The Inner Space team conducted a Behavior Modification Workshop for Parents on the 25th of September, 2011, in order to help them with changing their child’s behavior positively. Themes that were found most useful by parents are discussed briefly below:
-PRIORITIZING PROBLEM BEHAVIORS:-
Most children would display multiple behaviors that we would ideally like to change. Right from physical aggression to procrastination, there are a plethora of behaviors we would classify as ‘problem behaviors.’ However, it is difficult for the child to change several facets of behavior, just as it would be for any one of us. To make the modification process effective, we need to prioritize and decide which behavior needs to undergo modification the most. This will make the process easier and more effective for both you and your child.
– MEASURING THE PROBLEM BEHAVIOR –
They say any goal must be defined in measurable terms. The same applies to behavior. Problem behaviors usually include disobedience, physical aggression, aloofness etc. It is very important to measure the problem behavior that is chosen for modification. Does the child hit/bite once a week, once a day or 7 times a day? Having such an estimate helps us clearly understand the severity of the behavior. Moreover, it helps us identify changes accurately once the modification strategies are implemented.
In the Q & A session, an important issue that emerged was, ‘Do our children believe that the world is a safe place to live in?’ From
travelling to dealing with strangers, there are numerous day to day situations where our children need to be careful. However, the way we communicate the same makes a significant difference to the child. In the process of asking our child to take care, we may unknowingly communicate to the child that the world is an unsafe place to live in and that people are not to be trusted. This in turn can instill anxiety in the child, leading to emotional and behavioral difficulties in the child. More about this in a future blog.
For a more detailed description of the framework of the workshop, click here