Counseling for Children and Adolescents

Child and Adolescent Counseling aims at providing your young ones with an environment where they can explore their difficulties through age appropriate and holistic approaches.

A Mindfulness &
Self-Awareness Guide
By Sadia Saeed

This book is written with an intention to help children & adolescents adopt perspective and practices to live life joyfully, to initiate valuable learnings from Indian wisdom traditions early in life and to avoid learning unhealthy patterns that will lead to mental health difficulties later.

What Is The Focus of child and adolescent counseling ?

1. Enabling Self Expression :

  • The objective here is to help children and adolescents fully express their needs, worries and anxieties.
  • Puppets, games, colors, make-believe play and story-telling sessions help us build rapport and understand the inner world of children and teens. 
  • This helps us understand important aspects about children and teens such as self-esteem, how loved they feels and how they relate to people around.

2. Understanding Roots of Behaviour:  

  • On the basis of the above, we identify the roots of the problem behaviours. In most cases, the roots lie in unfulfilled emotional needs.
  • This manifests in behaviors ranging from aggression to social isolation and depression, as children and teens do not often have enough resources at their disposal to understand how to deal with negative emotions.
  • The family environment and parent-child relationships are also often conflicted, leading to further emotional pile up in the child.
  • Recognizing these underlying needs is a core step of child and adolescent counselling and helps a great deal in remedying behavioral difficulties. 

3. Modifying Behaviour:

  • In this phase of therapy, we help children and adolescents satisfy their needs in productive ways. Enhancing self-esteem is almost always a core aim here, along with instilling feelings of emotional security.
  • We also work on their  social skills in order to help them deal better with their environment.
  • Often, changes are required in the home environment as well, so as to help the child. Thus, we have periodic sessions with the parents to help them gain more perspective about their child and understand their role in determining their child’s behavior.

Many children today face several stressors at home, school and with peers. At a time when their minds are growing and they are forming impressions of how the world is, it is very important to work on such stressors in order to prevent the formation of long standing emotional and behavioral difficulties.

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Hi Manisha,

Thank you for writing and sharing your concerns with us. With your partner being away and you trying to juggle the responsibilities of home and children must be stressful and overwhelming for you. Speaking to a therapist will surely help you work through your emotional difficulties so that you are in a better space to manage your time productively, both personally and professionally.

If you’d like to speak to one of our therapists please call us on +91 9833985538. Our timings for telephone inquiries are 11am to 7pm, Monday to Saturday.

Warm Regards,
The Inner Space Team

I have two kids and my husband is working on ship so we have to stay away for 5 months and i have to sacrifice my carrier field.
I didn’t had any other option.
Younger one is in 2 nd std and elder son is 11th std.
Big gap between them both.
So I dont to know how to increase giving time to younger son because I am busy with house work and elder son.
I wanted to use my time productively for both kids and for my clients also.How to balance all this in best way.

Manisha Shah.

Hi,

Thank you for writing in and for sharing your concerns with us. We can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. The pandemic hasn’t been an easy experience. We appreciate that you recognize that you and your son are both stressed and wish to do something about it. That’s significant in itself 🙂

From what you have described, it definitely seems like your son is finding it hard to cope. However, like you have mentioned, it’s hard to have a peaceful chat with him when there is pent up emotion and anxiety within you, a feeling that is completely understandable as a parent.

What we can suggest is, consult with a therapist who works with parents for some sessions. Through these sessions, seek support for yourself and work through your own feelings and anxiety. Once you feel better, you will automatically be able to hold space for your son and help him out. Therapy may also help have better insights and clarity as to how to go about helping your son and what he needs.

In our experience, we have repeatedly seen that when the stress between the parent and child come down, the issue becomes much easier to cope with.

Do let us know if there’s anything else we can help you with.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

My son is 9 years old. He is not able to focus on his studies at all. His concentration is extreme poor. We both parents are working. Because of this pandemic, he hates every writing homework and slowly I am feeling he is disliking his studies also. Daily I give him what he needs to do in the daytime but he is never able to complete any task plus he used to forget also a lot of things. In the evening when I sit with him and if I am saying anything or asking anything he always tells me to repeat what I said. When I explain anything he is not able to focus on that. Being a working parent I get very little time to sit with him and take his studies and when he doesn’t do things properly I get very much irritated and every day we end up with shouts and crying which I really don’t want to do.
Can you please help how to tackle this situation.

Dear Vishnu,

It must be quite painful for your daughter to go through this and even difficult for you to see her suffering. Thank you for reaching out to us. We would like to support you both through counseling and for the same, we have e-mailed you our details.

Feel free to call us on 9833985538 for further assistance!

Regards,
The Inner Space Team

Hello,
My 10 year old sister is suffering from horror. Whenever she goes to any where or any room, kitchen, washroom etc. she wants a shelter of parents.
She never goes anywhere without then even in day time.

Dear Pranav,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing the challenges you are experiencing. We would like to support your son through child counseling. We have e-mailed you our details.

Feel free to call us on 9833985538 for further assistance!

Regards,
The Inner Space Team

My son Pranav is week in education, he was good 3 years before but now too many frineds near home always interest in playing. rather study, even Abacus classes he is not showing full interest, or maths very week.. laziness fond of more eating, tell tales some times, or talk with out knowing, need some counseling,
Failure to pay close attention to details having trouble focusing or concentrating on tasks
Forgetful about completing tasks
Seems distracted even when spoken to directly
The tendency to lose things necessary for tasks and activities (books, pens, etc.)
Am bit worried he might need some counseling to set himself correct !! your advise and if any classes or fee required.. Thanks

Dear Natarajan,

Thank you for reaching out.
We can only imagine how difficult this might be for your daughters, your wife and you.
We have sent you an email with details.
We wish you all the best.

regards
Inner Space Team

Hi Team,

Am a father of 2 girl children. One of my daughters loosing interest in studies. Especially to be precise she is getting weak in one of the subjects only. Am not there in my hometown but here in other location where when I had to take care of anything I had to travel for 24 hours by train or I had to fly. Often flying is difficult and getting leaves from office for a week or so is not that easy on a monthly basis. In order to support my kids my father-in-law is there. My wife is working. We are giving headsup and proper counsel every now and then I give suggestions over the phone and her mom gives heart and soul to groom the kids.
Though there is response on the suggestions whereby she improves the moment we advise or suggest her. She is not a dullard but not a brilliant student as well. On the other hand she’s getting weak in her studies but showing interest in seeing the TV and other online stuffs such as some useful drawings etc. When mobile is pulled from their hands both children cries and they right each other always. I have put full stop for the fights by telling them that I will stop speaking with initiator of the fight for one year.

Now my question is about my elder daughter who is 9 year old now. Should we need to go through the counselling through your team or you may suggest some counselling tips and tricks to handle this situation. Let my child study in a normal way. I don’t want to pressurise her but concerned about her loosing concentration. Please suggest.

Hi Purusottam

Thank you for reaching out.
We can only imagine how tough it might be for your child and for you as well.
We will be happy to book an appointment for the consultation session.
We have emailed you the details.
Feel free to call us on 9833985538 if you have any queries.

Take care

regards
Inner Space Team

My daughter at the age of 12 years is not interested in studying attentively. she does not like to have good items but outside food is very attractive to her. she does not pay heed any word of us or others. every day complaint against is coming to us from her school, tuitor. we are trying to realise the situation heart and soul but no improvement. we are in very crisis for our daughter. please give some suggestions for her to be gentle, calm, attentive. please help us.

Hi,
My son shows an aversion towards studies…apart from that he is a normal kid…kindly guide me

Hi Manjula,

Thank you for writing to us. We will be happy to support you and know more from you.
We have sent you the details about counseling via email.

Warm Regards
The Inner Space Team

Hi,

I would like to get in touch with you regarding my child’s problem with respect to studies Could you please provide the necessary details?

Thanks!

Hi Bhuvaneshwari,

Thank you for writing to us. We have emailed you child counseling’s details as requested. Could you please check your inbox.

Take care

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

Need Child counseling please give me a appointment and fee details

Hi Deepa,

Thank you for writing to us. Sometimes as parent it can be quite tough to tackle such issues. We would like to support your child via counselling.
We are sharing with you, some details of the process and fee structure of the same. Kindly check your your email for details.

Warm Regards
The Inner Space Team

Hello, My Son is studying in 9th class. He is not showing much of interest in his studies, as a result he is doing horrible in exam. In fact he got red mark in 1 subject in last half yearly exam. His interest lies in gymnastics & not in study. I am working mother. I feel guilty as i can’t give time to him & his studied. His father always remains out of town due to work. There is general procedure of his school that if the student doesn’t score 75% they deny for 10th admission. I am very worried.

Hi Sumita,

Thank you for reaching out.

We are glad to hear about your younger sister’s recovery. We wish your sister and family all the very best for her recovery.

We are glad that you are seeking help for the concerns that you have. Sometimes it can be quite tough to tackle such issues. We would like to support your 8 year old niece via counselling. Initially, you can book a consultation session with our therapist. Usually, in case of children, the first session is conducted with the parents/close relatives or guardian.

We are sharing with you, some details of the process and fee structure of the same. Kindly check your email for more.
Do take care.

Warm Regards
Pushpendra
The Inner Space Team

My 8-year old niece is quite well-behaved with me. But, when it comes to her parents, especially mom, she shows too much aggressiveness. Her mom (my younger sister) is recovering from stage 2 brain cancer,for which she is not quite active like other ‘normal’ mothers. Though she does beyond her capabilities, but certain things take time. My niece tends to ignore her or talks rudely, and is very much addicted to mobile games. She is also very much attached to our dog and whenever gets the chance, starts playing with him. She feels shy among strangers, forgets to tell about the home work given by teachers and at the last moment asks her parents that techer has told to bring this and that to school. She lacks concentration also, as per her class teacher, and tries to put blame on her friends. She is otherwise a very helpful, jolly, girl. When I try to make her read something, she shows interest, keen on Maths. But rude behavior, telling tales, lack of concentration – causing us great trouble. Please advise what to do.

Hi Sandip,

Thank you for writing to us. We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

Dear Team Inner space,

My name is Sandip kadam, My son is of 4 years old, He is very shy at outside environment like in school, relatives place.

So he not able to respond to teachers, please let me know about help can be provided from your side

Hi Vipul,

Thank you for writing to us. We can imagine how tough it might be for you as a parent.

We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

Warm regards,
The Inner Space Team

Dear Sir/Madam,

My daughter is 5 years old, She is regularly going to school. No complaints from school, but she never tells her mother about the activities carried in school or any homework given by her teacher. We both husband & wife are working. Most of the time I am out of town. Whenever my wife comes from office she starts crying on petty things and starts beating to her mother. If her mother asks her what teacher taught in school she says have you not received whats app msg. She is least bothered about studies. Please help me.

We understand your concerns about your son. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be very overwhelming for teenagers. There may be several reasons underlying your son’s difficulties. To support him, we need to identify his concerns in a deeper light. You could consult a counsellor from our team, to understand ways in which we can support him in managing his concerns adequately.

We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

Dear sir,
My son is 9 yeas old he is unable to write a and the school teachers has advised to meet counsellor but in other things in good what will be the reason

Dear Devarajan,

We understand your concerns about your son. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be very overwhelming for teenagers. There may be several reasons underlying your son’s difficulties. To support him, we need to identify his concerns in a deeper light. You could consult a counsellor from our team, to understand ways in which we can support him in managing his concerns adequately.

We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

My son is studying 9th standard in Kendriya Vidyalaya. He always scores 25% to 30% marks in examinations. He works hard. He studies regularly. When he gets such marks, he is very much pained. But, I never scold or beat him. Every time, I try to analyze why he has failed, but I involve myself in improving him. But, the story repeats. He does not have any abnormalities, except that he stammers. He does have good friends. Please advise me how to make him score at least 60% in all subjects.

Dear Rajashri,

We understand this must be really worrying for you. Having to deal with the difficulties in academics, like a lack of interest, and so on, may be very overwhelming for your son. It can deeply impact his well-being in many ways. There could be many reasons underlying these difficulties. To support him further, we need to identify his concerns and accordingly help him find ways to manage the same adequately. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

Hello, My Son is studying in 9th class. I am noticing that he is loosing interest in study, as a result his doing horrible in exam. In fact he got red mark in 3-4 subject in last half yearly exam.He is very sensitive person. His interest is each & every type of vehicles, food, cricket, cycling & not in study. I am working mother. I felt always guilty as i can’t give time to him & his studied. His father is always remains out of town due to work. There is general procedure of his school that if the student doesn’t score 75% they denies for 10th admission. I am very worried. We have gone through counselling before last 2 years. But there is no improvement in his progress. Please help.

Dear Ekta,

We understand your concerns about your nephew. Having to deal with academic difficulties can be very overwhelming for children. There may be several reasons underlying your nephew’s difficulties. To support your him, we need to identify his concerns in a deeper light. You could consult a counsellor from our team, to understand ways in which we can support him in managing his concerns adequately.

We have sent you an email with the details of booking an appointment. Please check and feel free to get back to us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

Hi My nephew is 13 yr old, He is weak in studies, not able to score minimum marks also, He is putting all the efforts doing studies, but very weak in academic studies. Please guide us in the same regards.

Dear Vaskar,

This must be a difficult time for your child and you. As a parent, it can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand. There could be several reasons why your child is displaying the concerns you mentioned. Often children tend to have varying interests, and so they may display interest in many things apart from academics. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which can show up in terms of academic difficulties, lack of interest in studies, and so on. In some cases, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their ability to perform academically.

To support your child, we need to understand his concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly help him find ways to manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the process and fee structure for the same. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

Hi

My Son is 11 Years now and he is in Class V. He is not naughty at home or out side home when we are around but his class teach keep on complaining that he does not listen to her or do not follow class work, in fact most of time he disturb other child in Class. I am noticing that he is loosing interest in study, as a result his doing horrible in exam. In fact he got red mark in one subject in last half yearly exam. Normally his mother takes care of my son for everythings but he does not listen to my wife, most of time he argues with mom. My wife is little soft and fulfill all his desire as a result his demand is going up but he does fulfill his mother’s expectation. Please help.

Dear Dipak,

We understand that this is a difficult time for you. As parents, it can be very confusing when your child displays behaviours that are hard to understand. Having to deal with boredom and so on can be very overwhelming for your son as well. It can deeply impact his functioning in many ways.

There could be several reasons underlying this concern. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of a lack of interest in studies, and so on. However, in some instances, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their ability to perform in different activities, which makes it hard to sustain interest in the same.

To support your son further, we need to identify his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support your son via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the process and fee structure of counselling. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us for the same.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

My son is at sixth std. not at all interested for study and also not obeying parents from last six months, He is intelligent but not touching any books. .His behaviour towards society is excellent except for his parents.

Dear Mayank,

We understand that this is a difficult time for all of you. Having to deal with behavioural concerns in your child can be overwhelming. There could be several reasons underlying your child’s behaviours. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard to express. These underlying emotions may then show up in terms of aggressive behaviours like hitting and kicking, and so on. However, in some instances, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to understand instructions and behave accordingly.

To support your son further, we need to identify his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details as you requested. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

Hi, my son is 4yrs 9 months now… he is a sweetheart but we have seen a sudden change in his behavior for instance he has started giving back answer to me, my wife and even my parents. Recently also heard some bad words, although I am sure he is small enough to understand the meaning of these words, but just need to put a break on this and want your help in bringing back to what he was… He has also started to kick us if we do not listen or throw anything in hand to make us fulfill his needs. We really care and have tried our best to counsel him various times but as we both are working, we are not able to give him required time. Still we manage to reach home by 7.00 pm and spends as much time as we can. Kindly mail me with your detail counseling along with the fees.

Dear Umesh,

We understand that this is a difficult time for your son. Having to deal with difficulties in academic performance can be very overwhelming. The added pressure of being in the 10th standard can make it hard to cope. All this could cause a lot of anxiety in you as a parent. Counselling as a process could help him and you explore these concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly find ways to manage the same.

We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details as you requested. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

my son in is in 10th standard and very poor & not at all serious in his studies, whenever we ask him about his future planning every time he told us that he want he just want to make his life in football, but by seeing the future of sports in india, i am very much worried for him. what is the fee structure and how to take appointment for teenage councelling ? Kindly help me.

Dear Roopak,

We understand that this is a difficult time for your daughter. Having to deal with difficulties in academic performance, in relationship with peers, and so on can be very overwhelming for children. As a parent, this may cause you a lot of anxiety as well.

There could be several reasons underlying your daughter’s difficulties. Often, children tend to have varying interests, and so may develop interests in areas other than academics. At times, children may experience some emotional difficulties which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotional difficulties could then manifest in terms of reduced interest in studies, difficulty performing academic tasks, and so on. In some cases, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to perform well in studies. To support your daughter further, we need to understand her concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly help her find ways to manage the same.

Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We would like to support your daughter and you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the same. Please go through it and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

My Daughter will be 15 in another 4 months. Since last year she has lost interest in her studies and her grades are going down. when she starts learning 1 page she spend the whole day and still not learning it. The moment she sits for studies either she has to go to washroom, starts feeling thirsty & sleepy. and if that very moment we start gossiping with her she don’t feel like urge of going to washroom , her thirst is quenched and gets fully awake. She had lost interest in friends in fact there is no one in her age group whom she can call friends. For playing i am the only one who plays with her when ever i can. it is not that we force or put preassure her to get the first class grades but do ask her to get atleast above average grades . we try to counsel her that she has to study all the subject atleast till 10th and after that she can choose the subject or course of her chioce. She is losing emotional touch inspite of we are giving her a good time she used to have with us she gets bored of the things very early. i do not know what to do. can you advise and help?

Dear Saatvika,

We understand that this is a difficult time for all of you. Having to deal with difficulties in academic performance can be very overwhelming for your brother. Counselling as a process could help him explore his concerns in a deeper light, and accordingly find ways to manage the same. We would like to support him via counselling. We have sent you an email with some details of the process and fee structure. Please do check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

Hello team,

I have my younger brother who is in 11th standard and doesnt want to study at all. He doesnt even hear to my parents. He is very stubborn. all he wants is playing football all the time. parents are really stressed out because of him. Please revert.

Dear Disha,

Thank you for the kind words!

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

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Dear Deepali,

We understand that this is a worrisome time for you as a parent. It can be very overwhelming when your child is facing academic difficulties. Having to deal with these concerns must be very hard for your son.

There could be several reasons for these difficulties. At times, children may experience some overwhelming emotions which are hard for them to express. These underlying emotional difficulties may then manifest as reduced academic performance, inactivity, aloofness, and so on.

In some instances, children may have genuine difficulties in terms of their capacity to perform academically.

To support your child further, we need to understand his concerns in a greater depth, and accordingly find ways to help him manage the same.

Counselling as a process could help us in this regard. We would like to support you via counselling. We have sent you an email with the details of the the process and fee structure. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

hi,
mera ladka 3.5 years ka hai…. abhi wo Jr. Kg. m hain. par wo studies k naam se hi rona start karta h…Reading m use interest hai… but writing k naam se hi wo rona shuru karta h…Maths writing wo 1 to 50 numbers likhta h. but a, b, c, d likhne k liye wo jara b tayar nahi hota. aur gussa hone p main use kabhi kabhi marti b hu….Pl advise me.

Dear Shashi Kumar,

We understand that this is a difficult time for you. To support you further, we need to get a clearer understanding of your concerns, and accordingly assist you in finding ways to manage the same. Counselling as a process could help in this regard. We have sent you details of the counselling process and fee structure. Please check and feel free to get in touch with us.

Warmly,
The Inner Space Team

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