it is perhaps easier for us to attempt to understand children’s views. We have written an article on how you can preserve the parent child relationship through effective communication, and another on disciplining children with compassion. Please feel free to browse through these and other articles on our website.

    In case of further queries, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  78. Dear Naresh,

    We understand that this must be a worrisome time for you. When children display difficulties in academic activities, it can be hard for parents to know what to do to support them. There could be several reasons why your daughter feels confused when it comes to writing. Usually children learn to speak earlier than they learn to write. So, they may experience difficulties when it comes to writing, and may take a while before they learn to write adequately. At times, such difficulties are also indicative of some concerns with academic performance in case of older children. Your daughter is too young to conclusively say. She may need to be supported gently in her academic tasks.
    We have written an article on how parents can communicate gently with children. To read more about the same, please click here. If you have any further queries, feel free to write to us or give us a call.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  79. Hi , my daughter is 5 yrs old. She loves to study , she always sits to write something and something when she’s free. But the problem is that she knows eveything orally but when she writes she gets confused. For ex. her name is bhavya ; she speaks it perfectly but when se writes she stops after b. We have to tell again and again. So plz tell the reason and the solution for it. Thanks

  80. Satish A. Nagotkar

    Hi, i am writing to talk about my daughter who is 11 years old. She does not listens to her parents and is very difficult to manage. we try to tell her goods & bad things & she listens but again next day the same story repeated again.We to talk to her and make her understand few things like, be obidient, talk to elders with respect etc. She is good in her studies / additonal activities. Pl revert, what can we do to ensure that she understands the point of view of her parents and alter her behaviour timely.

  81. Dear Ruby,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you and your son. Children usually learn behaviours that they see in adults. When we feel angry with the child and hit him, he will learn that when you feel angry, you must hit others. For this reason, it is advised that we refrain from using violent means to discipline children.

    There are gentler ways of disciplining children. We have written an article on this topic, please click here to read more about the same.

    Sometimes, the relationship of the parent with the child itself enables the child to share his feelings in a healthy manner. Click here to read more about how one could preserve the parent child relationship.

    Counselling as a process could help you understand your child’s concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly find ways to manage the same.

    We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  82. My son is 10 years old and is getting very difficult to handle
    1) Does not take any interest in studies. If forced, cannot sit for more than a few minutes
    2) Enjoys teasing his younger sister (4 years) and making her cry.
    3) If reprimanded for his disobedient behavior, never feels / says sorry.
    4) If I shout or try to hit, he does the same to me
    Please advise as I have run out of ideas ..

  83. Dear Vilma,

    Thank you for writing to us. There could be several reasons underlying your nephew’s concerns. Usually, in such situations, some form of psychological assessment may help us understand these concerns better and accordingly find ways to support him. In addition, counselling, using a play-way method in a safe, therapeutic setting could help him deal with and process some feelings that he may be struggling with.

    You could come in for a consultation session with one of our counsellors and understand in better light how you can proceed ahead to support him. We have sent you an email with the details of the counselling process and fee structure, to help you decide. Please feel free to get in touch with us at +919833985538.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  84. Hi, My nephew is 4 1/2 years old, we find him to be a little different from other kids, don’t know whom to consult, we have noticed the following: 1) He is unable to speak clearly 2) tip toes most of the time 3) bangs head or overturns himself when he is denied 3) looks in the mirror 4) doesn’t sit in one place, very hyper 5) scrapes paint from the wall and eats. we are all very concerned,could you please let us know whom should we consult

  85. Dear Meera,

    This seems to be a confusing situation. Sometimes, when children are bright in terms of academic performance, engaging in basic processes might not be very appealing for them. Because of this, writing steps of sums may seem redundant to the child. In such a case, it may be helpful to gently try and reason with your son, about why these basic processes are sometimes necessary. However, it is very important that the child not be pushed to do things he is averse to doing. The crucial point is to allow him to learn in ways that stimulate and retain his interest in learning, irrespective of how it reflects in his academic performance.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  86. This is about my son Aditya who is 11 yrs old in 5th std. He is an extraordinary student in academics. He always scores top marks in almost all subjects. He never likes to do any redundant works especially in maths. He does not like to simply copy long answers. He is capable of answering by what his teachers teach at school.
    His maths teacher insists on writing everystep in his class work. He hates it. I am afraid that this problem might develop an aversion inside the kid towards maths. How do i solve this problem? Should i talk to the teacher or persuade my son to write steps.
    Please suggest

  87. Dear Dhiral,

    As a parent, this must be a confusing time for you. It can be worrisome when your child is facing difficulties in social interaction. However, different children tend to have different temperaments. Some children are shy by nature. They may be talkative around familiar people, but shy around others, and this is quite natural. However, it is possible that she may be experiencing some overwhelming emotion. To support her, we need to understand her concerns in depth. This could be done through gentle conversations with her about her feelings. This could also be explored through play, drawing, stories, and so on. It is necessary to help her express her emotions adequately, and find ways to regulate the same.

    If you have any further queries, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  88. Hi, my daughter is 4.5 years old. She is very shying and introvert outside. She cant even tell your class teacher about her need. However, she is very talkative at home. Often she comes from school crying. She always complains that she dont have friends in school. Please suggest.

  89. Dear Geeta,

    As a parent, this must be a difficult time for you. Children often experience difficulties when it comes to academic performance. There could be several reasons for this. To support him further, we need to identify what his concerns are, what is causing these difficulties, and what are some of the ways in which we can help him manage his concerns.

    This can be done through a gentle conversation with him, about his feelings, to identify the nature of his difficulties. Counselling as a process could also help us understand his concerns in a deeper light and accordingly support him.

    We have sent you an email containing the process and fee structure of counselling at our centre, to help you decide. Please check the same, and feel free to reach out to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  90. my son is 12 years old he is in 7th std, teachers always complaint that he lost in his thoughts in class room and the same thing happen at home, he doesnt aware what is happening around him, he dont take initiative in any activity, his work is always incomplete, not get good marks in exams, he is forget everything at the time of exams but he learn very quickly, he is intellegent but not putting his mind in studies, sometimes we are calling him but he is in his thoughts and not react, dont know what should i do, i have talked to him many time, threaten him but nothing happen, he is very slow writer and do everything very slowly. pls advice what should i do

  91. Dear Rajshree,

    We understand that as parents, it can be very confusing when children engage in behaviours that are hard to understand.

    Sometimes, children wish to engage with parents at a deeper level, and as a result, may display behaviours like wanting to hear stories, or wanting to play with them, and so on. Moreover, very young children may also want to explore their independence by asserting choices in food, eating patterns, and so on.

    However, at times, children may experience some emotions which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of behaviours like being cranky, being selective in food patterns and so on. To support your child further, it is important to identify what these underlying emotions may be, and find ways to help her express these adequately, and in an appropriate manner.

    This could be done by gently holding a conversation with her, about her feelings. It could also be done through stories, art, play, and so on. These could also be explored via counselling. In therapy, the counsellor could help you understand you daughter’s needs, preferences, and so on, and find ways to fulfil the same.

    Feel free to browse through our website, for articles that may help you and your daughter in dealing with concerns.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  92. Hi, my daughter is 5 yrs old. She only eats with her nanny ( in our country of residence) . However when we travel back home to India or even when her nanny is not around she is just not interested in eating with me or anyone else apart .
    Even if someone else tries to feed her she wants to listen to stories or want to watch tv or iPad or becomes cranky and it takes more than an hour to finish a simple meal. Few of her favorite food like sausages she may eat with others but not always.
    Kindly advice.
    Regards

  93. Dear Devendra,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you and your son. As parents, it can be very worrisome when children display behaviours that are hard for us to understand.

    Often, children experience some deep emotional concerns which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotional concerns then show up as difficulties in concentration, reduced academic performance, and so on. To support your son further, we need to understand what these underlying emotions are, so that we can help him find ways to deal with the same. This could be done by gently holding a conversation with him, about his feelings. It could also be done via stories, play, art, and so on. This could also be explored via counselling.

    In therapy, the counsellor may help you understand your son’s concerns better, and help you find ways to support him further.

    We would like to support you and your child via counselling. We have sent you an email containing some details of the counselling process and fee structure. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  94. Hello,

    We as a family Husband Wife & 2 Kids ( Son 10 yrs & Daughter 4 yrs)

    As of now my son aged 10 yrs is Normal no complains. But when it comes to listening to instruction of elders, he is totally negative. Concentration is very very Poor, interested in everything but could not take it up to the mark. He was very good in studies and concentration earlier, was scoring 80% + but it has drastically come down to 10%. We have met his teachers in school several time, their comment is he is not in class mentally. We have somehow made everything available for him.
    One thing I am surprised that when we asked him that would he like to go to Hostel and his answer is very positive. I am wondering if he is not happy with family 🙁 .
    We have tried by all means politely, aggressively, being kid with him. I have noticed that he understands our things but later next day same thing are repeated.

    He is was good in studies, skating ( got prices at State level), Swimming, Cycling etc. but now No studies, No Skating 🙁

    He is also not much discussing his school things or instruction given by teachers.

    I am not much worried about studies but he should understands value of our instructions & advises.

    I am so worried …….Please advice.

    Regards
    Devendra

  95. Dear Priya,

    Conflicts among siblings can be very overwhelming to deal with, especially for children who are so young. As a parent, it must be exhausting to constantly be on guard to prevent them from fighting.

    Sometimes, young children may experience emotions which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of behaviours like fighting, hitting each other, and so on. To support children further, it is necessary to identify what these emotional experiences are. This could be done by gently holding a conversation with them, individually, about their feelings. This could also be explored through stories, art, play, and so on.

    We are copy pasting here, the links to some of our articles on how to deal with children’s aggressive behaviours. Please feel free to browse through other articles on the same topic as well.

    1. UNDERSTANDING AGGRESSIVE CHILDREN : THE VICTIM BEHIND THE AGGRESSOR: https://innerspacetherapy.in/parenting/understanding-aggressive-children-the-victim-behind-the-aggressor/

    2. Disciplining Children with Compassion: https://innerspacetherapy.in/disciplining-children/

    Counselling as a process can help you understand your children, and finding ways to support them further.

    If you have any further queries, or would like to book an appointment, feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  96. I have two sons one is 8yrs old and the younger one 3.
    The prob now I m facing is that the younger one follows his elder bro in every way
    And the situation becomes difficult as he don’t understand things and all.ends in motion of hands and legs for which elder one has to suffer..plzz help
    For this I ve to keep busy keeping a eye on them

  97. Dear Yogesh,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you and your son. Often, children face difficulties with academic performance. There could be many reasons underlying these difficulties. To support your child further, we need to identify what his concerns are, and find ways to help him manage his difficulties. This could be done by trying to gently hold an open conversation with the child, about his feelings. This could also be explored through stories, art, play and so on.

    Often, we conduct psycho-educational assessments that guide us in understanding the extent of children’s concerns.

    If you would like to know more, or would like to book an appointment, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  98. Hi,
    Even my concern similar to Pavithra.
    My son is 8 yrs. studing in 3rd std. my worry is that,he doesn’t show interest in studies especially in writing and he tend to forget what had been thought within a mean time. It is related to studies only but any other thing like if i have told him that i will give him something he will remember till he gets the thing. The School Counseller has suggested that his palm is not strong and causing him problems in writing and asked us to take advise / treatment from the Gross Motor counseller. As a parent I feel very upset with his performance. Never shows interest in studying. frequently gets distract. never pay attention in any things.
    I’m quite worry about his future. …Pls help me out how to go about it.

  99. Dear Jaya,

    As a parent, it can be very worrisome when your child displays aggressive behaviour. Often, children may be underoing some deep emotional concerns that are hard to express. These may then show up as aggression. To support him further, we need to understand his emotional experiences in a deeper light. This can be done by trying to hold a conversation with him, about his feelings. It could also be explored through stories, play, art, and so on. Counselling as a process could help you understand your son’s needs and preferences, and explore your own concerns as a parent. We have sent you an email with some details of the counselling process and fee structure. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  100. hi,
    my child is 5yrs old. he is very aggressive. his teacher is complaning that he beats his classmate. dont know what to do. have told him many times that its a bad thing, that time he promised (that he will not do it again) and then again get the same complaint abt him. kindly suggest.

  101. Dear Renuka,

    As a parent, it can cause a lot of anxiety when your child is facing difficulties in performing academically. The process of counselling can help you explore your child’s concerns in a deeper light, and find ways to support him further. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  102. Hi,

    Even my concern similar to Pavithra.
    My 7 yrs. old son studies in 3rd std. my worry is that,he doesn’t show interest in studies especially in writing and he tend to forget what had been thought within a mean time….as a parent I feel very upset with his performance. Never shows interest in studying. frequently gets distract. never pay attention in any things.
    I’m quite worry about his future. …Pls help me out how to go about it.

  103. Dear Pavithra,

    We understand that this is a difficult time for you as a parent. Children’s academic performance can be a major cause of concern for parents. We have responded to your comment via email. Please do check and feel free to reach out to us, if you have any further queries.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  104. Dear mam,

    I have a son who is 7yrs old and he is in 1st std.my worry is that,he doesn’t show interest in studies especially in writing…to be specific in hindi subject.And he tend to forget what had been thought within a mean time….as a parent I feel very upset with his performance. He will start crying when ever I tell him to study….please help me.

  105. Dear Vanita,

    We understand that this must be a difficult time for you. As parents, it can be very overwhelming when children engage in behaviours that are confusing.
    Sometimes, children of this age may be interested in many things other than academics. It can be very hard to motivate them to engage in studies. This could be stressful for parents.
    Counselling as a process could help you explore your concerns as a parent, and find ways to support your child further. We would like to support you via counselling. If you have any further queries, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  106. Hi my daughter12.5 yr old is well behaved person in front of world otherwise she is very rude to me .Never want to write her answers , always dependent on me for her study schedule never takes initiative to study or learn on her own . She is careless about the things, never put them on right place. Doesn’t value for money pls help me

  107. Dear Kaushik,

    It can be very worrisome for parents when children experience difficulties in academic tasks. Sometimes, young children tend to have diverse interests, and may show interest in things other than studies. It would be difficult for us to identify what he is going through, based on what you have told us. However, counselling as a process can help you explore ways in which you can support your child further. If you have any queries, please feel free to revert back to us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  108. Dear Govind,

    We understand that as a parent, you must be worried. Children differ in terms of their temperaments, needs and preferences. So, it is possible that he prefers being by himself, rather than interacting with other children.

    However, in some cases, children may experience a delay in developing their communication and social skills. Children may also experience other difficulties which may make it hard to express themselves, and engage with other children adequately.

    It is important to identify what your child’s concerns are. Counselling can help you as a parent in understanding your son and support him further.
    If you have any further queries, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  109. Hi
    This is with reference to my 3 year old boy. He is not communicating in sentences, however he knows everything. He knows alphabets, numbers and identify shapes. If he wants water he will just say water and not I want water. His interaction with other children is also poor.
    He is intelligent and can solve puzzles for his age. I am just wondering what can I do to make him communicate. Which doctor shall I consult. Please advise

    Thanks
    Govind

  110. Hi Komal,

    At this age, children are usually trying to explore their independence in various situations, and so occasionally, they may display behaviours like stubbornness and tantrums. However, children need to be supported, so that they can express their feelings adequately, and in socially acceptable ways. In such cases, the parents can approach a counsellor to explore ways to further support the child in doing the same. If you have any further queries, please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  111. Hi. My son is 4 years old and studies is nursery. The main problem with him is he do have any interest in studies. Though he have a sharp brain and can memories the rhymes or songs very fast but he does not want to write anything. While writing English he mixes up the capital letter and small letter alphabets. While writing numerics eg. he is saying 12 twelve but writing 21. Some times he does not even hold the pencil properly. Pls suggest me to solve this problem

  112. Hi

    My nephew is 3 yrs and is behaving very weired these days. He is asking eatables from others everytime he sees the other person eating something. We are giving him everything at home but he’s still behaving the same. Apart from that he has become very adamant and not listening to anything or anyone. He will do what he wants. He screams shouts and behaves differently. Please advise if we need to take him for any counselling as we are tensed about his future. He goes to play group but is still not able to tell us anything what is tought there. Your help is much appreciated.

    Thank you,
    komal.

  113. Hi Pranoti,

    Thank you for writing to us. We have sent you an email, in response to your comment. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us, if you have any queries or comments.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  114. Hi. My son is 5 yrs old. He is very sharp in studies. But not at all interested in studies. Whenever we ask Him to do thestudies . He put us the conditions i.e. i will say the story 1 time or will write only 1 pg.whenever he is at home he sits in front of tv. If we dosen’t listen to him or give him whatever he wants. He gets so angry that he starts throwing the things & start hitting us. I don’t no how to handle him. I m working & i keep him in crush. He doesn’t want To go there in the Morning. But when i go there to pick him up. He doesn’t want to come home. He wants to play over there. I m not able to understand. Plse suggest. How i should explain him.

  115. Hi Charm,

    Thank you for writing to us. We understand that as a parent, it can be worrisome to know that your child is not being able to focus.
    Often, it is possible that children have varied interests, and pay attention to many things at a time. As long as this does not impact her functioning, in terms of her play, health, and academics, it need not be a cause of concern. However, if it is affecting your daughter, we need to know if her difficulty to focus stems from her ability to focus or because of some other underlying emotional concerns.
    This can also be explored through counselling. If you have any more queries or comments, please feel free to contact us.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  116. Hello,

    Good day.

    I have a 7 year old daughter and she is not able to focus on one thing, everybody says that if she starts focusing she can be best in anything she does.

  117. Dear Mrs. Bogohain,

    We have responded to you via email. Please do feel free to get in touch with us if you have any more queries or comments.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  118. Hi,
    I am really worried about my son, he is just 7 years and studying in class 2. He is too difficult to manage, doesn’t listen to anyone. Only when I beat him at times he’ll behave for few hours and again back to his real. In just 2 years of his schooling I’ve received so many complaints from teachers, classmates, parents that it scares me to the core thinking of his future. He lies in seconds. doesn’t do homework properly and when asked about it, he put the entire blame on the teachers saying that they did not help him noting his homework. All the time he’ll test his elder sister’s patience. Keeps fighting all time. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to get more complaints. please suggest.

    Regards,
    Mrs. Rangoli Borgohain

  119. Dear Vibha,

    We understand that as a parent, it must be stressful for you when your children fight often. Sometimes, children may experience feelings of anger and frustration that they may find difficult to express. This could lead to conflicts where they express underlying emotions in terms of physical fights. It may be beneficial to understand what the underlying emotional concerns may be, and find ways for them to communicate them in a different way.

    At times, parenting young children can be very hard. This article may help you with the same https://innerspacetherapy.in/disciplining-children/ . You can also go through our website for more articles.

    Thanks and Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  120. Dear counsellor,
    I have two daughters aged 8 and 10 yrs. They fight with each other. hurt each other physically. They are rude , disobedient, uncaring, eat very slowly, dont bother about studies. They get good marks though. They are impulsive. somewhere something is wrong in their upbringing.Please advice
    Vibha

  121. Dear Gyan,

    Thanks for writing to us. We understand that sometimes, as parents, children display behaviours that can be very confusing. Through counselling, we can get a better understanding of your child’s situation, and support you in helping your child. We have also reverted to your comment via email. Please check and get back to us in case of further queries.

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  122. Dear Anita,
    We understand that this must be a difficult time for you and your daughter. Often, difficulties in academic performance leads to a reduced self esteem in children. As a parent, it can be quite overwhelming when your child is going through such concerns. Counseling as a process could help us understand your child’s concerns better, and support you in dealing with the same. In therapy, the counselor could provide you with tools and techniques to work on these difficulties.

    We have responded to your comment via email. Hope it helps

    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  123. Hi ! My child is studying in std 9 icse.she has learning disability but her iq is 130.in school she scores around 60percent.my worry is that she is slowly losing confidence in herself,during exams she is very tensed and it is reflected on her paper.she was a very confident girl but slowly she is losing interest in everything .she is not interested in dressing up,nor takes part in any activity ,she has become so dull only thing which she likes is reading books.she looks as if she has no interest in life.in her exams this year she did not score as she had expected which has depressed her more as she worries how she is going to fullfill her dream of becoming computer engineer.i am very worried about her behaviour and her studies .pls can you help me out as i feel helpless.will counselling help or is it just a teenage issue which she will get over.pls help

  124. Dear Arnav,
    It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed with the amount of things you have to do, and this seems to be really stressing you out.
    At this stage, it may be worthwhile to attempt to do as much as you can. Anticipating the consequences of not being able to finish your work can seem to be too scary and overwhelming right now, causing you more distress.
    We understand that this is a difficult situation for you to undergo. It can be hard to deal with this by yourself; so if there is any adult who you feel could support you at this point, please do reach out to them. If you wish, you could reach out to us on this number: 9833985538. In case there are certain important decisions that you would like to explore, we would like to help you deal with it. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us.

    Do take care Arnav.
    Warmly,
    The Inner Space Team

  125. My son is 5 years old and student of L. K. G. I am very worried about him because he doesn’t give attention in all work. He is very lazy and does his all work very slowly even eating and writing. if he takes food in mouth it seems that forgot that food is in his mouth. Everytime we have to give remember him that finish your food fast. He has lack of attention whenever we tell him any work to do as seems that he is could not get understand what to do and what to tell him. One thing is important that he is very intelligent. Many time he describes in any point very shorpply and wisely.
    Please suggest what should we do for him.
    Thanks

  126. Hi what to do i am a child scared of school and I have lots of incomplete work I am scared of my teachers that even if I show them the completed work they will scold me for doing it late please help me My results are 2 weeks away should I complete the work and submit it or forget the past and concentrate on the future
    Please help quick within a few hours

  127. Dear Mrs. Advirkar,

    We understand your concerns regarding your child. As a parent, it must be worrisome when one’s child faces such difficulties. It seems like your child is finding it hard to focus and to concentrate. There could be several reasons for this, which might be affecting his behaviour and his academic performance. We would be glad to support you via counseling to understand your child’s situation better.

    We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  128. Hi,
    My son is 14 + in 9th class.

    He is a reasonably intelligent child. popular with friends, in school, but generally shy with elders, however, he is a responsible child. He competes his home work in time. .I have no issues with him as a person.

    But, when it comes to exams, his performance is inconsistent.. He does not perform well in exams, his results are below average.
    Psychologically, he thinks he does not do well first term…we provided additional support of home tution too…surely, even with tuition support he did not do well in first term…

    he has no recall problem, because, when it comes to sports or other aspects he does well …he knows all sports and even recalls how each one played, their scores and names of even American basket ball teams…
    I am not sure if his low scores in exams is stress , or not comprehending questions, unable to structure his answers, or lacks 100% focus
    my husband was always worried, but I would take it as passing phase…but now we cannot take it easily..
    now in 9th, next year 10th crucial year…we are worried. not sure how to help him…this should not affect his confidence and self esteem.

  129. Hi Manoj,

    We understand that you are concerned about your child’s behaviours. He seems to have difficulty with attention and hyperactivity. These concerns need to be explored further, in order to get a clearer understanding of the situation. You can come in for a consultation to explore these concerns. Some psychological assessment may be recommended to gain further insight into the nature and severity of the difficulties. We have sent you an email on the process of counseling and the fee structure.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us if you have any more queries.

    Regards,
    The Inner Space Team.

  130. Hi Priti,

    Thanks for writing in. In therapy, the number of sessions required differ according to the nature and intensity of concerns. However, we usually recommend a minimum of 2-3 months, with weekly once sessions. Your counselor will be able to give you more clarity regarding this in your consultation session. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  131. Hi Priya,

    Thanks for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand that it gets difficult and confusing as a parent sometimes to see these changes in the behaviours of your child. This may be a passing phase, however, there may be some emotional and/or behavioural difficulties your child may be experiencing that need to be explored and understood to help him cope with it in a healthier manner. We suggest you come in for a consultation to explore these concerns. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  132. Hi Rina,

    Thanks for writing in. We understand that it must be confusing as a parent to seen these changes in your child’s behaviours suddenly. There may be several reasons why your child is not wanting to write or eat in the school and these reasons need to be explored further. You can come in for a consultation for the same.

    We have sent you an email on the process of counseling and the fee structure.Please feel free to get in touch with us if you have any more queries.

    Regards,
    The Inner Space Team.

  133. My son is 4.1yrs and is in Jr Kd in an international school, he is very hyper, least interested in studies / cannot concentrate / cant focus due to this Teacher’s are saying that they are not going to promote him to next standard. At home also his concentration level is very less, unless he is watching Cartoon on TV, Doesn’t Listen. Hence need to take your advice and guidance. pl advice

  134. Hi
    I want guideline about child pdychology how msny sitting are required what is the fees of 1 sitting what is required

  135. Hi

    My son is 9 years old and we feel he has lost interest in studies. His class work is incomplete and his grades are dropping gradually. He does not seem to be bothered with this. I get frequent complaints from his school that he does not pay attention during class. We have been tough with him and I dont feel good about it. We are unable to make out exactly what his problem is. He is otherwise bright and intelligent. I feel he requires counselling but my husband says that this may be a passing phase. I want to help my my son overcome his problems if any and do well.

    Please help.

    Thanks
    Priya

  136. Hi Mayank,

    Thanks for writing in. We understand that you are concerned about your son. It is important to explore why he finds it difficult to focus on things. You can come in for a consultation session to gain a deeper understanding of the situation. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.
    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Warm Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  137. Hi,
    My son is 9 years old, he is not at all interested in studies. He usually forget with happen in school and abt studies.His mind is not stable. Whenever he start doing anything he will not complet it. .I am very much worried about his behaviour and his studies. Pls help to come out of this situation.

  138. Hi Revathi,
    Thanks for writing in. We understand that you and your son are going through a difficult time. There may be several reasons for son’s lack of interest in studies and personal care, which need to be explored. You can come in for a consultation session to gain a deeper understanding of the situation. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.
    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks
    The Inner Space Team

  139. Sir,

    Your suggestions to the queries are very interesting. I have a problem. I have a five years old boy, studying in UKG. He is very talkative, he talks with himself, for this nobody is required. At 3+ age, he speak clearly, at 2 years age he walked. In the initial days he studied in the school interestingly, but since one month is is not listening to his tacher nor he is writing in class. At the same time, he writes at home. Of course I have to tell repeatedly, thereafter only he writes. Last 15 days he is suffering from fever. In the school he is also not taking any food. He is not taking any food in the morning and also in school, may be due worries of going school. In Saturday and Sunday when there is holiday he ate in the morning nicely. Her class teacher complains about his non-writing and non-eating. Kindly help me.

  140. My son is of 8 yrs, he is not able to focus on one thing, everybody says that if he starts focusing he can be best in any thing he does. Kindly help.

  141. My daughter is seven years old she is studying in class 1in an icse school in tinsukia, assam. I have made her repeat the class as she is not willing to write anything in school. She cannot copy the things from board she is not willing to write answers. She only write the fill in the blanks, match the column , true false. She does not talk much with her classmates also but she is active she take part in dance and can dance properly she feels shy in reciting poem at school,which she does at home. She started her speech also late at the age of 4years. Earlier she used to say only ma and papa. I am really finding it difficult to solve this problem. I have one more daughter she is 13 yrs old but she is doing well in studies, drawing dance, etc. please help me.

  142. Dear team , am a single parent of 15 year old boy who is into 10 th now. He does not show interest in studies as well his personal care and dressing. I feel entirely he lives in a different world . as he is in 10 th am getting lots of pressure from school too. Am working women so am not able to focus on his studies 100% . pls do guide me how to come out of this situation.

  143. Dear Monika,

    Thank you for writing in. We have sent you an email on the process of counseling and the fee structure.
    Please feel free to get in touch with us if you have any more queries.

    Regards,
    The Inner Space Team.

  144. Dear Venkatesh,

    Thanks for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand that you are concerned about your daughter. Your daughter’s difficulty in interacting with others may be arising due to various reasons which need to be explored. You can come in for a consultation session to gain a deeper understanding of the situation. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.
    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks
    The Inner Space Team

  145. Dear Team,

    My daughter is 2.9 yrs old and she is more talkative in home and very very silent and inactive in her school. Her teachers complaining us that she wont listen to them, not even open her mouth and simply stare them. She wont anything at all except ice-creams and because of this her weight is only 10Kg now. She wont mingle with anyone neither in school nor with others outside. Please help us in this regard.
    Thanks,
    Venkatesh

  146. Dear Manish,

    Thank you for writing in . We understand that this is a difficult time for both, you as well as your son. There may be various reasons due to which your son is unable to remember what he studies. You can come in for a consultation session to gain a deeper understanding of the situation.
    We have sent you an email on the counselling process and the fee structure.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us if you have any more queries.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team.

  147. Dear Prajakta,

    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We understand that you are concerned about your daughter. It must be a stressful time for you as well as your child. There may be several reasons due to which your child takes time in doing her work and finds it difficult to express herself. These reasons need to be explored further. You can come in for a consultation session to gain a deeper understanding of the situation. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.
    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks
    The Inner Space Team

  148. Hi Nitin,

    We understand your concern as a parent. Sometimes, children express their hurt or upset by getting angry. They may also express anger when their wants or needs are not agreed to. We need to help the child to cope with these feelings and help him develop more appropriate ways of expressing these feelings.

    We would be glad to help you and your child via counselling to explore these concerns. We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.
    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks
    The Inner Space Team

  149. Dear Team,

    My son is 13 yr he could not able to concentrate on studies or i can say he is concentrating but unable to remember what he studied. I know he want to show us that he is something but due to poor result his confidence level is very low.

  150. Hi Surendra,

    We understand that this might be a difficult time for you and your son. He is probably experiencing certain feelings which might be unaddressed. Aggression could be a means to express these feelings. It is important to get a deeper understanding of these emotions and his thoughts and then, to resolve them. Counseling can help you explore these concerns and understand each other better.

    We have sent you an email on the process and fee structure.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us.

    Thanks
    The Inner Space Team

  151. Hi !! My child is 2.5 year old and goes to pre school. Off late we have observed that his anger level has increased a lot. He\’s too crazy for Mobile Phone/ Laptop and electronic gadgets. If we don\’t allow him to use the gadget he gets overly hyper and we feel that this aggression is beyond his age.
    Today the lady attendant who gets him home in the school van complained that he was getting extremely aggressive with his class teacher as he wanted to cross the road and the teacher was stopping him from doing so.
    We are very worried about the growing anger in him and wants to know what should be done.

  152. Hi , My Daughter is 11 year old she is very slow in all activities. She cant express herself properly or not able to communicate properly with her school friends or teacher so she has to sit alone in school and because of that she gets cutdown more from the class. She is Clever in studies but her logical thinking is poor. Please help .

  153. sir my son age 13 years is very aggressive and always fight with friends in school . there are lot of complains from school. at home he is bit okay but underestimate mother and father, guide what to do and how to handle….regards.

  154. Hi Tanvi,
    It must be really frustrating and confusing for you, to see these changes in your daughter’s behaviour.
    Some children tend to develop the habit of thumb sucking, because it may be calming and comforting for them. However, it is important to understand where these behavioural changes are stemming from.
    Counseling would help you explore these reasons and understand her.
    We would be glad to assist you via counseling.

    Please feel free to get in touch with us.
    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  155. Hi, my 3.9 years old suddenly does not showing interest in writing, studding and doing other activity.
    her nature is rigid and taking time to accepting new things.also she is having habit of thumb sucking which bring her down to achieve her new things, so she satisfying her all fun with this habit or either spending whole day in playing with her cousin sister.

    I also read your parenting articles for stturbern kids & other activities but not getting clear vision for my kid development. I am trying to make her busy with different activities or classes so she does not suck her thumb but moment she came home she gets busy with her habit. initially she was very active but now a days she stopped all her liking.

    can you please advise me on her such behave how should i need to handle as i have applied both with petting loving and harsh but both of this does not making any difference.

    Thanks & regards,
    Tanvi.

  156. Hi,
    Thanks for writing in.
    We understand your concern as a parent.
    At this age, the behavioral issues that your child is facing may actually stem from difficulties in paying attention.
    We have written an article on these lines. We suggest you go through it and get back to us in case you would like to speak to a counselor about the same.
    https://innerspacetherapy.in/parenting/child-lazy-have-adhd/

    Hope this helps.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  157. Hi,
    We understand your concern as a parent. It must be difficult to deal with this situation. At the same time, it’s also important to understand what your child may be going through.
    At this age, there can be several reasons for academic difficulties, low self confidence and concentration issues that may actually stem from emotional difficulties.
    Counseling can help your child and you explore these reasons.

    Please feel free to call us call us on 9833985538 to know more about counseling.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  158. My daughter studying in 7th STD. She has problem with low confidence, she takes things for granted. She is not concentrating 100% on her studies. She leaves her paper incomplete. Her Handwriting is not legible.

    She is lethargic. We know that she is good and do much better if she can concentrate. I am concerned about her as her school has check point for the next 2 years and if she does not perform well she may have to change schools. We are really concerned.

    Please suggest what we should do.

    Regards
    Rohit Chowdhary

  159. Hi Reshma,
    We understand your concerns.
    At this age, there could be several factors that contribute to such behavior ranging from the change in curriculum or an increase in study material.
    Other factors at home could include his familiarity with you, and the home environment.
    Whereas, in school there can be an increase in written work which demands an more attention span. At home, he can study at his own pace, on a one on one interaction basis.
    We recommend you see a child psychologist. She’ll take a detailed background of the situation and help you understand what factors could have contributed to this situation.

    Please feel free to call us call us on 9833985538 to know more about counseling.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  160. Hello,
    We understand your concerns.
    Often adolescence brings about changes in a person. It’s important to understand what is she thinking or feeling, and what is happening to her, because this would help us understand what is demotivating her.
    However, this needs to be done in a gentle, non-judgmental manner. If she feels judged, it will be difficult for her to open up.
    If you feel there is nobody in her current environment she can talk to, we recommend seeking professional help.

    Please feel free to call us call us on 9833985538 to know more about counseling.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  161. Hello,
    We understand your concerns. Often the causes of such behavior could be developmental, behavioral or a mix of both. Have you been noticing these behaviours throughout, or have they been of recent occurrence?
    We have written an article that highlights ADHD- a condition wherein children are naturally predisposed to hyper activity and impulsiveness : https://innerspacetherapy.in/parenting/child-lazy-have-adhd/
    While this article might give you some more information, we recommend that you visit a professional child counselor. She would take a detailed background and help you identify underlying causes and how to deal with it.

    Please feel free to call us call us on 9833985538 to know more about counseling.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  162. Hi
    My Son is 3.6 years old. While at Home or School he always keeps on running and does not sit in one place. Though he is showing good listening skills and learns quickly it is very tough to make him sit at one place and make him focus on any activity. Also he sometimes is very adamant to get the things done his way else starts crying.
    Please suggest what should we do.

    Thanks & Regards
    Ashish

  163. Hello sir,
    My son is 3 yrs n 3 months now. He is very noughty, can not seat at one place for long time. Not scaring to anyone. Whenever I am telling him good manners he never gives attention. I am getting complaints from school that he is not lesern not seating at place, noughty boy in d class. I am worried about his behaviour. Please suggest me what should I do.

  164. Hi
    My son is 5 yrs old and he is studying in 1st STD
    My query is that while in school his books are incomplete and at home he is studying well
    Back from school if I ask him regarding incomplete work he is unanswerable this keeps on worrying me
    Please help me

  165. My daughter is 13yrs old n studying 9thstd she is not concentrating on studies and at the same time very lathetgic . Really very much worried regarding her studies when spoke to the teachers they say she is capable but not concencentrating. Please give reply to this. And suggest some remedies to how to deal her in this situation that she gets some interest in studies. Thankyou.

  166. Dear Manish,

    We understand your concerns. There could be different explanations for changes in a child’s behaviour towards her studies. It can be difficult as a parent to deal with these changes. A child counsellor would help you explore the various reasons this could happen, through your daughter’s perspective and help her overcome any difficulties she might be facing.

    We have sent you an email with the details and the fee structure for child counselling. Please feel free to call us call us on 9833985538 for any further queries.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  167. My daughter studying in 12th STD. and she was very good in studying before 10th. But from last 2 years she is not concentrating on her studies. She is not understanding about her responsibilities, any counselling or psycho therapist could help her to come out of his present attitude? Please help me.
    Regards

  168. Hello,
    We have responded to your query via email. Kindly check.
    Do feel free to get in touch with us for any further queries.

    Thanks and Regards,
    The Inner Space Team

  169. My 14-year old daughter studying in a co-ed school in Mumbai has been hiding her feelings towards a particular boy in her school. My husband and I have recently become aware of the situation and though we explained the cons to her, it does not seem to have made much effect. She has gone ‘underground’ with her relationship and frequent and long calls are exchanged between the two when they are supposed to be at classes. We have not confronted her as we are unsure what is the best action to take. Please guide.

  170. Dear Pallavi,
    Thank you for writing in to us. Sometimes, children find it difficult to adapt to a change of schools. First standard typically involves longer hours and comparatively more discipline and work than does play group. Also, class strength etc might be greater. Perhaps your son finds this new environment intimidating or anxiety provoking. He has moved from his comfort zone and is craving for the comfort and security of his home and his parents. This might settle once he starts to feel comfortable in the new school and makes friends. You could wait for some weeks and see if things change. You could talk to him about how he finds the new school and what could be scaring him. Sharing examples of how some new situations intimidated you and how you gradually adapted to it might help. However, if he continues to remain upset and unsettled, it would be a good idea to consult with a child psychologist. A counselor will gain a detailed understanding of the situation and suggest what needs to be done ahead. If necessary, she will also use some play therapy techniques to help the child with his emotions.
    Do write back to us on info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in or call us on 9833985538 if you wish to know more about the process and the fee structure of child counseling.

    Thanks and Warm Regards

  171. Dear Rajeshwari,
    We understand that you must be very concerned about your daughter. You have mentioned that your daughter is careless, restless and forgetful. Does it appear as though she is unable to help her restlessness? Behaviors such as carelessness, restless can be suggestive of hyperactivity/inattention. We are sending you the link to an article that describes this in more detail, so that you can read through it and see if there are more related behaviors – Is Your Child Lazy? Or Does he have ADHD?

    Apart from this, there also seem to be some emotional issues that she seems to be going through. We suggest that you see a counselor who works with children. A counselor will gain a detailed understanding of the situation and will suggest what needs to be done ahead. We are also sending you another article that might be helpful – Behavior Problems in Children – A Sign of Low Self Esteem?

    Warm Regards

  172. Hi this Pallavi.
    My son is 5.5 years old and started going to 1st standard. Up till now he was is preschool with India’s biggest chain school. There he was comfortable to go to school as school premise and strength was small. Now we took his admission to big school. So he started resisting to go to school. He is crying every day to go to school and not at want to go. On top of that, as currently we are getting support from in laws to take care of him at home, we put him to the reputed day in Powai. But my son is not accepting to go to day care after his school finishes in the afternoon. He is crying to much to go to day care. He keeps asking me why can’t I leave the job and take care of him. Also for some days my in mother in law came at home to just support, though we are sending him to day care. Then even he asks, if grandma is there at home, why you people are sending me to the day care. My son is also too much afraid of dark clouds, rain, thunderstorms. He cries a lot when rain starts. This phobia he has developed since last year rainy season. Could you please help in this matter.

  173. Hi Malini

    Can you please once again email the fee structure and details as I have not received the same.

  174. Hi,

    My daughter is 6 yrs old and in 1st standard. She is very intelligent however is very careless, restless, forgetful and never obeys us . Always forgets her stuff at school and will never listen to the instructions. We have tried all methods to addreds these issues but is of no help. She do not trust even her mother. Any outsider/friends giving her instructions or suggestions will be easily adapted. Also she cries a lot for everything. If she wants water and if we don’t respond, she will start crying.
    What is the solution for this problem.
    Thanks
    Rajeshwari

  175. Hi Mittal,
    We understand that you might be concerned about your son. From what you have written in, there seem to be some factors at play that are interfering with your son’s academics. These factors might be educational/developmental or emotional ones. A detailed psychological assessment would help to identify what these factors are, following which an intervention plan can be formulated.
    If you wish to know more about the process of psychological assessment, call us on 9833985538. The enquiry timings are 11am to 7pm, Monday to Friday.

    Thanks and Warm Regards

  176. Hi Malini
    My nephew is of 15 years and is going to appear his 10th standard. Till 8th grade he was good in studies he use to always score 80-85% but suddenly in 9th he lost his interest for studies and scored 55% and right now his classes are started but he is not showing any sign of studies… some how we feel he has lost his interest in studies..Can you please guide us..

  177. Dear Anupama,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We understand that you are worried about your child. From what you have written in, it appears as though there are a mix of factors at play. There could be some developmental factors due to which her overall energy levels are high or her attention span is low. There might also be some factors interfering with her ability to study. This could then lead to frustration and behavioral difficulties such as aggression. We suggest you see a psychologist who works with children. A psychologist would gain a detailed understanding of the situation and would then suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    You can call us on 9833985538 to enquire further about the process and the fee structure.

    Thanks and Warm Regards

  178. Hi

    I have 6 year old baby. She is studying in class 1st in Holy child Auxilium School, I observed my daughter daily, she never listen to others , always speak , she is very talkactive, she always communicate her question and story to me but never listen. She is one child at home thats why everybody love her but her way of talking get changed day by day. She don;t want to study and try to remind what has studied in class as well as at home. sometimes she speaks lie. She always wants to play. We are working parents , my mother in laws and my sister in law taking care after she come from school but she never obey these people also always dictate them. She is only having a fear from her mother and love her mother very much also.

    I spend time from 7 pm to 12pm at night and in the morning i get her ready for her school.
    She is studying in home tution also for finishing her home work. At night i studying her 1 -1.5 hrs.

    You please suggest me how i can change her behavior of aggression and how she can studying well in class.
    Hope you understand and provide a good suggestion .

    Anupama

  179. Dear Malini,

    Thanks for your advice it has helped a lot. He has stopped crying while going to school. I would appreciate if you would email me the details of the process and fee structure.

    Thanks,
    Regards,
    Neena

  180. Dear Kashmira,
    Typically, a B.A. in Psychology followed by an M.A. in Psychology is required to work as a counselor. However, we are not the right people to advise you about this, since we are not career counselors. We suggest you check with career/educational counselors about the same. You could also ask your Psychology professors if they can help with their opinion.
    We wish you the best 🙂

  181. Dear Neena,
    We understand how difficult it must be when your child is distressed and upset every morning. He seems to be very apprehensive about going to school. You have mentioned that he takes time to adapt to any new place. He also seems to be hesitant in initiating interaction and taking active part in group activities. As you have pointed out, Grade I is more challenging in terms of hours, studies, activities as well as interaction. Children who don’t feel free and confident might become fearful. They feel reassured when they are included in groups or praised by others, but at the start of a day, they feel very apprehensive about what will happen. They feel unsafe and vulnerable and therefore cry. We suggest you try and raise his self-esteem. We’re linking you to a relevant article about self esteem – Click here.
    We also suggest you visit a counselor who deals with children. A counselor will gain a detailed background of the situation and help your child overcome his fears. She will also help you understand how you can raise his self-esteem.
    Do write in on info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in or call us on 9833985538 if you wish to know more about the process and the fees of counseling at Inner Space. We’d be glad to help.

    Warm Regards

  182. Hello, This is Kashmira…Currently m pursuing B.A in psychology. I am intrested in child counselling n I have taken addmission for that…but the course duration is of 4 months…so I just wanted 2 ask wether 4 months course is enough for counselling or do I need 2 do any other certificate course??

  183. Hi,

    My son is 5 and half and he has just started 1st std. He is very bright student. He is very good with oratory skills but he is lazy is writing part. He used to like going to school but from the starting of 1st std he cries to go to school. I understand it is a big change for a child for pre-primary to primary long school hours and more study and all but every morning he refuses to go to school and cries a lot. I have to forcibly send him. His teachers and all are very understanding and caring and she has told that after sometime of crying he becomes normal and studies properly but morning 2 hours are like hell for us for sending him to school. He is happy when he comes back from the school and talks animatedly and with interest about the activities he has done in school. He is shy by nature and takes time to adapt to any new place or situation.He likes to dance and to do drawing and painting but he has issues with joining classes. Please let me know how to overcome this issue and to handle him.

  184. Dear Sucurina,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We understand how concerned you must be about your son. It does seem that there are some emotional difficulties he is dealing with. Is there any trusted adult in his environment he can talk to? Could be a family member or a friend. Someone with whom he can open up and freely express whatever is bothering him. It would also help to seek assistance from a counselor. A counselor will be able to gradually help him open up. She will also be able to help him address and resolve whatever emotional issues he is facing.
    If you wish to know more about the process and the fee structure of counseling at Inner Space, do call us on 9833985538 or email us at info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    We’d be glad to help

  185. Dear Rashi,
    We understand how concerned you must be about your son. In our opinion, it would help to visit a psychologist. Difficulties with studies can stem out of some internal developmental issues, or emotional concerns, or a combination of both. It would help to identify what the cause is, so that you can plan accordingly what to do ahead. A psychologist will gain a detailed background of the situation and let you know what needs to be done ahead. Some psychological assessment might be required to know what the underlying issues might be. The psychologist will explain the same to you.
    If you want to know more about the process and the fee structure of counseling, you can call us on 9833985538 or email us at info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    We sincerely wish you well

  186. Hi my son is 11 year old child he is studying in 6 class day to day he go down weak in his study.
    he focuse on his study only half hour then divert
    anotherthing what will do even he done all the work
    properly but the name of study he feel sad now .
    tell me what will we do

  187. my elder son studying in std 13 yrs old , he is not interacting people other then family member & always serious & thinking some thing. in school his teacher keep complaining that he doesnt talk and interact with anyone..can you pleas ehelp

  188. Dear Kanchan,
    We understand that as a concerned parent, you must be worried about your son’s behavior. From what you have written in, it seems like some of your son’s behaviors might be a part of growing up, or experimenting. At times, since the child is attached to the mother, or because he is curious about ‘what girls do’, he or she starts to try things that the mother, or a favorite teacher might use. There also seems to be some stubbornness and oppositional behavior, which might be difficult to handle. We suggest you seek the help of a counselor who deals with children. A counselor will be able to gain a detailed background of the situaiton and help to identify whether there are any patterns that need to be addressed and changed through play therapy and parental counseling. That way, you also will get an opportunity to clear any doubts or worries you might have about your son’s behavior.
    If you wish to know more about the process and the fee structure of counseling at Inner Space, please write back at info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in You can even call us on 9833985538, between 11am and 7pm, Monday to Friday

    We are sending you an article that might be useful :- Preserving the Parent-Child Relationship

    Warm Regards

  189. Hi
    my son is 5 n half…in sr kg…very brilliant child …but he is just not ready to do any sport …dances all day at home but doesnt want to go for class…iv enrolled him for tennis bit the teachers are saying he just dsnt listen to them and misbehaves…even when he went for dance class i got the same complaint…
    and now he wants to play with barbie dolls…dance witj a dupatta like a girl…
    academicly no complaints…superb reading skills…
    but not ready to learn manners or obey ..
    i have been very strict with him..at times had to lay my hand on him.but all in vain
    yes he is pampered …by every1…( no im strict so im the villian)
    I am so so worried…pls help

  190. Dear Zeeli,
    We can understand that this is a big loss and a very delicate situation. We agree that it is important to deal with emotions in a healthy way, especially in a situation as delicate as this. We would be glad to support your sister and your family in whatever way we can, through counseling. We have sent you an email with more details about the process and the fee structure of counseling. Kindly check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    We sincerely hope to help

    Warm Regards

  191. Hello,
    I’m 24 years old girl, my younger sister is 17. We recently lost our father around one year back. Ever since then my mother has taken care of us both emotionally and financially. My sister I feel has not vented her feelings in the correct way about our loss or its teenage hormones but sometimes I feel her behavior is absolutely incorrect at home. She is extremely rude and she is not able to handle delicate situations. At the same time, my mother is lonely and any emotional trauma hits her even more than it should. I think my family specially my sister needs help. I would also like to know your fee structure. Kindly let me know how can I take appointments and go ahead with the counselling procedure.
    Thank you.

  192. Dear Rekha,
    We understand that you are concerned about your son. Two main focus areas are apparent from what you have shared – The first is to determine whether his levels of hyperactivity are more than what is usually seen in children his age. The second is to help you in managing his behavior. A psychologist will be able to help you with both these areas.
    We have sent you an email with further details about the process and the fee structure. Kindly check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Thank you

  193. While looking for some Child counselling help I came across your website. My son is 3 yrs and 4 months old. I find most of his behavior to be too hyper. His attention span both seem to be very low. he is in nursery .We both are working .whole day he was stay with his grandmaa. May be we are unable to identify his issues with learning and writing and also failing to channelize his energy as he is a very hyper active kid. Would seek an appointment to check if there is anything we need to do to give him a better growing up days.
    How and where do we start? Please let me know. We stay in NERUL (NAVI MUMBAI) area.

  194. Hi Shruti,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We understand that it must be difficult and stressful for you when your brother is emotionally upset. We would be glad to help him cope with whatever difficulties he might be facing through counseling. We have sent you an email with details about the process and the fee structure of counseling. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Warm Regards

  195. Hi…
    Need to counseling for my brother…he is in 12th grade and going through a lot of emotional trauma without us knowing the reason for it…
    Need guidance and consulting for him

    Thanks

  196. Dear Swapnali,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We understand that you are concerned about your child. We suggest you consult with a psychologist who works with children. A psychologist would take a detailed background of the situation and all the concerns you have. From what you have written in, it seems as though it would be helpful to investigate the reasons why your child is lagging behind in studies. Some psychological assessment will probably be required for the same. A detailed background will help the psychologist identify what tests are required and why. Depending on how comfortable you feel with her suggestions, you can then decide if you wish to follow up accordingly.
    Do write back to info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in if you want any more details about counseling at Inner Space. You can also call us on 9833985538. Our timings for telephone enquiries are from 11am to 7pm, Monday to Friday. Thanks

  197. Dear Arshaan,
    Indeed, many parents today face similar challenges in bringing children up. We understand that making decisions pertaining to school are important and need to be made with care. We suggest you consult with a psychologist who works with children. A psychologist would take a detailed background of the situation and all the concerns you have – be it academic or behavioral. From what you have written in, it seems as though it would be helpful to investigate the reasons why your child has developed stubbornness. A detailed background will also help the psychologist understand whether there could be any academic difficulties. Eventually, the psychologist will be able to help your child express and work through any emotional concerns using play therapy techniques. She will also be able to help you adopt healthy parenting strategies.

    We are linking you to some articles that might be useful –
    Disciplining Children with Compassion
    Behavior Problems in Children : A Sign of Hidden Low self-Esteem?

    If you want any more details about counseling at Inner Space, do write back to info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in or call us on 9833985538. You can call us from 11am to 7pm, Monday to Friday. Thanks

  198. Hello,

    I have a daughter she is 6 years old, she was good in studies when she was in JKG & HKG but now she is lacking behind in studies she doesnt ready, her handwriting has spoiled and what ever she studies exactly after few mnutes she forgets, and when i talk to her regarding this she keep complete silence i cant get how get from her what exactly is wrong.

    Please help me

  199. Dear Ma’am,

    I was just going through your website and seem to have found that a lot of people are facing similar issues like mine. I am a father of a 4 year old son, my son was always very understanding and obedient but lately since past few months he have started to act in a very weird manner like hitting elders, acting stubborn and not listening to anyone at home. Although he is good with everything I have noticed that he finds it very difficult in focusing on studies he is unable to read or write. I’m quite confused as what is to be done in such case as I’m planning to register his name for a school but I personally doesn’t feel he is ready for it. Need your suggestions please revert as soon as possible Thanks.

  200. Dear Milesh,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We understand how worrisome it must be to see your daughter pick at her skin. Usually, such behaviors arise out of some suppressed emotions, such as anxiety, frustration, or low self confidence. There could also be some innate, developmental factors such as a tendency to get distracted or daydream, that could worsen the behavior. We strongly suggest you see a psychologist who works with children. A psychologist will gain a detailed understanding of the situation and let you know what needs to be done ahead. If you want to know more about the process and the fee structure of counseling, please call us on 983985538 or email us on info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    We’d be glad to help.

    Warm Regards

  201. My Daughter is 3.8 years old and goes to Nersery, she has a habit of figiting with her fingers and pealing her skin. She starts day dreaming and starts pealing sik from her hand to the extent of injuring her self. In her school also she dose not concentrate and dose not partesipate because of this habit. She is also very introvert and dose not interact with people out side of her comfort zone. Can you suggest what should we do

  202. We understand that it must be difficult for you to cope with this situation. We suggest that you consult with a counselor who works with children. A counselor will take a complete background of the situation and decide what needs to be done ahead. Sometimes, there are subtle problems that the child faces at an emotional level that he isn’t able to express, or cope with. A counselor would be able to identify and help him through any such difficulties.
    She will also be able to help you adopt better ways of communicating to him and handling his behavior. If you want more details about the process of assessment, do write in to info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in or call us on 9833985538. We would be glad to help.
    Thanks

  203. Dear Swati,
    We understand how concerned you must be about your son. We suggest that you consult with a psychologist. A psychologist will take a complete background of the situation and decide what needs to be done ahead. From what you have written in, it seems as though some assessment will be required in order to understand why the child is not able to cope adequately with academics. If you want more details about the process of assessment, do write in to info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in or call us on 9833985538. we would be glad to help.
    Thanks

  204. Swati S. Chaudhari

    My son is 7 years old and studying in 2nd He is not well in studies, his school teacher is frquiently calling us in school and asking us to repeat him the 2nd standard. As per school teacher he is not ready to write, he doesn’t answer any question to the teacher. I also try to make him to study at home but he don’t. He says he doesn’t like to do studies. His school teacher suggested us to go for a child counseling. Can you sugest what to do.

  205. Hi,
    My son is now 9 yrs old but is easily agitated!
    Gets angry at the drop of a hat and is very rude, boisterous in his ways!
    He is an excellent student & ace athelete and this seems to be his only setback and is constantly mis understood as a result!!
    I’ve tried sitting him down and explaining things to him, tried the reward therapy but that back fired big time! Please help me
    I want him to be able to control his temper

  206. My son is 4 years old and studying in Jr kg. He is not well in studies, his school teacher is frquiently calling us in school and asking us to repeat him the Nursery standard. As per school teacher he is not ready to write, he doesn’t answer any question to the teacher. I also try to make him to study at home but he don’t. He says he doesn’t like to do studies. His school teacher suggested us to go for a child counseling. Can you sugest what to do.

  207. Hi Pari,
    We understand that you are extremely concerned about this behavior and are worried about what is contributing to it. There is probably something your daughter has perceived, which she is interpreting as being unloved. We suggest you consult with a counselor who deals with children. A counselor will gain a detailed background and help you understand what the possible roots of this behavior could be. A counselor will also be able to help you gain a better overall understanding of the way children understand emotions, so that you are in a better place when it comes to managing her behavior.
    Do call us on 9833985538 if you want more details about the process and the fee structure of child counseling at Inner Space.

    We wish you the best.

  208. Dear Revati,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We understand that dealing with your child’s change in behaviour can be quite difficult. Generally a behaviour change would suggest certain underlying emotions. It is important to explore the reasons behind the behaviour change. We would suggest that you try and share your observations about his behaviour and gently inquire about the possible reasons, and also generally ask him about other areas in his life, like school, his friends, academics. If you find that talking does not help improve the situation, we suggest that you seek the guidance of a counselor. If you would like us to provide you with details regarding the process and fee of child counseling at our center do let us know. We would be glad to help.
    Warm Regards.

  209. i have two sons one is 8yrs old and the second one is 1.2 yrs. my elder son is in 2nd standard, loves to go to school, but now a days it seems that he is getting irritated very frequently and often talks negative, we always fulfill all his wishes and gives more attention then the younger one, but still we are tensed about his irritation and negativity please suggest

  210. Hi ,
    My child is 4 years old and extremely brilliant . She is better off in everything in comparison to the age group she falls in . However, off late she weeps a lot and tells me that I don’t love her. No one loves her.
    She is becoming very resistant to agree to things 50% of the times.

    Am worried why this behaviour. Please guide

    Regards,
    Pari

  211. Dear Archana,
    We understand that as a mother you must be worried and concerned. Your daughter seems to have a tendency to get wrapped up in her own thoughts/fantasies. Do you observe this behavior only while eating? Or does it occur otherwise too? There could be certain emotional difficulties/challenges that your child could be preoccupied with. Daydreaming often serves as a compensatory mechanism that helps the child deal with underlying difficulties. We would be glad to assist you in understanding what these underlying reasons could be, and importantly, what can be done to help change the same. We have sent you an email with more details about the process and fees. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in

  212. Dear Mrs Ketki,
    It seems as though your child is undergoing certain changes emotionally which are making him irritable and stubborn.
    Though we don’t see childhood as an “emotional” phase in life, children continuously experience change. Their physical and mental capacities grow; as a result of which they slowly see and understand more things. Moreover, school, dealing with teachers, peers etc also forms a part of the challenges that a child faces.
    Sometimes, the child finds it difficult to navigate these changes. This difficulty in turn leads to irritability, anger and emotional upsets.
    We suggest you meet a counselor who works with children. Get some perspective about what must be happening to your child and how this can be handled. To know more about child counseling, you can call us on 9833985538 or email us at info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Thanks

  213. My daughter will be 10 years old in 2 months.
    My problem is that she takes too much time in eating may it be breakfast , lunch or dinner
    I have tried everything to make her eat fast but in vain.
    She is always dreaming and forgets that food is stuffed in her mouth.
    Her eating time ranges from 1 hour to 3 hours. Nowadays she is always day dreaming and lost in her world.
    It hardly affects her if we are upset.
    She was super brilliant child before but nowadays she seems least interested in anything.
    I am worried please help

  214. Dear Ma’am,

    I write to you with regards to my 4 year old son. Usually he is a very friendly and bright child but over the last 4 or 5 months he has turned extremely aggressive and stubborn. I do realise that this may be a phase and since he is an only child, unwillingly we may also be giving into his demands.
    However things have worsened to the extent that he hits us (his parents), granny or whoever tries to correct him. He has also started talking back which I feel needs to be stopped right now otherwise it would turn into a habit.
    What’s more disturbing is the fact that he has always been a very obedient and playful child so this kind of behavior is very shocking for us.
    Request your assistance in this matter.
    Thank you
    Kind regards
    Mrs. Ketki Shah

  215. Dear Naaz,
    From what you have written in, it appears as though your niece is experiencing some emotional difficulties which affect her confidence and make her uneasy. Do you think there is anyone in her environment she will open up to? Someone she trusts and can talk freely to? If there is such a person, maybe she can express herself to them.
    If she isn’t comfortable expressing herself to anyone in her environment, it would then help to seek help from a counselor who works with children. A counselor will gently help her express herself and then work through her emotional difficulties gradually, through sessions.
    You can call us on 9833985538 to know more about counseling/to book a session. We would be glad to help.

    Warm Regards

  216. Dear Rupa
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us on our website. We understand that as a parent, you are worried about this situation and we would be glad to help.
    From what you have written in, it seems like it would be worthwhile to investigate into what the underlying reasons could be for his academic difficulties. Usually, the reasons are linked to developmental concerns (such as overall intellectual functioning/learning difficulties etc.), emotional issues (such as low self-esteem/difficulty communicating emotional needs etc.), or a combination of the two. Usually, psychological assessment helps to identify existing reasons and rule out others. Based on the results of the assessment, further intervention plans can be suggested.
    We would suggest you book one session with a psychologist who works with children. We are based at Malad. We understand that Malad is far from Chembur; however, unfortunately we are not aware of psychologists in that area. Perhaps you could try searching on Google or JustDial.
    We have sent you an email with the process and fee structure of counselling at Inner Space, in case you need it. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Take care

  217. Dear sir/mam
    My niece is 10 years old studying in class 5th her speech is not clear and thus faces difficulty at school as I think students do Bully her also poor concentration also lack of interest in going to school and study and when asked doesn’t want to talk about it I am very concerned for her I know she is a smart student and I don’t want unnecessary things bothering her please help me….

  218. Hi!!
    my son is 6 years old studding in 1st standard.He is not studding well . He is not writing properly & he can”t do anything in quick .His teacher suggest me to meet counseller can plz help me & let me know best counseller.I stay in chembur.

  219. Dear Shyni,
    We understand that you are concerned about your son’s behavior. Usually, behavioral problems arise because the child does not feel secure and peaceful within. Are there any areas of his life that he could be dissatisfied with? Try putting yourself in his place. Imagine a typical day in his life, and situations at school, with his friends and at home. Do you think he is not happy with any of these aspects? Give it some time, observe his emotions and keep putting yourself in his shoes. This way, you might get closer to understanding what might be bothering him from within. Then, you can work with these root causes of the aggression instead of only working with the superficial aspects.
    We are linking you to an article that might help provide some perspective – Behavior Problems in Children: A Sign of Hidden Low Self Esteem?

    We also think it would help to consult a psychologist who works with children. A psychologist would help you conclusively arrive at what could be causing these behavioral issues and how they can be modified.

    Hope this helps.

    Warm Regards

  220. Dear Sneha,
    We understand that you are concerned about the situation. Usually, difficulties adapting to school could be because school is a novel, strange environment for a child who is so far used to the home environment. Moreover, school has many other children, making some children feel afraid and insecure. Also, going to school means that the child has to be separated from his/her parent for a few hours, which is something the child has not experienced before. When these factors come together, the child cries and refuses to go to school. The following might help in dealing with the situation-
    1. Communicating to the child in gentle, playful ways that school is a new but safe place – you can give examples from your own experiences in school.
    2. Helping the child interact with others – encourage the child to socialize and communicate. Give him an idea or two when you feel the situation is apt for interaction, and let him take it ahead from there. He needn’t interact in every situation. Whenever you feel the opportunity is right, you can help him express himself and cultivate a curiosity in the opposite person. The more confident the child feels socializing, the more secure he would feel among his classmates and teachers.
    If you feel this situation is difficult to handle by yourself, you could seek help from a counselor who works therapeutically with children. A counselor will help you understand what might be bothering him and help him cope accordingly.

  221. Hi!!
    My son is 8 years old and is brilliant in studies. However he is become absolutely careless, keeps work incomplete, disobeys, argues with elders, doesn’t share anything, doesn’t follow instructions and has gone behind in studies. I have tried talking to him ,punishing him physically but all this didnot give me result. He promises not to repeat his mistakes but never keeps his promise. Please let me know if I can do something about it.
    shyni

  222. My child is 3 yrs old. He is in nursery. Sometimes he is going properly to school. But suddenly these days he refuse to go to school. He was attended playgroup also. In that also he was doing same thing. I am very much worried that he is not ready to go school. We also tried to tell me that if you go school we will give you your favorite things. But he is not ready for that. He is good at studies. only problem is not ready to go school.

    Please let me know the solution for this. Becoz any how he has to go to school.

    Regards,

    sneha
    Mumbai, India

  223. Dear Mr. Khan,
    Thank you for writing in to us. From what you have written in, it appears as though some counseling would indeed help him. It seems as though he is in some emotional distress. A counselor would gently help him share his concerns and work through them. Do write back or call us on 9833985538 and we will share more details about the process and the fee structure of counseling, so that you can decide.
    Warm Regards

  224. Dear Deborati,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. From what you have written in, it appears as if a consultation with a psychologist would help. A psychologist will gain a complete background of the situation and help you plan ahead. We have sent you an email with the process and the fee structure. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Take care

  225. Debaroti Bhattacharya

    While looking for some Child counselling help I came across your website. My son is 3 yrs and 8 months old. i find some of his behavior to be too hyper. His retention power and attention span both seem to be very low. he is is Jr. Kg and the school has introduced writing where he is finding it difficult to cope. May be we are unable to identify his issues with learning and writing and also failing to channelize his energy as he is a very hyper active kid. Would seek an appointment to check if there is anything we need to do to give him a better growing up days.

    How and where do we start? Please let me know. We stay in Powai area.

  226. dear sir

    My elder son studying in std 8 13 yrs old , he is not interacting people other then family member & always serious & thinking some thing even since last 3-4 years his hair also start greying

    Can you pls let me know whether he need some counselling

  227. Dear Ashish,
    Thank you for writing in. We understand that you are concerned about your daughter. In our knowledge, remedial therapy usually requires longer than four weeks. Usually, remedial therapy needs to be consistently undertaken for a few months to more than a year depending on the extent of the child’s difficulties. You could enquire with some remedial education center, show them her report and ask them what needs to be done ahead.
    Also, you have mentioned that she tends to get distracted and daydreams. This could occur since she is finding studies difficult. Does her previous report include a comprehensive assessment of Intelligence, Visual-Motor Skills and Difficulties in Attention, in addition to Assessment of Reading/Writing/Mathematics?. If not, undertaking a comprehensive assessment might help to to check if any areas of difficulty have remained unidentified.
    Lastly, if it has been 1.5-2 years since she got her last psycho-educational assessment done, it might help to repeat the same, to plan remedial measures based on her current levels of reading, writing and mathematics.

    if you have any more queries, you can call us on 9833985538. The timings for telephone enquiry are 11am to 7pm, Monday to Friday. We’d be glad to help.

  228. Hi, my daughter is in her 6th grade and has some issues with spellings[Phonics] and b and d [Mild]. The issue with b and d was in her initial years till her 2nd grade and was cured but has reoccurred after she came to her 5th grade. Her spellings have constantly been a problem. We had consulted an in house counselor in her school who had conducted a Psycho-Educational Assessment Report and had suggested remedial therapy sessions which included phonic classes for approx 4 weeks. This helped her for sometime but we were back from were we started soon. Now in the current grade she is in the academic pressure has increased, her spelling have become a concern for us. To give you examples of it she would spell immediate as immidiate, agreed as agrred, waves as vaves, great as grate,tremendous as tremendus and trouble as trubble etc..She gets distracted and day dreams at times though we have never got any complains from school but have observed this while teaching her at home. She also cannot manage her schedule as per time, She needs to be constantly reminded on time and to stick to it. My wife has been regularly helping her with basic spellings by taking tests, breaking words as per phonics, encouraging her to read, also revising the phonic rules again and again with her. In spite of this we still find her struggling with spellings, hence reluctant to read and less confident as she is growing older and probably understanding her weakness. I would appreciate if you could suggest remedies at the earliest.
    Regards,
    Ashish

  229. Hi Saili,
    We understand that this situation must be worrisome for you as a parent. Usually, when children refuse to go to school, there are some psychological reasons underlying this. These reasons could be emotional in nature. For example, the child could feel in a certain way about her studies, her friends, her teachers or herself. If her experiences in school are anxiety provoking, she would refuse to go. Some children also refuse to go because they are upset about something at home, or about their relationship with their parents. Whatever these reasons are, they are usually subtle and understood only after they have been explored.
    Alternatively, reasons could be academic in nature. If children find studies difficult or feel they are not able to cope, they might react by refusing to go to school.
    Usually, consultation with a therapist who works with children helps in uncovering these reasons and working through them. If you are not satisfied with your current therapist, maybe you could communicate the same to him/her. Let the therapist know what you are feeling and why. A discussion like this might facilitate fresh perspective, for both, the therapist and for you.

    Hope this helps.

    Thanks

  230. Dear Sumedha,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. It would help to ascertain whether his hyperactivity is more than typically seen in children his age. If yes, perhaps he would need some specific support to help him manage his hyperactivity. We suggest you see a psychologist who works with children. Let the psychologist gain a detailed background from you and observe your child. Accordingly, she will suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    Do write to us on info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in if you wish to know more about the process and fee structure of counseling at Inner Space. We would be glad to help.

  231. Hi Maryam,
    Sure. We’d be glad to help you. You can write in to us at info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in, sharing briefly what you need help with. Accordingly, we will guide you about the process and the fee structure of counseling. Alternatively, you can call us on 9833985538 between 11am and 7pm, Monday to Friday. You can tell us briefly what you need help with and we will guide you accordingly.
    Thanks!

  232. hello,
    my son is 2.5 years old doesn’t sit on one place in d school .he doesn’t follow d instructions of the teacher.even if the teacher is upset with him.he doesn’t bother.he is hyperactive so he doesnt sit on one place at home also.please advise

    regards
    sumedha

  233. Hi Niyati,
    Usually, when children begin to show problems in behaviour, it is linked to some emotional needs within that they are unable to fulfill. These needs could be anything ranging from a need for approval, acceptance, power, self sufficiency etc. You could try thinking on these lines. Try putting yourself in the child’s shoes and think of what needs he must be feeling.
    Also, are there any circumstances that have changed for your child? Sometimes, a change in circumstances (such as school, peer group, shifting buildings etc) can prompt an emotional upset in the child.
    We suggest that you see a psychologist who deals with children. A psychologist would be able to guide you in a deeper, more holistic manner about what could be prompting the child’s behaviour. Through some psychological assessment and therapy, she could help to modify the child’s behaviour in a gentle, healthy manner.
    Do write to info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in if you want to know more about the process and fee structure of counselling at Inner Space. We would be glad to help.
    Also, we are sending you a link to some articles on parenting. Perhaps you could find something useful here:- Parenting

    Hope this helps

  234. Hi
    My daughter is 7 years old. She is not ready to going to school since March 2014. We have consulted on of the child consultant in our local area but we are not getting the results. Kindly guide what should be done.

  235. Dear Sudarshana,
    We’d be glad to help you with your query.
    Clients usually have the therapist’s contact number. If there is an emergency, you can get in touch with your therapist. However, if the therapist happens to be in sessions or is unavailable at that point, you could request a call back and she will return your call as soon as she can.
    We do keep track of how client’s are doing through our regular observations in sessions. Also, some counsellors maintain notes to aid this process.
    If at any point you feel that your therapist is not as involved in your therapy, you can communicate this to her and discuss it in your session.

    We hope this provides some more clarity.

    Warm Regards

  236. Hi
    How do you expect your client(s) to contact your therapist in emergency situations? Also, when your client is regular and continuing counseling, do you keep track on how s/he is doing? If so, how? When when your client feels that therapist is less involved or not involved at all?
    (FAQ section doesn’t answer above questions. Not asking details, so I’d prefer to be responded here in the comment section itself)

  237. Dear Raveena,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We understand that you are worried about your daughter and we would be glad to help. From what you have written in, it appears as though your daughter’s difficulties could be connected to some innate developmental factors, or to emotional ones, or both. We suggest you see a psychologist who can gain a detailed background of the situation. Some psychological testing would have to be done in order to identify what factors are leading to her difficulties. Once the causes are identified, the psychologist will guide you as to how you can help your daughter.
    Write back to us on info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in if you wish to know more about the process and fee structure of the above mentioned plan. We’d be happy to help you.
    Thanks

  238. My daughter is 7.5 yrs.Though she is considered as a docile child but the problem with her is she takes quite some time to reply someone. She usually makes one repeat the question so that she gets time to think about the answer. In short we can say she is not at all witty.pls help f

  239. Dear Jas

    Grief and loss in your child can be quite unhealthy for his emotional development. Play therapy for young children helps a great deal in these cases. Do start regular play therapy sessions with a psychologist specializing in play therapy. take care

  240. Dear Mam,

    My son is 3.8 months and I am a single parent and facing turmoil in our marital relationship since sometime. My son keep falling ill longing for his father (needs to hospitalize), whereas he is not bothered or worried about the child’s welfare.Is there any therapy through which i can help my child to overcome this loss.

  241. Hi!!

    My son is 9 years old and is brilliant in studies. However for the last one year he has become absolutely careless, keeps work incomplete, disobeys, argues with elders, dosent share anything, doswnt follow instructions and has gone behind in studies. Please let me know if I can do something about it.

    Niyati

  242. Dear Shahid,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We are extremely sorry for our delay in response. Due to an error, your comment was hidden until now.
    We would be glad to help your son through play therapy. The counselor would initially spend time understanding what the underlying reasons are for his inhibition. Such reasons could be connected to anxiety, low self esteem and other such emotional factors. Once the roots of the problem are identified, the counselor would then help him overcome whatever fear he has. She would also give you feedback as to how you can help him feel more comfortable and confident.
    Do write back or call us on 9833985538 to know more about the process and fee structure of therapy with children. The timings for enquiry are 11am to 7pm, Monday to Friday.

  243. Dear Marypushpa,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We are extremely sorry for the delay in response. Your comment was hidden due to a technical error and we just recovered it.
    Usually, when children have difficulties coping in school, there are some underlying reasons for the same. These reasons could be some innate genetic factors or some emotional ones. Some psychological assessment would have to be performed to identify these reasons, according to which a plan can be made to help the child. It is better to identify these reasons at an early age, since such difficulties could become more severe if neglected. We suggest you consult with a psychologist who deals with children. A psychologist would gain a detailed background of the situation and suggest what needs to be done ahead. Also, when you visit a psychologist, take his note books along so that the psychologist can go through his work.
    Do write back if you wish to know more about the process and the fee structure of psychological assessment and therapy. We’d be glad to help.
    Warm Regards

  244. Dear Santosh,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We are extremely sorry about the delay in response. Due to a technical error, we just recovered your comment. Is your child experiencing any anxiety with respect to school? Maybe there are some perceptions he has about school that make him internally anxious and inhibited. We suggest you visit a psychologist who deals with children. A psychologist would gain a detailed background of the situation and help you in identifying the root causes for the difference in his behavior at home and school. Once these causes are identified, she would work through these causes through play therapy sessions with the child. She would also give you feedback as to what you can do to help him open up.
    Think through this. Do write back to us if you want to know more about the process and fee structure of child counseling. We’d be glad to help.

    Warm Regards

  245. Dear Sonali,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand that you are concerned about the child. Sometimes, children who have learning difficulties feel segregated from the rest of the children they know. They are likely to feel like they are “lacking” and feel unsupported as well as pressurized by their environment. Such children tend to withdraw and are hesitant in their interactions with others.
    Would her parents be open to seeking help for her? Counseling will help provide her with a space to freely express herself and to grow. The counselor will also help her deal with her apprehensions, working on creating a positive self-image.
    We would be glad to help her through counseling. You can write in to us at info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in or call us on 9833985538 for information about the process and fee structure.
    Take Care

  246. Dear Nisita,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are concerned about this situation. There could be various reasons why your daughter seems slow or disinterested in certain activities and not in others. The nature of these reasons could be developmental, emotional or a combination of both. It would help to explore and understand these underlying reasons for her behaviour.
    We would be glad to help your daughter through counseling. A counselor would gain a detailed understanding of the child’s developmental background and help in assessing the areas of concern. She would also suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    We have sent you details of the process and fee structure via email. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Warm Regards.

  247. Hi Seema,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We understand that you must be worried about your son’s tendency to become disinterested. In our opinion, it is necessary to determine why this is happening. These reasons could be emotional in nature. They could also be due to some innate factors in the child that he is not able to help. Finding out what is making him disinterested and withdrawn is the first step. It would help in deciding what needs to be done to help him overcome these tendencies.
    A psychologist would be able to help you with this process. She would gain a detailed background into the situation and his behavior and accordingly suggest what needs to be done ahead. She would also let you know if some psychological assessment is required to help determine the underlying causes.

    Do write in if you wish to know more about the process and fee structure of counseling at Inner Space.

    We sincerely wish your son well 🙂

  248. MY SON ,SHARJEEL 3.5 YEAR OLD.HE IS VERY SHY AND TAKES TIME TO OPEN UP. WHEN WE ASK ABOUT SCHOOL ACTIVITY HE NEVER REPLIES AND DOES NOT SHARE ANY OF HIS HOME ACTIVIY AT SCHOOL EVEN THOUGH TEACHERS ASK HIM. WHEN TEACHERS ASK HIM ANY QUESTONS HE GET VERY AFRAID. KINDLY LET ME KNOW IF YOU CAN HELP ME TO GET MY CHILD CONFIDENT ENOUGH.

  249. hello, myself sonali studying in TYBA. I used to take private home tutions of students between 5th to 9th std. Last to last year i encountered with a girl who is a NIOS student having learning disability and many other personality problems. she doesnt like to be in social environment and prefer being alone, donot interact much with any one. Our bonding developed i time passed. but know due to my studies i discontinued teaching. Her mom is very worried all the time regarding her future as she is growing and remaining backwards. The child has very less attachment with family members. i want her to bloom as a person, learn to interact with people, become enthusiastic, all over become social which is a basic need ofa person for self development. please help me regarding it.

  250. Hi
    my son is 6 and half years old. he has always been a shy soft spoken child , but lately in the last one year he seemed extremely disintereted in any activity .
    he shows alot of enthusiasm at the onset, gets motivated if friends are a part of that activity , but when it comes to doing it , hes extremely disinterested and distracted and withdraws into a shell.
    He’s happy at school but whenever we visit and observe hes never really totally engaged in whatever he’s doing.
    he does complain of being left out at times by his friends.
    he says he loves soccer, but will be disinterested on field. same is for any activity. as parents we dont really force him, try and reason wiht him , but its showing no improvement .
    please advice. thank u

  251. My son is 7yrs old and 1st std ,he refuses to write….even at school he doesn’t write n also gets easily distracted and keeps disturbing the class.if he does any mistake and we fended and asking about that, his face will be fully blank, he won answer any thing and keeps his mouth open and seeing our face .in his class his not at all writing any thing all his books fully empty , i dnt know how to deal with this bec shouting or any other way is not helping.pls suggest what to do as I m really desperate.

  252. Dear Sachin,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand that you are concerned about this situation. Your daughter is probably feeling confused and insecure after the birth of her sibling. Birth of their sibling is a big change for the elder child. Some children embrace this change whereas others struggle to understand why the attention has shifted from them. She is likely to feel insecure and might not know how to express these feelings to you. She might not even be consciously aware of these feelings; and hence, it is likely to manifest in her behaviour; it is common for children to react to such changes by acting out.

    Gently speak to her about it and reassure her that you and your wife are there for her. Include her in activities related to the new born baby such as taking care of the baby, during playtime or shopping for the baby. Also, make sure to take out some individual one-on-one quality time for your daughter. This will help her feel more included and cared for.
    If you feel that you need some more information or want to discuss something in particular, you can email us on info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Take Care.

  253. My daughter is 7 yrs old, there is grasping change in her from now days she is more interested in home & social talk/ T.V etc… she is good in studies but she feel bore even she is not writing anything from the board what her teacher is writing. I am very much concern can you just help me out.

    Nilam

  254. Hi, my daughter is 8 yrs old She was good in studies but suddenly her behaviour change after we got another child 4 months back. She has no interest in studying , incomplete work,arguing with everyone, and a not bothered attitude. she has not effect of making her understand. She only does what she fills. We are worried. pls. advise how to handle this.

  255. Dear Vrunda,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are concerned about this situation. The difficulties that your child is facing could be due to certain underlying reasons that are developmental, emotional or a combination of both. Children of this age find it difficult to express verbally what they are going through or feeling. Hence, it tends to manifest in their behaviour. Don’t lose heart, you can gently ask him and encourage him to express how he feels. This will help you understand the reasons underlying his behaviour better.

    We are sending you the link to an article that might help you. Click here to read.

    If you feel that it is difficult to manage, you can seek help from a counselor. A counselor would gain a detailed understanding of the child’s developmental background and help in assessing the areas of concern. She would also suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    Let us know if you would like to know more about the process and fee structure of counseling at our center.
    Thanks and Warm Regards.

  256. Dear Mathews,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are worried about this situation. There could be various reasons why your son seems slow or disinterested in certain activities and not in others. The nature of these reasons could be developmental, emotional or a combination of both. It would help to explore and understand these underlying reasons for his behaviour.
    We would be glad to help your son through counseling. A counselor would gain a detailed understanding of the child’s developmental background and help in assessing the areas of concern. She would also suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    We have sent you details of the process and fee structure via email. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Warm Regards.

  257. Dear Ritu,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We can understand how difficult and stressful it would be for your aunt and uncle to deal with such a situation. It takes a toll on one’s emotions and mental resources.
    At the same time, your aunt’s daughter is probably undergoing some emotions of her own which she is not able to manage. This in turn is leading to a chaotic manner of making choices.
    Would your aunt, uncle and their daughter be willing to seek help from a counselor? A counselor would attempt to help each of them manage their own emotions better, understand each other and build a space where they can co-exist more peacefully. Maybe you could speak with them and see what they feel.
    If you want more details about the process and fee structure of counseling at Inner Space, do write back.

    Take care. We sincerely hope this situation eases out for everybody involved.

    Regards

  258. Dear Bharath Raj,
    Thank you for writing in to us Bharath. Sincere apologies for the delayed response. Have been a little caught up with work of late.
    We understand how concerned you would be, since stubbornness and resistant behavior often prove to be counterproductive in the long run. At the same time, there are some underlying reasons why children tend to ‘learn’ aggressive behaviors, and why they choose aggression over milder behaviors. These deeper emotional reasons could be low self esteem, a need for attention, a need to make a difference to the environment, or a combination of all.
    Would you seek help from a counselor who sees children? A counselor would be able to identify these reasons. She would also help the child learn healthier ways of meeting these needs, in place of aggression.
    Do let us know if you want more details about counseling at Inner Space.

    Meanwhile, linking you to some articles that could throw some more light on aggressive behavior –
    Behavior Problems: A Sign of Hidden Low Self Esteem?
    Disciplining Children with Compassion

    Hope this helps.

    Take care

  259. My son is 4 years old, he can’t control his anger, If someone tease his or distrub him while playing, he start crying or fight with that person, If i say no for his demand, he started throwing object, In anger, he hurt his friend or cousing, he start lying on floor, i m very disappointed with his behaviour, please suggest me wht should i do?

  260. my son is in the 7th std and 12 years old. He is very much slow in his activities.. He needs to be pushed too much for everything.. to wake him up go to school on time.. He argues also.. Doesn’t do his home work and doesn,t sit and read properly..

    He is very much enthusiastic to go for swimming and listening to music .. computer etc..

    please let me know whether you can help us..if yes please give us your fees structure..

    with best regards

    mathews

  261. Hi,
    My aunt has a 14 year old daughter.she is an adopted child.From the last four years her behaviour has undergone drastic changes. She hates her parents though they love her a lot and made her an all rounder. She has contacts with guys very elder to her. She confessed that she has an affair with a guy quite elder to her since two years but the guy refused about any such relation and said that she is the one who forces him to contact her. she was caught red handed smoking by her teacher and was suspended too. she threatened her parents of their lives if they restrict her and tried to squeeze her mother’s neck. she uses abusive language for her parents. my aunt and uncle are going through a trauma and its taking a toll on their health too. plz help.

  262. Hello mam
    my daughter is 5 yr old. Nowadays she is behaving so rudely. She has learnt to hit people.does not even respect elder people n hits them with watever she gets hands on. She doesnot even obey us. She also creats a lot of problem when going out also. Does not behave properly in public also. She thinks tat all wrong things are right n right things r wrong. She is becoming aggressive day by day. This kind of behaviour is making us worry a lot. Because she is going to the bad side day by day.plz help us

  263. Dear Panchal,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We understand that you are concerned about your son.
    Maybe your son is afraid of unfamiliar faces, which is a trait that some children display.
    Help him work through this fear, bit by bit. For example, meeting one new person is less threatening than meeting a whole group of new people. To help him work through his fear, you could try introducing him to just one unfamiliar person, in your presence. This way, you would be there to reassure him that the other person is safe to talk to.
    Also, whenever you know your son would be meeting people, try and let him know beforehand, so that he isn’t caught by surprise. Gently let him know who would be coming.

    Importantly, when your son is upset and crying, refrain from asking him to go ahead and talk to people, because this might make him feel more threatened. Instead, reassure him and give him some space to recover.

    If you are worried about this situation, you could also visit a counselor who works with children. A counselor would help in identifying the potential reasons behind his behavior. She would also suggest what can be done to help him overcome the same.
    If you want more details about the fee structure and process of counseling at Inner Space, let us know. We’d be glad to help.

    Take care,

    Warm Regards

  264. My son is 2 yrs old and he cries every time when some body (Except his father and Mother) calls or talks to him, even when other small childrens play or talk with him he cries. Pl. suggest me what should be done.

  265. Dear Delzeen,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We hope our phone conversation with you addressed your concerns and queries 🙂
    Warm Regards.

  266. Hi, my son 9 yrs old was good in studies sudden behavioural change has really worried me, as In not studying , incomplete work,arguing with everyone, and a not bothered attitude plz help

  267. Dear Sadia,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are worried about this situation. The difficulties that your child is facing could be due to certain underlying reasons that are developmental, emotional or a combination of both. Children of this age find it difficult to express verbally what they are going through or feeling. Hence, it tends to manifest in their behaviour. It would help to explore and understand the underlying reasons for her behaviour.
    You can seek help from a counselor. A counselor would gain a detailed understanding of the child’s developmental background and help in assessing the areas of concern. She would also suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    Let us know if you would like to know more about the process and fee structure of counseling at our center.
    Thanks and Warm Regards.

  268. My daughter is four and a half years old and she refuses to write..she is willing to cry for 3 hrs than to write.even at school she doesnt write n also gets easily distracted and keeps disturbing the class.i dnt know how to deal with this bec shouting or any other way is not helping.pls suggest what to do as I m really desperate.

  269. Dear Sunidhi,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We sincerely apologize for the delay in response. The email server was down for almost the whole of last week, making email inaccessible. We tried sending you a detailed email with our suggestions but the email id that you have provided seems to be incorrect.

    We understand that this must be a difficult situation for you to deal with.
    It is necessary to understand why your daughter has picked up this habit and what factors sustain it. These underlying reasons are usually personal and delicate. The child might be hesitant to express herself to you, at least in the beginning. Try and gently ask her about it.
    If you find this difficult to manage on your own, you can seek help from a therapist. A therapist would be able to elicit what your daughter is facing and help her and you work through it. Counseling would also help to provide a safe, comfortable space for her to express her thoughts and emotions.
    We would be glad to help her through counseling. Let us know if would want to know more about the process of counseling and the fee structure at Inner Space.
    Thanks and Warm Regards

  270. Thank you madam for your advice of seeking a psychologist. Can you please let me know how can we proceed with Inner Space. Requesting you to please mail me the details.

    Regards,
    Sandeep

  271. Dear Allwyn,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are worried about this situation. The difficulties that your child is facing could be due to certain underlying reasons that are developmental, emotional or a combination of both.
    You can seek help from a counselor. A counselor would gain a detailed understanding of the child’s developmental background and help in assessing the areas of concern. She would also suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    If you wish to know more about the process and fee structure of counseling at our center, you can call us on 9833985538. Our timings for telephone enquiries are 11am to 7pm, Monday to Saturday.
    Thanks and Warm Regards.

  272. Hi my daughter is 7yrs old. She is in class 2. From last six months she has developed a very bad habbit of rubbing her inner body part.I am really worried please guide me what should I do as I can keep a watch at home but in school or bus etc everywhere is not possible to track her. How to make her understand and get rid of this bad habbit.
    Really in need of your valuable suggestions.
    Thank you,

  273. My son is 10yrs old his problem is that he doesnt write the notes which is given in the school and not interest in studing pls tell me what I should do
    Thanks

  274. Dear Sandeep,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are worried about your daughter.
    There seem to be certain underlying reasons for her behaviour. These reasons could stem from certain innate, academic or emotional difficulties that she could be facing. It would help to understand and explore these reasons so that we can help her work with the difficulties.

    You can seek seek help from a psychologist. A psychologist will gain a detailed understanding of the situation and will help in assessing the areas of concern. He/she would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.
    Let us know if you would want to know about the process and fee of counseling at Inner Space.
    Warm Regards

  275. Dear Madam,
    Our daughter is 5 yrs old, she is in now Sr Kg. We’ve moved 4 months back from Chennai to Mumbai. She is active, talkative, mingles with every body, very much social in nature & caring. She speaks well, mostly English. The problem is with her writing, being attentive in her class room. She writes very slowly at home as well. She will not write anything in class, will not be copying anything from the black board from class. At home also, she has the same problem of writing. She recently got her glasses, we thought that her eye sight was the problem, but it doesnt look like.

    The other aspect is her concentration. For instance, when she goes for dance class, she will not dance for most of the time, but looks at every body around her. Or she will be walking here & there. Likewise many instances.

    Please let me know whom should be approached in these kinda situations.

    Thank You.

  276. Dear Deepak,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand that as a parent, you are worried about her.
    From what you have enlisted, it seems that there are certain features of inattention that might be present. However, a detailed psychological assessment is essential to ascertain whether it is ADHD or any other developmental/emotional issues since she also seems to be having difficulties with reading/writing.
    We suggest you seek help from a counselor for the same. A counselor will gain a detailed understanding of the situation and will help in assessing the areas of concern. He/she would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.
    Let us know if you would want to know about the process and fee of counseling at Inner Space.
    Warm Regards

  277. Dear Mahendra,
    Thank you for writing in to us.
    We undertake aptitude/personality/interest profiling at our centre. However, if you need in-depth Career Counseling, with specific career choices and means of pursuing the same, we would be unable to help, since we are not career counselors.

    The assessment that we undertake will collectively help gain insights into:-
    -Specific areas of strengths and weaknesses in terms of the student’s ability, which directly impact the extent to which the student would be able to cope with different educational/career fields
    -The student’s interests in terms of academic/career choices
    -Personality traits that impact ease of adjustment in various jobs, since different job roles need different traits.

    This in turn would help you and your child plan his/her choice of stream.

    Let us know if you wish to know more about the process and fee structure of the assessment mentioned above/
    Warm Regards

  278. MAHENDRA AGRAWAL

    I would like to get my son counselled for higher studies / field, he is currently studying in 9th standard. please advise

  279. Hi, i have 9 years old twins child one daughter & one son. i think my daughter is suffering from ADHD, reason being her inattentiveness towards studies (writing / reading),
    1. she is very poor in reading specially Hindi & English, always mix up the letters,
    2. she is having very less interest towards extracurricular activities her class teachers are also worried about her performance,
    3. Have difficulty focusing attention on organizing and completing a task or learning something new.
    4. Have difficulty maintaining focus on one task, very stubborn in nature.
    5. Not seem to listen when spoken to
    6. Struggle to follow instructions
    7. Have difficulty waiting for things they want or waiting their turns in games

    Pls help us.

  280. Dear Mayank,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand that you are concerned about this situation.
    Children at this age are starting to interact more holistically with their environment. They not only interact with their family members but also with peers and school authorities. They are adapting and learning as they go along. There could be developmental, emotional or behavioural reasons underlying your child’s communication abilities.

    You can seek help from a psychologist. She will gain a detailed understanding of the child’s current situation, emotional needs as well as his developmental background. She would help to identify these reasons and gently explore and work with them. She would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.

    If you would like to know more details about the process of counseling and the fee structure at Inner Space, do let us know.
    Warm Regards

  281. Dear Kalim,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand that as parents you are worried about him not wanting to go to school. There seem to be certain underlying reasons for his behaviour. Children at this age sometimes struggle to adjust to a school environment. This could be because of fear of separation or the insecurity that comes with being in a new environment. This tends to manifest behaviourally and sometimes, complaints of physical discomfort are also noticed. It would help to understand and explore these reasons so that we can help him work with the difficulties.
    You can seek help from a psychologist. She will gain a detailed understanding of the child’s current situation, emotional needs as well as his developmental background. She would help to identify these areas of concern and gently explore and work with them. She would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.

    If you would like to know more details about the process of counseling and the fee structure at Inner Space, do let us know.
    Take Care

  282. Dear Ma’am,
    We have a son who is 5 yr 9 months old. He is good in studies, shows the right emotions, is very affectionate and fond of TV/Computers. The problem is he just does not communicate. I think his language skills are limited. He prefers to answer in ‘Yes’ and ‘No’. He still cannot tell a story. When he mixes with other children, he likes to be with them, plays and laughs with them, but again he does not talk much. There was a problem with fine motor skills earlier, which seems much better than now. He is prompt with his studies. He finishes home-work in time, knows all the alphabets and numbers supposed to be known for his age. Also, he does not like to follow instructions from anyone other than parents. Even teachers are facing a problem there because he simply disregards, whatever is told. I have started teaching him football recently and he seems to be picking up well. Can you help me understand what is the problem with him. Because he seems to be normal is every respect other than communicating effectively and following instructions of other people.
    Regards

  283. HI, my son is 6 years old , and he is not willing to go to school at all. We enquired in school also but there is no issue from school, he used to go to school few days earlier but he used to cry and vomit during school time. he is good when not going to school. he feels sick by just name of going to school. now he just dont want to go to school. asking him he says i want to study but fear about school. he has no siblings and plays with parents only at home.

  284. Dear Shalini,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand, that as a parent, you are worried about this situation. The difficulties that your child is facing could be due to certain underlying reasons that are developmental, emotional or a combination of both.
    We would be glad to help your child cope with these difficulties through counseling. We are sharing some details about the process and fee of counseling with you via email. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in
    Warm Regards.

  285. Shalini Correia

    Hi, My son is 8yrs old, and since jr.kg he would stammer, with a lot of help from his teachers it reduced and its not in between the sentence but in the beginning of the sentence, like for eg. mumma mumma mumma and then say what he has to, same with his teacher or grandparents, also he doesnt write copy his lessons from the board, this has been so since the Ist standard, earlier his teachers would copy it for him or i would come home from work and call his friends for the HW. till now he missess out, but next day will copy it from school.and is slow in everything he does, He also keeps back alot of things, basically will not tell us everything at home, and on probing will say didn’t write or someone said this only on escalation. he will do something and will say he never did it, unless we push for the truth. i feel he is low on confidence and is not able to speak for himself if right or wrong, and he has been a pampered child. I want him to undergo some counselling to understand what he is undergoing.

  286. Dear Peeu,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. The child appears to have some fear of insects and bugs. In addition to making her understand, you can also help her express how really she feels about insects. You could ask some open ended questions to really understand what she is going through before trying to correct the fear.
    If her fears are disturbing her, maybe it would help to see a psychologist. A psychologist would gain a detailed background of the situation and gradually help her in overcoming her fear.
    Let us know if you wish to know more about child counseling.

    Take care

  287. My daughter is 6 +.Off late we have observed that she behaves frantically after seeing insects around her…any insects or bugs or flies…she shows tremendous repulsion against these creatures…though this nature had been there in her since her toddler years, but now it has aggravated…i dont know how to deal with her problem…we try to make her understand but its not working on her.

  288. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Bikram,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand that you are concerned about this situation.
    Language development and changes in behaviour can be affected due to developmental reasons. Also, after the birth of a sibling, most young children show changes in their behaviour as they try and adapt to new family dynamics. We would need to ascertain whether the underlying reasons for this situation are developmental, emotional or a combination of both.
    You can seek help from a psychologist. She will gain a detailed understanding of the child’s current situation, emotional needs as well as her developmental background. She would help to identify these areas of concern and gently explore and work with them. She would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.

    If you would like to know more details about the process of counseling and the fee structure at Inner Space, do let us know.
    Take Care

  289. Dear Madam,
    I have two daughters age 3 years and 2 months & 1 year and 10 months respectively. It has been noted that my elder daughter earlier age reaction as well as language development was good like at her 5 months age she was started telling PAPA and at her first birthday she told BIRTHDAY as well as able to open the cork of bottle without taking help from us.
    After my younger daughter birth, her language development as well as reaction gradually reduced even now not telling single words what earlier common for her. Now she is very rigid with her demand if not provided by us, she is trying to hit/ cut us. Her eye contact also noted less and while talking with her, sometime she uses to close her both ear by hand. She is not feeling comfortable while any domestic animal like dog, cow, buffalo etc come around her.
    We are very concern regarding her behaviour/language development. Your valuable guidance required for us to give her proper parenting.
    For your information, we are very happy with my younger daughter growth in all respect.

  290. Hi Urvi

    Please do not worry. What your child is going through is not uncommon. Sometimes the separation anxiety carries on for long. Some children have difficult experiences early on in school which they hold on to. If the problem persists, you could get her to see a counselor for a few sessions. That should help.
    If you get anxious, she will only get more anxious as children start subconsciously resonating with the parent’s anxiety.
    So keep your calm… Take care and all the best!

  291. Hi,
    Its been more than a month since school has started. My four yr old girl still refuses to go to school. She cries in class which is disturbing the other children as well as the teachers. Is it that she still has separartion anxiety? Cause in class she kees teling the teacher to call me to school and requests her repeatedly for allowig her to go home.
    Teachers too have lost their patience.
    In the previous school which she went to, a teacher had come and yelled at the children for making noise. After that imcident she had refused going to school.
    Now she goes to school which is bigger and has more students. Due to which at times the teacher talk on loud tone. Since Last week i noticed the same behaviour as last yr. I have met the principal too and d teachers too but they say it is impossible to handle her and cannot give all the time to her as others suffer.
    Could you please help figure out a way for dis situation and how do i get her going to school and ensure that she is no longer crying and is settled in.

    Also, do u think she is going thru some pyschiatric problem??
    Dis situation is leaving me sleepless as i feel my child is going thru too much 🙁

  292. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Bikram,
    Thank you for writing in to us. We can understand that, as a parent, you must be concerned for her.
    If you have noticed difficulties in her speech, we suggest you consult a speech therapist. He/she will gain a detailed understanding of the child’s current situation as well as her developmental background. A speech therapist would help you identify and understand certain areas of concern. He/She would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.

    Take Care

  293. Dear Malini,

    Thanks a lot for your reply. Please send me the fee structure and other details for further discussion.

    Thanks

  294. I have girl baby her age approx 3 years and 2 month (Name-Suhana). I have noted that Suhana is yet to be used sentence still she is telling some basic word like PAPA, WATER etc (since long back). However, her physical growth is good. She was born by operation (surgery) after completion of 8 mts and 23 days (approx). Now we are sending her to the Kids school from last 30 days but major improvement still not found.
    We have big fear as after completion of more than 3 years, she is not speaking as well as she is not following our instruction (like to bring some thing). Looking forward for your expert opinion about SUHANA’s growth as well as expert comments for her proper care.

  295. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Divya,
    Thank you writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand that, as a parent, you must be worried for her.
    There seem to be certain underlying reasons for her behaviour. These reasons might be either innate or emotional and have probably started to behaviourally manifest through different areas of her daily routine.
    Sometimes, it can be difficult to understand this in everyday life. You can seek help from a psychologist. She will gain a detailed understanding of the child’s current situation, emotional needs as well as her developmental background. She would help to identify these areas of concern and gently explore and work with them. She would also be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.

    If you would like to know more details about the process of counseling and the fee structure at Inner Space, do let us know.
    Take Care

  296. My daughter is 5.5 years old. She is very smart and talkative. At home she studies and grasps everything very fast. But is very lazy in writing. She orates all the stories and mixes with children. But she always feels she does not have a friend and she feels depressed. She answers everything correctly at home but doesnot perform well in school. Teachers raise concerns as she doesnot concentrate and cries in class and disturbs the whole class. She doesnot write the notes in book. She is very impatient and doesnot concentrate on any thing for more than a minute. She feels alone even if I devote my full time and attention on her. I’m very disturbed as I’m not able to understand her problem.

    Please help

  297. Thank you very much for your quick response. Please let me know the details. Can you please arrange to send me contact details for further discussions.

    Regards,
    Nikhil

  298. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Nikhil,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We can understand that as parents, this situation must be difficult and worrisome for you. Yet, don’t lose heart. Over the last few years, we have been seeing several children who have similar behaviors. Eventually, they do cope, especially if they get the right kind of help and a supportive environment.

    If you notice behaviours that might suggest ADHD, it is better to get it assessed. You can seek help from a psychologist. She will gain a detailed understanding of the child’s current situation, emotional needs as well as his developmental background. She would be able to guide you as to what needs to be done ahead.

    If you would like to know more details about the process of counseling and the fee structure at Inner Space, do let us know.
    Take Care

  299. Hi,

    My son is 8 years old. I have a feeling that he is suffering from ADHD; reason being his inattentiveness towards studies (essentially writing). However at the same point of time he is fond of television, and is good in music and playing drums. He pays lot of attention to other talks at domestic level. However when it come to studies, he takes the back seat. He is average-good in oral studies but when it comes to writing, the problem begins. Same things happens with Mathematical skills.

    Initially teachers in school were cooperating us that he will be okay with time and he is a cute child but now they have started raising questions on our parenting, which is humiliating and we as parents feel bad about it.

    One more attribute, I would like to talk about, he is foody and is gaining weight. As a kid he throws all tantrums to get what he wants. Though at times(60%) we are successful in negotiating it with him. He talks about weapons, bombs and what not destructive things while playing. At times, I am scared.

    Please help.

    Regards,
    Nikhil

  300. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Kirti,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We do understand how difficult it must be for you to cope with this as a mother. Some of your daughter’s behavioral difficulties could stem from ADHD, since ADHD makes children constitutionally prone to being easily provoked, impulsive and reactive. This is more because ADHD leads to a lot of pent up energy within, which the child is unable to release appropriately. Have you been going for any therapies for ADHD? Example, occupational therapy is often recommended for children having ADHD.
    At the same time, there could also be some emotional difficulties that are being manifested as disruptive behavior. We suggest you see a counselor who deals with children. Let the counselor gain a detailed background of the situation and suggest what needs to be done ahead. If there are any psychological difficulties that the child is going through, perhaps play therapy and behavior modification would help.
    We are also sending you an email with some details about the process and fee structure of counseling at Inner Space. Check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in

    Last but not the least, please do not give up hope. Your daughter is probably undergoing a struggle of her own which is making her prone to certain behaviors. We’re sure you are doing all you can to help her…and that is a whole lot! Please do not take credit away from yourself. We are sending you a link to some articles on parenting that could be of some help. Click here to read.

    Warm Regards

  301. My daughter is 6. She meets the criteria of ADHD
    Since her early days of childhood she never showed any emotional attachment to anybody. She has always been an aggressive child. But the condition is becomin worse day by day. She has starting shouting and throwing things at me. She is full of negative aspects and don’t like to gel up with anyone whether family or friends. Please suggest how I deal with her because I have completely given up hope that my daughter will ever love me. If there is any therapy please let me know

  302. Hi Vikram

    Occupational therapy is the best option. If the hyperactivity gets too much then medication can be considered.
    However as children grow older, their hyperactivity is seen to reduce. A great deal of physical play time where the child can move freely will help her regulate her body. We must understand that a child with ADHD finds the regular routines of having to sit in the classroom, pay continuous attention, finish homework within deadlines etc extremely confining. Worry about your child’s ADHD by all means, but don’t forget to feel compassion for her as she struggles with her routines.

    All the best. Take care

  303. vikram Pevekar

    Hi,
    My daughter age year 5.11 month. She meets criteria of ADHD. We are unable to handle her when she gets hyper. We had already started Occupational therapy last from 6-7 month. But we want to know whether their is a permanent solution for this type of behaviour.

  304. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Yashita,
    Unfortunately, we are not aware of any counselor contacts that we can readily share with you. However, you could try inquiring with a few centers and see what possibilities arise.
    All the very best
    Regards

  305. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Vinit,
    You got in touch with us via phone a while ago. Hope the phone call addressed your query.
    🙂
    Take Care.

  306. My niece is in STD 9th.She has lost interest in her studies and we can also see drop in her confidence.She is sometimes careless.Since this year as well as next year is very important for her we are worried how will she handle it.please tell us how we can motivate her and help her out

  307. Dear Rashmi,
    I have finished my counselling and psychotherapy course last year. During our course we were not given any practical experience. i am willing to join some counsellor or psychotherapist under whom i can get some training.. can u suggest me some? or help me out how to go about doing the same
    Thanks

  308. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Devlina,
    An internship or job sounds good. It would help you get some practical experience of child counseling.
    However, I’m not the right person to guide you about places that offer such openings. Maybe you could look online for possible places.
    All the best!

  309. Hi Ms Krishnan,

    I have just graduated from Mumbai University, with a B.A in Psychology. I want to pursue the subject, specifically child psychology and ideally I’d want to do my Masters abroad, after a year.
    I just wanted your opinion on what you think I should do within this year, like an internship or a job, that would help me get a better understanding? And if you know of places that are open to taking interns in this field.

    Thank you!

  310. Malini Krishnan

    Hi Apeksha,
    If you have taken commerce and have keen interest in the field of psychology, one option is that you switch over to arts and pursue graduation in psychology.
    However, give it good thought before you make any decision 🙂

    Wish you the best

  311. Malini Krishnan

    Hi Apeksha,
    Thank you for writing in. Psychiatrists are mental health professionals with a medical background. You would need to complete 12th with Science, then go on to do MBBS and then post graduation in Psychiatry.
    If you wish to be a psychologist, you would need to pursue B.A. in Psychology followed by M.A. in Psychology.

    Hope this helps.
    All the Best!

  312. Im apeksha and I want to be a psychiatrist so can u guide me .. I have jus startd wid my 12 grade can u guide as to wich course should I opt for.

  313. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Shilpa,
    To know more about online counseling, click here
    Also, we’ve sent you an email with some more details. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in in your inbox.
    Thank you for writing in.
    Regards,

  314. Dear mam
    I have read everything about inner space.tell something more about online councelling

  315. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Rajesh,
    Thank you for writing in. We understand how concerned you are about your son.
    Often, when children don’t express themselves, are shy and afraid of mixing with other children and are aggressive towards their family members, we suspect some deeper psychological issues that the child has not been able to resolve.
    We suggest you see a psychologist who deals with children. She would understand the situation in detail, identify what help the child needs and guide you accordingly.

    Feel free to write back if you want more details about child counseling at Inner Space

    Warm Regards

  316. DEAR MADAM,
    MY SON ,VEER 4 YEAR OLD.
    HE IS VERY SHY AND DOES NOT EXPRESS HIS EMOTION.
    WHEN WE ASK ABOUT SCHOOL ACTIVITY HE NEVER REPLY.
    HE CAN`T MIX WITH HIS COSINES & NEIGHBOUR CHILDREN.HE FEEL LIKE HELPLESS & FEARED.WHEN WE SAY TO DO SOMETHING HE NEVER DO,HE BIT OWN`S FAMILY MEMBER WITHOUT ANY REASON,BUT HE NEVER RAISE HIS HAND TO OTHER CHILD EVEN THEY BIT HIM. PLEASE GIVE US SUGETION.

  317. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Rashmi,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. Your son seems to be undergoing some emotional difficulties that he is probably not able to express. When children, or even adults for that matter are very sensitive, it is usually because they do not feel secure enough to keep themselves at a healthy psychological distance from others’ comments and feedback. Are there people in your son’s environment that he connects with? It could be you or his father, or any friend. Even if he starts out by expressing himself openly with one person, it will help the process.
    If you think this would not work, or that he won’t open up to anybody in his present environment, then consider seeing a counselor. A child counselor would be able to understand his issues in greater detail and would gradually be able to help him become less sensitive and more open. There are also psychological tests that help give more insight into emotional issues the child is not able to verbalize. You could check with the counselor about the same.

    Take care and feel free to get back to us with any more queries.

    Regards

  318. My son is 5.5 yrs old. He is very observant, good in studies and obedient. he is playful at home but very shy out of home. He doesnt talks to children of his age group. At school to when all the children are playing he just to walk around alone. At home too, he gets irritated very fast, and is very emotional. he cannot bear anybody at home also talking to him in the slightest of stern voice. he is short-tempered and does not like loud music or any loud sound. pls help in making him more social.

  319. Malini Krishnan

    Dear Riddhi,
    From what you have described, inattention/hyperactivity appears to be a possibility. One way to determine if your child meets the criteria for ADHD is by way of psychological tests. Consult with your doctor about the same. Definitively determining the presence of ADHD will help you decide about intervention with more clarity. Occupational therapy is known to help children with concentration difficulties. You could find out more about the same and accordingly decide what you wish to do.

    Thank you for writing in. Feel free to write back with any more queries.
    Take care

  320. We live in one of the arab countries & my daughter is 4 & half year old.. she has attention problems 7 language difficulties..here the doctor says she is having ADHD & hence she is unable to focus..but she communicates as per her needs.. doesn’t ant to play with me ..pls. help..

  321. Dear Srirangan,
    Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. From what you have written in, it appears like your son is dealing with some underlying emotional difficulties. Children are often unable to voice their feelings clearly. Hence, in order to feel more in control, they sometimes adopt bossy/dominating behaviors, as it helps them feel more powerful. We think some psycho-therapeutic work with the child would be beneficial, because the counselor would be able to gently address and work with both his behavior and the underlying emotional difficulties. We suggest you speak to a mental health professional about the situation. A psychologist/counselor would be able to understand the situation in detail and suggest what needs to be done ahead.
    To contact us to book an appointment/know more about the process of counseling at Inner Space, click here.

  322. My son is 10 yr old and in 4thstd. he is very stubborn and a bit lazy. he never takes initiative in talking to new person but will always have the ‘I am the boss’ kind of attitude towards her friends. Because of this reason even not mingle with friends and is not able to nurture new friendship. Her teacher has also complained about her arrogance. he tries to avoid to say ‘thanks’ and ‘please’. Even if he requests anybody he never speaks in the tone of ordering. he doe not finish his work in time and always find ways to avoid it. Can you help

  323. Dear Harvinder,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. At times, disinterest in studies and difficulty coping with academics can be signs of a deeper psychological/educational problem which needs to be investigated into by way of psychological testing. We have written an email to you. Go through it and get in touch with us if it seems like a suitable plan.
    Thanks

  324. Dear Shubha,
    Thank you for sharing your concerns with us. Arrogance and stubbornness are usually signs that there are deeper emotional difficulties the child is dealing with. She is using arrogance as a way of dealing with her internal difficulties. We think that if the child can be gently understood and guided by a counselor, it would help. Owing to her training, the counselor would be able to understand the child’s internal difficulties and slowly guide the child towards adopting healthy behaviors. We have also written an email to you. Go through it. If you wish to come in to see our psychologist, get in touch with us.
    Thanks and Warm Regards

  325. Hi, My younger brother is 14th years old and is in 7th std. He is good in grasping things but he never complete his notes. All his notebook from the day 1 in school remains blank. We have to complete it on his behalf or we arrange books from his classmates and he complete at home. It seems that he is not interested in studies. Please help.

  326. My daughter is 7 yr old and in III std. She is very stubborn and a bit lazy. She never takes initiative in talking to new person but will always have the ‘I am the boss’ kind of attitude towards her friends. Because of this reason she is losing all her friends and is not able to nurture new friendship. Her teacher has also complained about her arrogance. She tries to avoid to say ‘thanks’ and ‘please’. Even if she requests anybody she speaks in the tone of ordering. She doesnot finish her work in time and always find ways to avoid it. Can you help?

  327. Dear Maumita,
    Thank you for writing in. We would be glad to help you, however, we would need to understand the situation more in detail before we are able to know what seems to be triggering his emotional reaction. We have written an email to you explaining this a little more in detail. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in in your inbox.
    Thanking you,
    Warm Regards

  328. Hello, my son is 6yrs old. sometimes he got very angry on anything. that time he didnt understand what to do, he throws anythings. when asked after sometime he replied that, he is angry not any particular reason. he is very emotional, easily tears comes. sometimes he asked very intellectual questions. good in studies. but i’m very worried about his sudden anger. that time its difficult to control him. i was working before but for him left that also. please help.

  329. Dear Pallavi,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. We understand how difficult and demanding the situation at home would be and we’d be glad to help. We have sent you an email with our impressions and suggestions. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in in your inbox.
    Hope that helps
    Regards

  330. Pallavi Kulkarni

    My son is 16yr old and is in 11th std. Extraordinary brilliant but very lazy and not in fond of studies. He was always good in class due to intelligence and scored 93% in his 10th exam. Everybody is building up expectations from him and now he is detatched with the studies. He is getting 40% marks in all exams in 11th. Its like a roller coaster ride with him. He is best behaved and in good spirits with everybody except both us (his parents). He shows bitterness about his father and is very angree with monther. He actually thinks that we are good for nothing and we dont know anything, cannot resolve his doubts and dont have any knowledge about the world. He ask such questions where we need some study but if we could not answer he says he is not sure how we are educated where as his father is engineer and topper at all levels in his time and I am MBA working in multinational. Providing him money seems to be his birthright for him. He always curses all his school teachers, tution teachers, neighbours and all the times, seems to be seething with anger & frustration, at times behaves violently.

    While I really believe, he is in need of counselling, my husband does not agree with me, says it will pass. I’m at at a fix. Please guide me

  331. Hi Manoj

    At 16 your daughter is probably in a vulnerable growing up space. There appear to be triggers in her environment. Her having features of ADHD only compounds the problem. She would need to be handled with some understanding and a lot of compassion. You could see a therapist who would be able to work with your daughter through some supportive counseling and also help the family to understand the triggers in her environment and deal with her better. All the best 🙂

  332. I have a daughter who is 16yrs old . she is ADHD and is ver aggressive at home .She gets irritaed very fast and has a younger brother who bullies her .she starts throwing evrything when she is bullied, il’s very difficullt to handle. Kindly help us.

  333. Dear Hitesh,
    Sure. We would be glad to help you. You spoke to me earlier this morning and had a brief discussion.
    Sincerely hope to help,
    Warm Regards

  334. Hello Dr.

    My Neice is a typical eight year old interested in whole lot of things.Now as her well wishers;we wish to identify her talent so that we can provide proper training to groom /cultivate and encourage that talent so that she feels 1.happy and 2. Confident in life and 3.Gets the best at it by starting early . Can you help ?

  335. HITESH A. KARNAVAT

    Hello. My son is 7yrs old n in 2nd std. He has a lot of issues with his studies. he seems not at all interested in it. We tried all types of cajoling policies but have failed. He never finishes his notes but is quite intelligent otherwise. We feel he has some issues that need urgent attention.Could you please help

  336. My daughter is 4 years old. She is excellent in her studies. But very stubborn. Very lazy while eating. Doesn’t want to eat at all.
    Her behaiviour is very strange…sometimes she is very kind and generous. But sometimes very rude and does not want to listen at all. Do not pay attention to what mummy or papa says. She is very messy. I always get confused with her strange behaviour. Please help.

  337. Dear Revathi,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing what you are going through with us. We understand how emotionally demanding this situation is, both for your son and for the two of you. We have sent you an email with some initial impressions and details. Please check for an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in in your inbox.
    Take care

  338. My son 17yr old(only kid), is in 12th std. Its like a roller coaster ride with him. He is best behaved and in good spirits with everybody except for his parents. He does not go to college, stopped attending his classes, remains awake through the night either watching anime or playing games in computer, sleeps through the day, communicates only if he needs something, communicates slightly (indulges without anger) with dad, shows bitterness (really angry) with mom most of the times, seems to be seething with anger & frustration, at times behaves violently towards mom.

    He believes that we deprived him of a sibling and at least we should have adopted. While I really believe, he is in need of counselling, my husband does not agree with me, says it will pass. I’m at at a fix. Please guide me

  339. Dear Pravin,
    We understand that you are worried about your daughter. In our opinion, we need to find out why your daughter gets upset in school. Often, there are subtle emotional factors that are playing on the child’s mind, leading to the excessive crying and adjustment difficulties. We have sent you an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in with a few more details. Please check for the same.

  340. Dear Sushma,
    Thank you for writing in. We understand how this situation must feel. Often, it is necessary to understand why the anger and rebellion is arising before we try to deal with or change it. We have sent you an email from info@demo.innerspacetherapy.in with a few more details. Please check for it.
    Regards

  341. my brother is 15 years old. He is very very rebellious towards his family. Whatever he is asked not to do, he would do it. He is under influence of his friends and is involving himself in all the ‘bad’ habits which are not suitable for his age. My parents are really really stressed and worried about him. He doesn’t listen to them at all.Please help

  342. my duaghter studying in Jr. KG..for last 1.5month, she keeps on crying in school and do not concentrate on studies. we asked her about fear to go to school, but did not teold anything.
    her teacher is polite and freindly, there is no family problem also.
    pls help us what to do?

  343. Dear Jayesh,
    Thank you for writing in. We do understand your concerns and hope to help your son. We have sent you an email containing our suggestions and relevant details. Please check for an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in.
    Regards

  344. My son is 6 years old. He is very restless and does not pay attention to things told at class or home. He has got into the habit of telling lies. He forgets his things at school despite repeated instructions. He does not seem to have any emotions and thinks about himself. He is good at studies but does not complete class work .
    Please suggest.

  345. My son is 6 years old. He is very restless in school and has habit of telling lies. He forgets his things at school despite repeated reminders to get them back. Sometimes he is lost in his thoughts. He forgets instructions given to him. He is good at studies. Please suggest.
    Thanks

  346. Dear Reshmi,
    Thank you for writing in and sharing your concerns with us. The birth of another child often brings about a lot of shift in the first child’s psyche, because, suddenly, he is shifted to the position of the ‘elder one’. Sometimes children develop anger/hostility towards the sibling. However, as per what you have mentioned, this doesn’t appear to be the case. Your son’s behavior can stem out of a lot of reasons – a craving for your attention, a wish to be ‘different’ or ‘unique’ from the baby, or a need to be more assertive and convey that he has an opinion of his own. You would need to explore which one of these is likely.
    We suggest you be firm with him as far as discipline is concerned, but also be very gentle and sensitive towards his feelings. For example, allow him to make choices within limits, wherever it is healthy – for example – ‘what do you wish to do today? Option1 or Option2?’. This way, you are allowing him to exercise choice, without compromising on discipline.
    This is what we can suggest at the outset. If you wish to seek professional counseling to explore further, you can contact us. Our details are available here

  347. Hi, this is regarding my 6 yr old son..since the birth of our second child he has changed a lot.He loves his baby sister..I can’t see any jealousy as such infact is very possesive about her but he just wount listen to us …he has become aggressive..stubborn very emotional also…I just cant manage him…plz guide me on how I should handle him…

  348. Dear Ganesh,
    From what you’ve written, it appears that your son’s concentration difficulties are interfering with his academic performance. We’ve sent you an email from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in with more details. Please check for the same.
    Thank you for writing in.
    Regards,

  349. My son is 9yrs and is in 4th std in an international school, he is very hyper, least interested in studies / cannot concentrate / cant focus due to this he is unable to understand the concept of international pattern but at the same time is quite smart and intelligent. Hence need to take your advice and guidance. pl advice

  350. Dear Mr. Balakrishnan,

    Thanks for writing in. It would help to understand his perspective of the situation – why he is unable to focus on studies, whether he finds it difficult, or dis-interesting etc. It would also help to find out whether there are factors in his environment that are interfering with his motivation. Counseling helps explore these possibilities, understand him better and address any issues that come up, so he feels more empowered to take charge of his life. Please send us an email or call us if you wish to seek counseling. We will provide you with more details. Our contact details are available here.

    Regards

  351. Prahalad Balakrishnan

    Doctor,
    My son studying in 11th STD. and he is a below average studant, he is not concentrating on his study, he is a smart boy, but still he is not understanding about his responsibilities, any counselling or psycho therapist could help him to come out of his present attitude? Please help me.
    Regards

  352. Dear Seema,
    We understand that you are concerned about your son. From what you have written in, it seems like your son is experiencing concentration difficulties as well as emotional turmoil, especially suggested by the fact that he complains of stomach ache though a physical examination has not detected any complications. We would be glad to help and have written in to you on your email id with further details. Please check for a mail from info@dev.mulikainfotech.com/innerspacetherapy.in.

    Thanks and Regards

  353. My son is of110 yrs, he is not able to concentrate on studies. Teachers say that if he starts focusing on studies he can do best. While going to school and tuition he complains of stomach ache. All tests relating to stomach like Sonography are done but reports are negative. Kindly help.

  354. Dear Mona,

    We understand that you are concerned about your niece. The more her parents are able to unconditionally demonstrate that they understand your niece, the more she will open up to their views. Adolescence is a difficult period where children demand autonomy. Respecting her space, gently suggesting alternative ways of behaving and being understanding and firm at the same time would help. You could read our blogs on parenting and issues in adolescence (check categories to the right of the page) for more perspectives from our psychologists. Thanks for writing in.

  355. Hi, i am writing to talk about my niece who is 11 years old and is very reballious. She does not listens to her parents and is very difficult to manage. My sister is very stressed as this is a delicate age to slip or shape up. She is doing alls he can to talk to her and make her understand few things like, be obidient, talk to elders with respect etc. But my niece is more in favour of her friends, which am sure we all were in when we were 11. But she is getting difficult to handle and we are stressed about that now. Pl revert, what can we do to ensure that she understands the point of view of her parents and alter her behaviour

  356. My son is 10 years old and is suffering from ADHD. Since I am working, when he is at home, he just watched TV. He doesnt complete his school books and takes no responsibility for studies.

  357. Dear Rashid,

    We would need to identify why your daughter is disinterested in studies. Such disinterest could stem from a variety of factors ranging from developmental/educational issues, emotional difficulties the child is struggling with or even certain environmental factors. Identifying the root of the problem would help your daughter deal with it. If you wish to visit us, contact us on the number provided on the website https://innerspacetherapy.in/contact/
    Please ensure that you book an appointment before you come in, as we work only on an appointment basis.

    Thanks for writing in

  358. Hi, my daughter is 7 yrs and in 2nd std. She has a lot of issues with her studies. she seems not at all interested in it and all types of carrot or stick policies have failed. She is quite intelligent otherwise. We feel she has some mental block. Could you help

  359. My son is of 8 yrs, he is not able to focus on one thing, everybody says that if he starts focusing he can be best in any thing he does. Kindly help.

  360. My kid is in Std. 5th. He is very shy & not much takative like other kids of his age. Aslo not taking any initiave in any activities in the class. Need counseling. Please revert back with your comment.

  361. Hi Ganesh

    You can fill in the contact form on the contact us page or call us at the number provided and book an appointment according to the time that suits you and our availability.

    Thanks and Regards

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